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[Jet]

I think id have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men;s room.

Originally Posted by Rufusboi

I've been using the men's bathroom for about 9 years now. And it was mostly because of the bad reactions I received in the women's bathroom. I was getting hassled too much, confronted, grabbed, had security called on me (I was in line for the bathroom and the security guard reached and grabbed for me to pull me out of line). I don't have problems in the men's bathroom. Men don't make eye contact. It took me a lot of years to get the nerve up to use the men's bathroom because I thought I would have problems in there and get hurt. Once I finally got the nerve up and learned that men don't even look up, then I started using the men's room exclusively.

I think women are very protective of the bathroom space. As Melissa says, its more of an event in there. Women are talking, changing their kid's diapers, taking their kid's to the bathroom, putting on make up, brushing hair, checking clothes.

Men just pee and leave. I don't use the urinals. Every men's room has a stall with a door and a lock.

Rufus

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by Jet

I think id have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men;s room.

So, does that mean you're going to wait until you have a full beard before you stop using the women's restroom?


Dylan

[Jet]

Originally Posted by Dylan

So, does that mean you're going to wait until you have a full beard before you stop using the women's restroom?


Dylan

I'll never wear a beard

[Rufusboi]

Originally Posted by Jet

I'll never wear a beard

Beard or not you should respect women enough not to invade their private space.

Rufus

[Billy]

Originally Posted by Rufusboi

Beard or not you should respect women enough not to invade their private space.

Rufus

That's what I'm saying ....Why after everything we go through to be seen as MALE , want to go into the womans room .....You can't have it both ways ..

[chefhmboyrd]

Originally Posted by Billy

That's what I'm saying ....Why after everything we go through to be seen as MALE , want to go into the womans room .....You can't have it both ways ..

amen brother billy, you guys need to put on your big boy pull ups and got to the damn men's room where we belong.
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[Jet]

Originally Posted by Rufusboi

Beard or not you should respect women enough not to invade their private space.

Rufus

who says i would invade

[Rufusboi]

Originally Posted by Jet

who says i would invade

The word INVADE means to intrude upon or encroach upon.

If you enter the womens bathroom and you are identifying as male then you are invading.

Rufus

[Logicaly]

As of right now, I do use the womens restroom. However that being said, I have not started T, nor had any surgeries. It is however very akward for me to use the womens restroom, as there are times that I do get looks, or I have been stopped by men, from entering the womens restroom. Once I am more passable, I fully intend to use the mens room.

That being said, I do think that if a person can pass no problem as a male, then they have no business in the womens restroom. I cant imagine why they would want to bring that discomfort onto a total stranger, and I guess for me, since I feel such discomfort already with being in the womens room, that I cant imagine that it wouldnt make someone who is completely passable, extremely uncomfortable in the womens room.

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by Jet

I think id have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men;s room.

We might have gotten the idea you were talking about restrooms and using the women's restroom from this post where you state you'd have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men's room


Dylan

[theoddz]

Originally Posted by Dylan

We might have gotten the idea you were talking about restrooms and using the women's restroom from this post where you state you'd have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men's room


Dylan

I know I'm responding kind of late to this, but I know exactly where Jet's coming from with his remark.

There was a time before I started T and pre chest surgery where I didn't feel very comfy using either gendered restroom. I'd try to either find a unisex bathroom or hold it until I could or I'd hold it until I got to a private restroom. It's a horrible position to be in, but I think all of us have been there at one time.

I think Parker wasn't meaning that he'd "invade a women's restroom" at all. He just doesn't feel comfy using the men's room until he's a little further down the road of physical transitioning. For my part, I completely understand this. It's that "in between" spot that's so difficult.

Oh, and I'm not trying to put words in Parker's mouth. I'm just saying I understand what he meant and this is why.

Theo...on the cell phone.