Respect of Femme Sensabilities

[TenderKnight]

Originally Posted by evolveme

Unrelated to the topic, except kinda not:

Are people generally more offended when they hear/read femmes/feminine people cussin' and a'swearin' than when they hear/read masculine people doing it? How about in the referencing of sex/use of vulgarity, generally?

I just wonder what y'all think.

You know, honestly, I don't care who cusses and makes sexual comments.. We are all human and all over 18 (I assume). I doubt very much if some femme is going to read something a butch or transguy says and faint dead away from shock, falling upon her fainting couch to be saved by a fan and a sniff of smelling salts.. Nor will a butch implode into a shocked shell if a femme says "fuck"..

I *get* the idea that some folks feel the need to act a certain way in front of other people and groups.. I don't get why there needs to be a thread(s) created to teach or couch folks on how to act in "polite" company.

It has been said before, manners and respect are just that.. Using your head and gut to know when a topic or even the TONE of a topic isn't where you'd start flirting or throwing around curse words for no good reason (diffrent from using curse words for impact or to add flaver to a heated post), is something that is learned as you grow up and are socialized as a person.. If someone hasn't learned when to keep thier mouth shut or when and where something is uncalled for, then by god, let them learn here.

The creation of ethical/moral threads irks me. I have my own personal morals and ethics, as we all do.. I don't handle femmes with kid gloves just because they are femmes. God knows, there are some femmes on here that scare me shitless! In a good way, mostly, lol. Do I tangle with them? No, I don't.. There are also some femmes that are softer and I treat them as such..

That being said, the same goes for Butches, Transgender peoples, Lesbains, and Queers.. Hell.. It goes for the whole human race, as far as I'm concerned. People are people.. Some people like to scream and shout, even when they aren't really angry, some people never raise thier voice at all, even when they want to do murder..

My point is, I try to use my best judgement in my interactions with the rest of humanity.. If I cross a line, I own it and try to correct it. If someone steps on my toes, I let them know, or don't, depending on if that person really matters to me in the long run.

That's all I got.. For the record, I don't own kid gloves, but I do own a pair of vampire gloves.. So usually, I just keep them off

-Tony