A friend of Dorothys- how important is community?

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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

I do live where there is some what of a gay community bit for some reason over the years I find I fit less and less within it.When I bought this place there were srveral gay families hear and I have been to a fue of there partys tho not many.I really thing as we age things change,what we expect inlife changes as well.I use to be at the gbar nearly everytime they door opened just to hang out with my community but have long gotten tired of bar mentality,noise ect.We do have a pflag hear but its dosent do very much beond a once a month meeting wich is not well attended.Last year we held a pride event hear for the first time since ive been hear,tho they didnt let on about it till the day before it happened so I wasnt able to attend on such short notice.
I have thought about moveing over the years but know ppl who have done so,what I get from them is that its was ok in the begaining but ended up as solitary as before.For me I will do my best to just visit a fue places then injoy the visits while im there.

I think “connecting” is a little different to “being among”. I don’t think I would be as settled in my new location if I hadn’t made the few b-f friends that I have. Do you think that having signs of a community around you doesn’t make any difference if you aren’t actively involved or if you haven’t formed any ties?