what NOT to do in a relationship.......

dixie · 08-03-2010, 10:31 PM

If you have an issue or a problem, come to me directly. Instead of going behind my back and complaining about whatever it is to whoever you meet, just talk to me about it. I know sometimes this is hard, but it will be easier in the long run. The issue could be something easily fixable or sometimes even just a simple misunderstanding or miscommunication. And please, don't "hint" at it. I am capable of having "duh" moments just like we all sometimes do, so I'm not always quick to pick up the hint. Nothing drives me more nutty than hinting, which can turn to some serious passive aggressiveness if the hints aren't picked up on. I know this. I've been guilty of it myself, numerous times. I still have to stop sometimes and make myself have an open discussion because serious convo can be awkward, embarrassing, painful, etc. It takes time to learn how to communicate and be open with someone, but once you can it tends to make things a whole lot less complicated. It can be enlightening, informative and bring folks closer instead of farther.

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08-03-2010, 10:31 PM	#34
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	If you have an issue or a problem, come to me directly. Instead of going behind my back and complaining about whatever it is to whoever you meet, just talk to me about it. I know sometimes this is hard, but it will be easier in the long run. The issue could be something easily fixable or sometimes even just a simple misunderstanding or miscommunication. And please, don't "hint" at it. I am capable of having "duh" moments just like we all sometimes do, so I'm not always quick to pick up the hint. Nothing drives me more nutty than hinting, which can turn to some serious passive aggressiveness if the hints aren't picked up on. I know this. I've been guilty of it myself, numerous times. I still have to stop sometimes and make myself have an open discussion because serious convo can be awkward, embarrassing, painful, etc. It takes time to learn how to communicate and be open with someone, but once you can it tends to make things a whole lot less complicated. It can be enlightening, informative and bring folks closer instead of farther.