what NOT to do in a relationship.......

[dark_crystal]

Originally Posted by dixielady

Nothing drives me more nutty than hinting, which can turn to some serious passive aggressiveness if the hints aren't picked up on.

OMG so true...hinting brings out counter-passive-aggressiveness in me...b/c when i realize you're hinting at me i automatically get really "dumb"

i do think, however that, for me, it is a good idea to talk a problem over with a trusted friend (or preferably my therapist) before confronting my partner- a lot of the time i need help separating the true issue from whatever fears it triggers in me

[dixie]

Originally Posted by dark_crystal

OMG so true...hinting brings out counter-passive-aggressiveness in me...b/c when i realize you're hinting at me i automatically get really "dumb"

i do think, however that, for me, it is a good idea to talk a problem over with a trusted friend (or preferably my therapist) before confronting my partner- a lot of the time i need help separating the true issue from whatever fears it triggers in me

Oh I agree that talking to a trusted individual is a good idea, because it can help us gain some perspective. I was more referring to the way some folks just throw it out to anyone and everyone. And like I said, I've done it too, so I know firsthand that it can only complicate matters.