Trans Men and Butches Raising Femme Daughters.

[tuffboi29]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

This particular thread is emotional for me so please be patient, it's how we imprint our future women that I think will change the world.

My femme is gender, so with that said your daughter seems to walking towards the feminine *label*. With that said, she's a girl, who will grow up to be either queer, lesbian, straight, bisexual or genderqueer. She's going to have and has a herstory, teach it to her.

Teach her to hold her space, and not let anyone take it from her, teach her she is strong, that her value and worth is unending. Teach her to cook, work on a car, spit and serve a cup of tea. Teach it all to her. Teach her gender doesn't limit you, that you can be the girliest of girls even when you're wearing a pair of sweats and sneakers. Teach her she is beautiful exactly how she is, teach her about healthy sex, choice and that no one should exert themselves over her simply because she was is a *girl*

Teach her that her body is beautiful, teach her to not bow down to sexism or any ism that lessens her value.

Listen to her woes, don't run away when she has a moment of tears, hold her and tell her it will be ok and she will get past it, wipe her tears.

Watch Twilight 590 times because it's spending time with her, let her get glitter on you because not one hug should ever be missed, give her a safe haven always and always tell her how awesome she is. Love her with everything even if she screams of both masculinity within her femininity, always remind her girls can do anything they want at any time.

Don't sit like the old guy at the girl beauty shop, sit in a chair but once in awhile pay her a compliment or smile at her because she will be looking to see if you are interested in her life.

Allow her to be her, even at her pinkest or her darkest of colors, be honest with her never shaming her, be her confidant and base of trust.

Good luck with your daughter.

Wow Lady Snow. I don't think thank you covers it.

My daughter is my life and my world. I remember back to my childhood and all I can do is look at her and scream within myself that what I went through SHE NEVER WILL...not as long as I'm breathing.

When we talk I put myself down to her height and speak to her as an equal.
When she needs my attention I cut off everything to give it to her solely. I allow her to help with almost every household chore from cleaning to cooking because of the pride she gets from a job well done. When she makes a mistake as all human beings do there isn't punishment....there's "lets try this again, I know you can get it if you practice".
I have the utmost respect for her and even when I don't understand what she is trying to get across to me I will sit there until we get it sorted out. (her communicative abilities are behind due to a medical situation)

To cut this short, the reason I had the thought to post this is because of her and my desire to help her grow into the healthy happy who-ever she wishes to be. She seems to be headed down a very soft feminine path. I wish to help her along it by finding out as much as I can to help her along her journey.

And Lady Snow...

If you don't mind I would love to print what you've said and hang it on my fridge as inspiration. That was beautiful.