The Never-Ending Bathroom Debate

[Jess]

I sincerely did not intend for my statement to sound sexist. I am one of those folks who does "get it" that when I walk into a "ladies" room I am often not seen as someone who should be there.

I don't really believe women are innately insecure so that was a very poor choice of words. For that I apologize.

I don't know truly why folks can't just take a piss in whatever bathroom is available. I don't know why they even put signs on the doors. Seems like if a plane travelling for 16 plus hours can only have 2 toilets for 400 or so people can just have a sign for "occupied" or not, why can't all bathrooms?

I offer an apology and I do see where this might have sounded a sexism alarm. Sorry to derail the thread.

[Thinker]

Originally Posted by Jess

Seems like if a plane travelling for 16 plus hours can only have 2 toilets for 400 or so people can just have a sign for "occupied" or not, why can't all bathrooms?

I have wondered the same thing for a long, long time. They can even put a couple of sinks just outside between the two doors for people who are coming in solely to wash their hands. I do that quite a bit when pumping gas.

You walk up and see a little recessed area out of the way. Outside are 2-3 sinks. To the left is a door (similar to an airplane door) that holds a toilet and sink. To the right, the same.

Ta da....

[EnderD_503]

Originally Posted by Thinker

I have wondered the same thing for a long, long time. They can even put a couple of sinks just outside between the two doors for people who are coming in solely to wash their hands. I do that quite a bit when pumping gas.

You walk up and see a little recessed area out of the way. Outside are 2-3 sinks. To the left is a door (similar to an airplane door) that holds a toilet and sink. To the right, the same.

Ta da....

I think this would be a good idea, and you really could make it work. I was thinking that it would be difficult because public washrooms are usually made as such to serve as many people as possible at once (large men's/women's washrooms with multiple stalls vs. one-person washrooms). But then I was thinking that if a more European model was put into place you could probably pull it off.

In Germany and Holland (probably the rest of western Europe as well) washroom stalls aren't like in Canada where there's a huge space under the door and big spaces in between the hinges/wall (always hated that). They're more like the stalls in airplanes where the unit is completely closed off so you can't see out/no one can see in. Completely private.

If you follow that model of stall instead of the typical North American stall which might invite voyeurs etc. there is nothing stopping from having washrooms out in the open without being closed off into male/female washrooms. Just have a series of entirely closed off stalls with an occupied/unoccupied sign like planes/trains without the group of stalls being hidden away in a separate room[s].

This isn't entirely unprecedented either. I did see some similar concepts in some German cities and in Holland: outdoor urinals. Basically, in the middle of a city square or whatnot there would be a cluster of outdoor, plastic urinals (urinals forming a triangular or similar cluster so that the backs of the urinals were facing each other, and walls on the side of each urinal more concealing than normal). This way people didn't need to go into a store or something to use the washroom. Also saw some dixies in town squares without male/female signs.

I really do think this could be done on a larger scale, and would make a lot more sense than hidden gender restricted washrooms. It would also be safer because would-be offenders would not have the luxury of hiding behind walls when entering the washroom of the opposite sex, because there would just be a row of single user dixie-like stalls.

[Linus]

Ender: I do agree but I have to toss a monkey wrench in it: I can pretty much guarantee that even if such washrooms existed here, someone will cry "But women could be raped!" and that would shut down such ideas. As long as the FUDing (Fear, Uncertainty, Doubt) discussions continue, I'd doubt we'd ever see truly gender neutral washrooms on a large scale here in the US. This nation is a nation of causing/propagating FUD. It's what drives so much of it.

And that is the sad part.

[BullDog]

Linus, women do get raped. It's not fear, uncertainty or doubt. So what exactly are you saying?

[Linus]

Originally Posted by BullDog

Linus, women do get raped. It's not fear, uncertainty or doubt. So what exactly are you saying?

Sorry I should have been clearer. I know women get raped. So do men. But to assume that ALL rapes occur in the washroom (as posited by the right wing and such) is hyperbole.

The majority of rape occurs in the home. Since rape is often the reason to keep washrooms gender specific, why not keep homes gender specific?

[BullDog]

OK, well I have never heard of the right wing positing that all rapes occur in the washroom. I do think it's quite clear the right wing doesn't have women's safety as a top priority given what they are trying to get passed through the U.S. Congress right now.

[EnderD_503]

Originally Posted by Linus

Ender: I do agree but I have to toss a monkey wrench in it: I can pretty much guarantee that even if such washrooms existed here, someone will cry "But women could be raped!" and that would shut down such ideas. As long as the FUDing (Fear, Uncertainty, Doubt) discussions continue, I'd doubt we'd ever see truly gender neutral washrooms on a large scale here in the US. This nation is a nation of causing/propagating FUD. It's what drives so much of it.

And that is the sad part.

Linus, actually I think the suggestion I've made might actually solve the problem of women potentially being sexually assaulted in public washrooms. Basically, what I'm suggesting is that instead of bathrooms stalls (such as those found in European nations rather than in North American nations) being placed in separated male/female washrooms, they're not placed in a room behind a door at all. Basically, the washroom remains visible from the outside (have something like this in Europe in those open "pay" washrooms/showers where you put a coin into a slot, go through a turnstile where employees give you a towel if you're showering in a single-person unit or allow you into a row of floor-to-ceiling washroom stalls. The stalls are then solid ceiling-to-floor stalls like in western Europe, with strong bolts/locks that are difficult to break through, and only big enough for one person. Nobody can get into the stall when someone is using it, and once you get out of the stall to wash your hands, you're mostly in public view making it extremly difficult for assault to occur without the establishment's employees/security noticing.

Also, you could actually add security rather easily to a washroom like this. If you've been to Europe then you've probably seen that many washrooms have an employee of an establishment paid specifically to sit in a washroom and collect change from patrons using the washroom/paper towel (depending on where you go). I've actually seen a few bars and clubs in Toronto adopt something similar, making the washroom safer for lone women using the washroom. I think WrongBar has something like that if I remember correctly. You could very easily replace such a position by a makeshift security guard who would promote both public safety and a more environmentally friendly approach (paying small change for paper towel, instead of people using huge gobs of it like they often do).

I wish I could find pictures online of the model I'm talking about, because with this post I realise I've actually seen similar washrooms in Europe that are totally open with a series of closed off stalls, and employees handing out towels to dry your hands or after a shower.

Does what I've written make sense? Not sure if i've explained it well enough.

[morningstar55]

Originally Posted by Jess

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I don't know truly why folks can't just take a piss in whatever bathroom is available. I don't know why they even put signs on the doors. Seems like if a plane travelling for 16 plus hours can only have 2 toilets for 400 or so people can just have a sign for "occupied" or not, why can't all bathrooms?

I offer an apology and I do see where this might have sounded a sexism alarm. Sorry to derail the thread.

cuz i for one ....... would never ever want to share a bathroom , coem out to wash my hands while a man is there holding his dick.. peeking..........
not to mention mens rooms...... always stink........ signs are needed.
now how ever ...... i think they should make more unisex bathrooms.... some wal marts and gas stations have them..... but only for 1 person at a time to use.
just my 2 cents

[morningstar55]

Originally Posted by morningstar55

cuz i for one ....... would never ever want to share a bathroom , coem out to wash my hands while a man is there holding his dick.. peeking..........
not to mention mens rooms...... always stink........ signs are needed.
now how ever ...... i think they should make more unisex bathrooms.... some wal marts and gas stations have them..... but only for 1 person at a time to use.
just my 2 cents

wow did i miss spell some stuff.. haha...... not on purpose i swear. lol
i know i meant to type peeing not peeking. geesh where'd that come from.. lol and come not coem..
ok
driving a truck and stoping at truck stops.. i tend to avoid truck stop buffets.. in fact , maybe shy away from all buffet type places.
i heard stories from other male drivers how they wont do the truck stop buffets cuz they have witness'd men in the mens room going to the bathroom , NOT washing hands then head to the buffets... well *barf* ..
that just makes me ill , thinking about it.