For the T-Femmes and SOFFAs...

[apretty]

i'm not understanding and/or i'm find this post problematic:

Originally Posted by Bit

speaking as a Transensual Femme, of course I am attracted to any Transsexual man, transitioned or not. I am also attracted to the whole spectrum of Transgendered Butches.

any?


If a Transman needs a partner who is also attracted to cismen in order to believe that she will validate him as a man, then I would suggest he would be wise to find someone who was at least bisexual, if not pansexual. It's possible to find both, whether in or out of the Transensual Femme community.

many transsexual men aren't interested in femmes because they're not interested in a B/F relationship, they've transitioned so that their *outside* can match their inside male-since-birth-selves. i don't see a thing wrong with that.



I think, dealing with one's internalized transphobia.


what's that?


these statements about 'majority of stone butches/any butches' wrestling with or even considering gender-re-assignment is hugely problematic for those one million butches that do not/have never/will not transition.

By far the majority of the Stone Butches I have known have had some varying degrees of GID or have identified as male. Most of the Stones I have known--even including some of the female-identified Stone Butches--have really wrestled with whether to transition. Many of them HAVE transitioned, so many that at one point I actually thought there was a link between a Butch being Stone and being Transsexual, as if the one might be a predictor of the other.

these are all common in the Stone community.
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In my personal experience, the most common theme among Butches of all identities is whether or not they should transition. ...but I tell you truly that I have not met many Butches who have not had to wrestle the question to the ground.

I suppose that's at the heart of the definition of Transensual for me: it describes my ability to see you, not as your body, but as YOU, your true self.

Bit, i do read that you love you some trans-men, and that's great for you, but i wonder if you've considered that by making statements about your 'ability to see the transman as he sees himself' in a way that is a unique and special-to-a-stone/t-femme quality that you *other* and (as previously mentioned in this thread,) 'exoticize' loving a person that i propose, isn't such a big amazing deal. i feel this *othering* is, in fact, damaging if we ever want to normalize what it is to be a transexual human: with the focus where it should belong, on the *human*; good and worthy and flawed like the rest of us.