The Internet and the Death of Privacy

betenoire · 09-24-2011, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

I do want to see the bears. And more and more stuff is on FB only. I really should consider it. Now just to come up with a coolio name!

Just nothing that starts with Randy, please. I have English people on my facebook and they will laugh at you.

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Unless you count bete.

Hey, psychology-guy. When you accuse other people of doing the thing that you personally are doing - what is that called?

DapperButch · 09-24-2011, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

Hey, psychology-guy. When you accuse other people of doing the thing that you personally are doing - what is that called?

Projection.

P.S. I don't like you.

P.P.S. Now that I don't like you I have to find someone new to stalk. Thanks a lot!

betenoire · 09-24-2011, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Projection.

P.S. I don't like you.

Shhh, shhh. It's okay Dapper, I know. It's okay. You're gonna be okay.

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

'Cause I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE you!

DapperButch · 09-24-2011, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

Shhh, shhh. It's okay Dapper, I know. It's okay. You're gonna be okay.

girl_dee · 09-25-2011, 06:04 AM

The other day I read a book on Kindle, afterwards it asked if I liked the book or not, I clicked yes.

Couple of days later I log onto Facebook and there it is.. *Dee like (whateverbookitwas)* on Kindle *

GOOD Gods! What if that had been a book I didn't want the world to know I was reading? Luckily it was a safe one!

Facebook knows ALL..

JustJo · 09-25-2011, 06:21 AM

I have deleted my Facebook accounts (both personal and the one I made for "work friends")...and don't miss it at all.

Honestly, the drama factor in my life has decreased, my spam box doesn't fill up as fast, and I regained about an hour of my day every day.

My son is on Facebook, and I'm glad he has all the security that's available locked down tight, but I won't be back on it....ever.

JAGG · 10-13-2011, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

The other day I read a book on Kindle, afterwards it asked if I liked the book or not, I clicked yes.

Couple of days later I log onto Facebook and there it is.. *Dee like (whateverbookitwas)* on Kindle *

GOOD Gods! What if that had been a book I didn't want the world to know I was reading? Luckily it was a safe one!

Facebook knows ALL..

Roflol! Hey Cajun can you give us some examples? We need some clarity on that. Ha

SecretAgentMa'am · 10-13-2011, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

The other day I read a book on Kindle, afterwards it asked if I liked the book or not, I clicked yes.

Couple of days later I log onto Facebook and there it is.. *Dee like (whateverbookitwas)* on Kindle *

GOOD Gods! What if that had been a book I didn't want the world to know I was reading? Luckily it was a safe one!

Facebook knows ALL..

Only if you enter your Facebook info into your Kindle. Your Kindle will only post to Facebook if you tell it to.

Dominique · 10-13-2011, 03:37 PM

I deleted fake book today. I almost never looked at it anymore. I cleaned up the cookies and ran a defrag. Not sure if that helped anything or not.....it made me feel like I was getting facebook cooties off of my laptop. I'll clean up my desk top later.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-11-2012, 01:25 PM

Well... considering I'm a writer and I write autobiographical stuff on sex, relationships, adventures, drugs, exes (no names, nothing identifying), my childhood etc... that can be found in my book and on my blog - I kinda don't have much expectation of privacy. But I made that choice.

Do I care? When I got a letter saying "your book has now been accepted by Barnes&Nobles and WH Smith..." I have to say I blanched a bit. There's some seriously graphic sex I've had in it... then I just thought "fuck it. I write. this is what I write. does it actually affect me if people know I'm multi orgasmic? no. not really." What it does do is leave me open for assholes to take pot shots at me, send me weird emails, call me names (some of the people I know on an english lezzo board HATE me cause I'm very open about sex and talking about it. They think it's boring and I must be mental/seeking attention mental... etc. So I do leave myself open for some pretty venomous asshole remarks, emails, IMs etc. I've had three stalkers and people send me all kinds of weird crap like porn and bizzare requests that I help them have anal sex with their friend. That one was from a girl I had asked out on a date. She found my book, read it then text me and said that she was round her mates and was interested in having anal sex with her but unsure of how to go about it.
I told her "use an oven glove" then blocked her

So being public with private things does bring out the annoying in some people. But the choice I have is to work under a pen name - which I do

- and keep my real last name so when I go into massage therapy, that will remain different.
Plus my name on face book isn't mine.

it's my pen name.

I also have an entirely different name for my other job.

I think it's easier to compartmentalise one's life with different names....

Sachita · 10-11-2012, 02:15 PM

In reference to honeybarbara

I don't walk around hiding and its not about who finds what out about me. Many people know my name, my past, where I live yadda yadda. I honestly don't worry about it. I'm queer, I'm kinky, I'm a lot of things- so what? I work for myself, pay my own bills and if someone doesn't want to do business with me because if it then they can go fuck themselves.

BUT I decide.

I do not want my personal privacy while in my own home, on my PERSONAL PC, to collect data to sell me things. Its kind of freaking knowing my shit is being tracked. I think its wrong to collect this data without asking first.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-11-2012, 03:48 PM

ok... I wasn't really talking about that though... I was just speaking in general about my experiences of "putting myself out there" as a lot of people ARE needing to protect their greater privacy... it's not about shame for many people - they really do have to protect themselves because of their work or because... they just find that info way too personal.

I live in a culture where asking if you are married is considered kinda borderline rude. If I meet someone in a pub, I don't ask what do you do for work, are you married, got any kids... blah blah normal stuff. direct questions of that type are considered rude and personal. I personally have given up on trying to play along cause my brain just can't cope with the tango it has to do in it's head, but I respect their strange notions of what is private.

People need different levels. most people were talking about very tight levels. I was just chipping in what it's like when those security levels are flappin in the breeze

09-25-2011, 06:04 AM	#5
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,821 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	just a tidbit The other day I read a book on Kindle, afterwards it asked if I liked the book or not, I clicked yes. Couple of days later I log onto Facebook and there it is.. Dee like (whateverbookitwas) on Kindle * GOOD Gods! What if that had been a book I didn't want the world to know I was reading? Luckily it was a safe one! Facebook knows ALL..

09-25-2011, 06:21 AM	#6
JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,404 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I have deleted my Facebook accounts (both personal and the one I made for "work friends")...and don't miss it at all. Honestly, the drama factor in my life has decreased, my spam box doesn't fill up as fast, and I regained about an hour of my day every day. My son is on Facebook, and I'm glad he has all the security that's available locked down tight, but I won't be back on it....ever. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters

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10-13-2011, 03:37 PM	#9
Dominique Member How Do You Identify?: Female/Lesbian/half the athlete I used to be Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: Dates Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: So proud to be a Pittsburgher Posts: 1,484 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,645 Thanked 3,728 Times in 1,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I deleted fake book today. I almost never looked at it anymore. I cleaned up the cookies and ran a defrag. Not sure if that helped anything or not.....it made me feel like I was getting facebook cooties off of my laptop. I'll clean up my desk top later.

10-11-2012, 01:25 PM	#10
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,708 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Well... considering I'm a writer and I write autobiographical stuff on sex, relationships, adventures, drugs, exes (no names, nothing identifying), my childhood etc... that can be found in my book and on my blog - I kinda don't have much expectation of privacy. But I made that choice. Do I care? When I got a letter saying "your book has now been accepted by Barnes&Nobles and WH Smith..." I have to say I blanched a bit. There's some seriously graphic sex I've had in it... then I just thought "fuck it. I write. this is what I write. does it actually affect me if people know I'm multi orgasmic? no. not really." What it does do is leave me open for assholes to take pot shots at me, send me weird emails, call me names (some of the people I know on an english lezzo board HATE me cause I'm very open about sex and talking about it. They think it's boring and I must be mental/seeking attention mental... etc. So I do leave myself open for some pretty venomous asshole remarks, emails, IMs etc. I've had three stalkers and people send me all kinds of weird crap like porn and bizzare requests that I help them have anal sex with their friend. That one was from a girl I had asked out on a date. She found my book, read it then text me and said that she was round her mates and was interested in having anal sex with her but unsure of how to go about it. I told her "use an oven glove" then blocked her So being public with private things does bring out the annoying in some people. But the choice I have is to work under a pen name - which I do - and keep my real last name so when I go into massage therapy, that will remain different. Plus my name on face book isn't mine. it's my pen name. I also have an entirely different name for my other job. I think it's easier to compartmentalise one's life with different names....

10-11-2012, 02:15 PM	#11
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,992 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	In reference to honeybarbara I don't walk around hiding and its not about who finds what out about me. Many people know my name, my past, where I live yadda yadda. I honestly don't worry about it. I'm queer, I'm kinky, I'm a lot of things- so what? I work for myself, pay my own bills and if someone doesn't want to do business with me because if it then they can go fuck themselves. BUT I decide. I do not want my personal privacy while in my own home, on my PERSONAL PC, to collect data to sell me things. Its kind of freaking knowing my shit is being tracked. I think its wrong to collect this data without asking first.

10-11-2012, 03:48 PM	#12
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,708 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	ok... I wasn't really talking about that though... I was just speaking in general about my experiences of "putting myself out there" as a lot of people ARE needing to protect their greater privacy... it's not about shame for many people - they really do have to protect themselves because of their work or because... they just find that info way too personal. I live in a culture where asking if you are married is considered kinda borderline rude. If I meet someone in a pub, I don't ask what do you do for work, are you married, got any kids... blah blah normal stuff. direct questions of that type are considered rude and personal. I personally have given up on trying to play along cause my brain just can't cope with the tango it has to do in it's head, but I respect their strange notions of what is private. People need different levels. most people were talking about very tight levels. I was just chipping in what it's like when those security levels are flappin in the breeze