The Internet and the Death of Privacy

Dominique · 09-24-2011, 12:46 PM

[QUOTE=DapperButch;423938]You will see an asterik by your name in the box, but yes you are still invisible and yes your visit does apply to the "count".AH...yes Dapper, when I see my name, I do see the asterick. Very good Super Slueth.

If you don't have a pic up here than they won't know it is you, right? If you want to remain incognito, considering taking yours down.

That is why I don't have a pic up here. Otherwise, I wouldn't feel I could share very much info. due to my work. It is unfortunate b/c I would like to put up pics![/QUOTE] EXACTLY why I don't have a picture. Some day I'll tell you my stalker story. Serious {sic} stuff

DapperButch · 09-24-2011, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Yellow band

[QUOTE=DapperButch;423938]You will see an asterik by your name in the box, but yes you are still invisible and yes your visit does apply to the "count".AH...yes Dapper, when I see my name, I do see the asterick. Very good Super Slueth.

If you don't have a pic up here than they won't know it is you, right? If you want to remain incognito, considering taking yours down.

That is why I don't have a pic up here. Otherwise, I wouldn't feel I could share very much info. due to my work. It is unfortunate b/c I would like to put up pics!

EXACTLY why I don't have a picture. Some day I'll tell you my stalker story. Serious {sic} stuff
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Sorry that happened to you. I have been fortunate enough to never have had to deal with that in real life/here.

Unless you count bete.

betenoire · 09-24-2011, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

I do want to see the bears. And more and more stuff is on FB only. I really should consider it. Now just to come up with a coolio name!

Just nothing that starts with Randy, please. I have English people on my facebook and they will laugh at you.

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Unless you count bete.

Hey, psychology-guy. When you accuse other people of doing the thing that you personally are doing - what is that called?

DapperButch · 09-24-2011, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

Hey, psychology-guy. When you accuse other people of doing the thing that you personally are doing - what is that called?

Projection.

P.S. I don't like you.

P.P.S. Now that I don't like you I have to find someone new to stalk. Thanks a lot!

betenoire · 09-24-2011, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Projection.

P.S. I don't like you.

Shhh, shhh. It's okay Dapper, I know. It's okay. You're gonna be okay.

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

'Cause I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE you!

DapperButch · 09-24-2011, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

Shhh, shhh. It's okay Dapper, I know. It's okay. You're gonna be okay.

girl_dee · 09-25-2011, 06:04 AM

The other day I read a book on Kindle, afterwards it asked if I liked the book or not, I clicked yes.

Couple of days later I log onto Facebook and there it is.. *Dee like (whateverbookitwas)* on Kindle *

GOOD Gods! What if that had been a book I didn't want the world to know I was reading? Luckily it was a safe one!

Facebook knows ALL..

imperfect_cupcake · 10-11-2012, 01:25 PM

Well... considering I'm a writer and I write autobiographical stuff on sex, relationships, adventures, drugs, exes (no names, nothing identifying), my childhood etc... that can be found in my book and on my blog - I kinda don't have much expectation of privacy. But I made that choice.

Do I care? When I got a letter saying "your book has now been accepted by Barnes&Nobles and WH Smith..." I have to say I blanched a bit. There's some seriously graphic sex I've had in it... then I just thought "fuck it. I write. this is what I write. does it actually affect me if people know I'm multi orgasmic? no. not really." What it does do is leave me open for assholes to take pot shots at me, send me weird emails, call me names (some of the people I know on an english lezzo board HATE me cause I'm very open about sex and talking about it. They think it's boring and I must be mental/seeking attention mental... etc. So I do leave myself open for some pretty venomous asshole remarks, emails, IMs etc. I've had three stalkers and people send me all kinds of weird crap like porn and bizzare requests that I help them have anal sex with their friend. That one was from a girl I had asked out on a date. She found my book, read it then text me and said that she was round her mates and was interested in having anal sex with her but unsure of how to go about it.
I told her "use an oven glove" then blocked her

So being public with private things does bring out the annoying in some people. But the choice I have is to work under a pen name - which I do

- and keep my real last name so when I go into massage therapy, that will remain different.
Plus my name on face book isn't mine.

it's my pen name.

I also have an entirely different name for my other job.

I think it's easier to compartmentalise one's life with different names....

09-25-2011, 06:04 AM	#7
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	just a tidbit The other day I read a book on Kindle, afterwards it asked if I liked the book or not, I clicked yes. Couple of days later I log onto Facebook and there it is.. Dee like (whateverbookitwas) on Kindle * GOOD Gods! What if that had been a book I didn't want the world to know I was reading? Luckily it was a safe one! Facebook knows ALL..

09-24-2011, 12:46 PM	#1
Dominique Member How Do You Identify?: Female/Lesbian/half the athlete I used to be Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: Dates Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: So proud to be a Pittsburgher Posts: 1,484 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,645 Thanked 3,730 Times in 1,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	[QUOTE=DapperButch;423938]You will see an asterik by your name in the box, but yes you are still invisible and yes your visit does apply to the "count".AH...yes Dapper, when I see my name, I do see the asterick. Very good Super Slueth. If you don't have a pic up here than they won't know it is you, right? If you want to remain incognito, considering taking yours down. That is why I don't have a pic up here. Otherwise, I wouldn't feel I could share very much info. due to my work. It is unfortunate b/c I would like to put up pics![/QUOTE] EXACTLY why I don't have a picture. Some day I'll tell you my stalker story. Serious {sic} stuff

10-11-2012, 01:25 PM	#8
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Well... considering I'm a writer and I write autobiographical stuff on sex, relationships, adventures, drugs, exes (no names, nothing identifying), my childhood etc... that can be found in my book and on my blog - I kinda don't have much expectation of privacy. But I made that choice. Do I care? When I got a letter saying "your book has now been accepted by Barnes&Nobles and WH Smith..." I have to say I blanched a bit. There's some seriously graphic sex I've had in it... then I just thought "fuck it. I write. this is what I write. does it actually affect me if people know I'm multi orgasmic? no. not really." What it does do is leave me open for assholes to take pot shots at me, send me weird emails, call me names (some of the people I know on an english lezzo board HATE me cause I'm very open about sex and talking about it. They think it's boring and I must be mental/seeking attention mental... etc. So I do leave myself open for some pretty venomous asshole remarks, emails, IMs etc. I've had three stalkers and people send me all kinds of weird crap like porn and bizzare requests that I help them have anal sex with their friend. That one was from a girl I had asked out on a date. She found my book, read it then text me and said that she was round her mates and was interested in having anal sex with her but unsure of how to go about it. I told her "use an oven glove" then blocked her So being public with private things does bring out the annoying in some people. But the choice I have is to work under a pen name - which I do - and keep my real last name so when I go into massage therapy, that will remain different. Plus my name on face book isn't mine. it's my pen name. I also have an entirely different name for my other job. I think it's easier to compartmentalise one's life with different names....