How important is language?

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Originally Posted by Silverseastar

Hello. My question stems from a butch asking me to describe how I viewed them and did they seem like a man.

I'm curious, why would someone ask this question? What would be the appropriate response in this situation? Honesty? Further questions?

In my attempt to describe it I hurt their feelings and it made me feel terrible. I used the terminology of "other gender" not male and not female but masculine energy. I'm looking for more understanding as they won't talk to me about it. Please be gentle with me though!

Also is this a topic best shied away from if it comes up? Meaning is it too personal and sensitive a place for most butches? The ones I have dated in the past were never this sensitive about it so maybe it is about being in the trans spectrum?

Would it have been... good or bad... for them to be seen like a man?

I can't imagine you said anything "bad" enough for them to not be talking to you. Sounds like they were setting you up, if so.

I figure, if someone asks a question like that, then you're free to answer honestly (and best, if gently).

This is an interesting topic in a variety of ways. Can you give more details?