Reactions to Embracing Your Femme(ness)

aishah · 08-31-2012, 11:20 AM

am so grateful for the wisdom that's being shared about accepting/communicating who we are and recognizing that we are enough and that that validation can't/shouldn't come from outside.

i struggle with that a lot, and it's gotten a lot better as i've grown up, and i'm sure i'll continue to come to terms with it more. i think for me it's felt like a slow process (but really looking at it in reality it hasn't been all THAT slow). i'm just of the serenity NOW! mindset

i definitely agree that for me experiencing that validation with my partner in a relationship has been incredibly affirming and helpful along the journey.

spritzerJ · 08-31-2012, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by aishah

am so grateful for the wisdom that's being shared about accepting/communicating who we are and recognizing that we are enough and that that validation can't/shouldn't come from outside.

i struggle with that a lot, and it's gotten a lot better as i've grown up, and i'm sure i'll continue to come to terms with it more. i think for me it's felt like a slow process (but really looking at it in reality it hasn't been all THAT slow). i'm just of the serenity NOW! mindset

i definitely agree that for me experiencing that validation with my partner in a relationship has been incredibly affirming and helpful along the journey.

I am of the mindset that the struggle with worth is okay. I get to be gentle with myself when I struggle with it. My goal is to keep shrinking the interval between when I question my worth and when I remind myself that worth is the given until there is no interval.

You voicing your struggle with worth gives us the chance to challenge and hold a space of love for you. So thank you! Because it is beautiful to see you choose into your worth.

girl_dee · 08-31-2012, 11:35 AM

One of the things we work on, on a daily basis is my reminding myself that i am worthy and enough. i forget stuff easily. i am much better about that.

In the past whenever someone was not happy with me, i felt i was not enough.
Not sexy enough, not thin enough, not femme enough, not rich enough, not pretty enough, not good enough... i've cut, starved, beaten myself up over it my entire life, it feels good to say that i no longer feel like i am broken, or not enough.

Enough, we all are.

The_Lady_Snow · 08-31-2012, 11:38 AM

Proud cuss like a sailor, mistaken for a *lady*, can whoop your ass physically and cerebral kinda Femme...

girl_dee · 08-31-2012, 11:39 AM

hah, indeed! ...

Syr · 08-31-2012, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

One of the things we work on, on a daily basis is my reminding myself that i am worthy and enough. i forget stuff easily. i am much better about that.

In the past whenever someone was not happy with me, i felt i was not enough.
Not sexy enough, not thin enough, not femme enough, not rich enough, not pretty enough, not good enough... i've cut, starved, beaten myself up over it my entire life, it feels good to say that i no longer feel like i am broken, or not enough.

Enough, we all are.

The U joints in the truck need to be changed. I love you exactly as you are. Wouldn't change a thing.....well....perhaps the volume on the snoring

girl_dee · 08-31-2012, 11:42 AM

Thank you!!

Heck i am in the mood to change the Ujoints and maybe pull the motor out of the farm truck, just so i can reinstall it!

NJFemmie · 08-31-2012, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Thank you!!

Heck i am in the mood to change the Ujoints and maybe pull the motor out of the farm truck, just so i can reinstall it!

Woohoo! Can you fix my front floodlight while you're at it? We fixed the passenger side, but the driver's side is a bit tougher to get to ....

girl_dee · 08-31-2012, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by NJFemmie

Woohoo! Can you fix my front floodlight while you're at it? We fixed the passenger side, but the driver's side is a bit tougher to get to ....

you need to crawl UNDER!!! sure i can do that!

spritzerJ · 08-31-2012, 11:45 AM

Whole Worthy Femme learning to claim her space... feeling much much more centered. Thank you for the space to share, be and converse.

Now about that pencil I was looking for... I really don't dare to write in my calendar in pen. I just can not do it. I bet The General has one... but the glitter in her room is so distracting.

Bleu · 08-31-2012, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by spritzerJ

I am of the mindset that the struggle with worth is okay. I get to be gentle with myself when I struggle with it. My goal is to keep shrinking the interval between when I question my worth and when I remind myself that worth is the given until there is no interval.

You voicing your struggle with worth gives us the chance to challenge and hold a space of love for you. So thank you! Because it is beautiful to see you choose into your worth.

I thank you all for the wisdom and support that these posts have brought to me and to so many today. This has been so worth it. I know I feel more worth it than ever myself right now. I can't wait to meet everyone!!! I'm buzzing!
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
xo,
Bleu

08-31-2012, 11:38 AM	#4
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,077 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	Because it's perfect for this thread! Proud cuss like a sailor, mistaken for a lady, can whoop your ass physically and cerebral kinda Femme... __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

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08-31-2012, 11:20 AM	#1
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,442 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	am so grateful for the wisdom that's being shared about accepting/communicating who we are and recognizing that we are enough and that that validation can't/shouldn't come from outside. i struggle with that a lot, and it's gotten a lot better as i've grown up, and i'm sure i'll continue to come to terms with it more. i think for me it's felt like a slow process (but really looking at it in reality it hasn't been all THAT slow). i'm just of the serenity NOW! mindset i definitely agree that for me experiencing that validation with my partner in a relationship has been incredibly affirming and helpful along the journey.

08-31-2012, 11:35 AM	#3
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	One of the things we work on, on a daily basis is my reminding myself that i am worthy and enough. i forget stuff easily. i am much better about that. In the past whenever someone was not happy with me, i felt i was not enough. Not sexy enough, not thin enough, not femme enough, not rich enough, not pretty enough, not good enough... i've cut, starved, beaten myself up over it my entire life, it feels good to say that i no longer feel like i am broken, or not enough. Enough, we all are.

08-31-2012, 11:39 AM	#5
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	hah, indeed! ...

08-31-2012, 11:42 AM	#7
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,831 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Thank you!! Heck i am in the mood to change the Ujoints and maybe pull the motor out of the farm truck, just so i can reinstall it!

08-31-2012, 11:45 AM	#10
spritzerJ Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Queer (gender), female (biological marker) Preferred Pronoun?: she will work as a default. Relationship Status: engaged to jac until 8/10/14 Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Maine Posts: 3,154 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,307 Thanked 15,802 Times in 2,905 Posts Rep Power: 0	Whole Worthy Femme learning to claim her space... feeling much much more centered. Thank you for the space to share, be and converse. Now about that pencil I was looking for... I really don't dare to write in my calendar in pen. I just can not do it. I bet The General has one... but the glitter in her room is so distracting.