Is Marriage for you?

[Okiebug61]

Red and I will celebrate 9yrs in December. We fall into the 24/7 box however. Here is a typical day.

5:45 -I get up and turn on the coffee maker, let 2 of the 5 dogs out. I then sit at the computer and have my cup of coffee reading the news.

6:15-I take a shower and get ready for work.

6:45-Red gets up which is usually a major chore she is not a morning person. I make her a cup of coffee and sit it on her makeup desk. I spend the next 20mins trying to get the 3 amigos to get out of bed and go outside.

7:15-Red is heading out for work. She is a school teacher and works 8:00-5:30. Her commute is 45mins. Two nights a week she does after school daycare which means she gets home around 7-7:30. Then there are those days where there are unscheduled parent teacher meetings and various other last minute things that commonly happen in a school enviroment.

8:00-I work on commission only so I do not have a set time table. If I have a lead I schedule the time myself. My days vary so much that I can not even think of what a real schedule looks like.

6:00-7:00 pm Red usually wonders in around this time. I am here sometimes and sometimes I am on a sales lead. We aren't very good about planning dinner so we usually just figure something out when we both get home.

10:00pm-It's pretty much bed time for the both of us. So during the last 3 hours we haven't really done much but cook dinner, sit down for a few minutes and work on what's happening the next day.

So If we sleep 8 hours and we work 12 hour days that leaves 4 hours a day that we may have time to do something together during the week. Weekends are usually filled with getting ready for the next week.

Red travels alot during the summer and I usually have 2-3 weeks alone time. I have things I do that she doesn't partake in so we feel we have the me time.

To sum it up 24/7 works for us, if we were apart anymore we'd not know much about each other.

[Tony]

Marriage is very definatly for me. Hell, I've done it twice. Lol
I believe in the sanctity of marriage & feel it's the ultimate commitment. Will I marry again? Absolutely. My first marriage was convenient; she was pregnant, needed a father for the baby & I wanted to be a dad. The second, years later, was unadulterated pure love. I learned a lot from my second wife & marriage & continue to grow & evolve. Hopefully 3 will be the charm.
Just my experience & .02.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Okiebug61

Red and I will celebrate 9yrs in December. We fall into the 24/7 box however. Here is a typical day.

5:45 -I get up and turn on the coffee maker, let 2 of the 5 dogs out. I then sit at the computer and have my cup of coffee reading the news.

6:15-I take a shower and get ready for work.

6:45-Red gets up which is usually a major chore she is not a morning person. I make her a cup of coffee and sit it on her makeup desk. I spend the next 20mins trying to get the 3 amigos to get out of bed and go outside.

7:15-Red is heading out for work. She is a school teacher and works 8:00-5:30. Her commute is 45mins. Two nights a week she does after school daycare which means she gets home around 7-7:30. Then there are those days where there are unscheduled parent teacher meetings and various other last minute things that commonly happen in a school enviroment.

8:00-I work on commission only so I do not have a set time table. If I have a lead I schedule the time myself. My days vary so much that I can not even think of what a real schedule looks like.

6:00-7:00 pm Red usually wonders in around this time. I am here sometimes and sometimes I am on a sales lead. We aren't very good about planning dinner so we usually just figure something out when we both get home.

10:00pm-It's pretty much bed time for the both of us. So during the last 3 hours we haven't really done much but cook dinner, sit down for a few minutes and work on what's happening the next day.

So If we sleep 8 hours and we work 12 hour days that leaves 4 hours a day that we may have time to do something together during the week. Weekends are usually filled with getting ready for the next week.

Red travels alot during the summer and I usually have 2-3 weeks alone time. I have things I do that she doesn't partake in so we feel we have the me time.

To sum it up 24/7 works for us, if we were apart anymore we'd not know much about each other.

You two are so awesome! Loved meeting you !

[Mtn]

We are engaged! First time ever for me, and I am very excited about it. We will marry "legally" in Canada, so she can take my name, then we will have another celebration of our commitment here. When we can legally marry in Oregon, we will do that too. I'm a fan. WE are blessed in so many ways. I look forward to the rest of my life with my BEAUTIFUL wife-to-be.

[MsTinkerbelly]

Originally Posted by Mtn

We are engaged! First time ever for me, and I am very excited about it. We will marry "legally" in Canada, so she can take my name, then we will have another celebration of our commitment here. When we can legally marry in Oregon, we will do that too. I'm a fan. WE are blessed in so many ways. I look forward to the rest of my life with my BEAUTIFUL wife-to-be.

Fantastic news!

I wish the very best in life for the both of you.

[Prudence]

Nope. . . .

[twinkletoes]

I personally don't believe in marriage as an institution - I don't feel a piece of paper and a legal recognition of a partnership has anything to do with nor should have anything to do with the love two people share in whatever way or for as long as they choose. However, I do agree with what other people on this thread have said, I feel blessed that should my opinions change at some point in the future I will be able to enjoy the same right as hetereosexual couples have in marrying the woman I love.

[Bard]

I always said I would never ever BUT I met the lovely lady I call my wife and we dated for 3 years before we wed. I can't even think of being with out her we match each other so very well. I wanted to give her everything and the thing that most precious to me ... my last name living in NY we were able to legally marry she was on my benefits even before we got hitched to sum it up I married my best friend and it was the happiest day of my life