Dating other femmes exes: what do you think?

[Medusa]

Originally Posted by June

Pajama is a flirt? NO!

I was posting about the same time Medusa was, and while we don't share a brain, this is something we've talked about a lot after watching people in this community be really shitty and insensitive to each other over pussy and dick.

(All my filters come off on Sunday now because I'm not 49 anymore)

words talked about nothing would stand in the way of her getting to Blue, I get that. And she didn't have to walk over the back of one of her best friends to get there, that's lucky not to have to make that choice.

There are those of us who when faced with a choice like that would choose our close friend. Others wouldn't be able to get their new groove on fast enough and would toss the friendship aside in a heartbeat.

I know people like that. They're not always Femme, either, but they're not my family of choice.

I think this highlights something very important.

I think that we all make relationships, friendship or love ones (or both!), that are based on shared values and expectations. That isn't a complete absolute but I will say that you won't find me having people up in my close orbit who are messy (at least not any longer) in the way of thinking that people are "things" to be taken out and used or tossed aside when the need arises.
Some folks are absolutely ok with that level of messy-type behavior. I'm not one of them.

I'm also not going to form a close bond with someone who I perceive as putting so much importance on sex (or attention-seeking or anything else) that their entire way of being revolves around getting it, at any cost.

Why? Because of that whole "at any cost" thing.