Dating other femmes exes: what do you think?

[The_Lady_Snow]

I'm a micromanager so when I had surgery recently I stopped to think about my property, I'd not had that thought regarding boy of weather and I was like . So we sat down and I made the arrangements I know who I leave him with will love and protect him pretty close to what I do, plus he'd have reinforcements at anytime because I'd ask my family be it chosen or not to please always make sure everything ok. I'm not clutching to my property out of a selfish need, where ever whenever I'll know that if mine need something anything from a hug to a safe place to sleep mine will have it. If mine find another I'll rest better knowing that a good sniffer will guide mine safe. The happiness and safety led me to this decision, I went into surgery knowing everyone in my pack was safe and that I loved them.

As a Sadist I secretly wish I could come back and scare the fuck out of my slaves while in some form of service so they'd fuck it up and either restart or have a lot of explaining to do.

That though may belong in the BDSM zone!

[The_Lady_Snow]

Or maybe the listening thread

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I'm a micromanager so when I had surgery recently I stopped to think about my property, I'd not had that thought regarding boy of weather and I was like . So we sat down and I made the arrangements I know who I leave him with will love and protect him pretty close to what I do, plus he'd have reinforcements at anytime because I'd ask my family be it chosen or not to please always make sure everything ok. I'm not clutching to my property out of a selfish need, where ever whenever I'll know that if mine need something anything from a hug to a safe place to sleep mine will have it. If mine find another I'll rest better knowing that a good sniffer will guide mine safe. The happiness and safety led me to this decision, I went into surgery knowing everyone in my pack was safe and that I loved them.

As a Sadist I secretly wish I could come back and scare the fuck out of my slaves while in some form of service so they'd fuck it up and either restart or have a lot of explaining to do.

That though may belong in the BDSM zone!

Holy heck Snow, this is one of the most impacting posts i've ever read.

[Mike]

Can someone give me the list of who I can date? At this point i think its gotten shorter, I had to scratch off Snow and Weatherboi, Jack and Medusa, June and Kat.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Mike

Can someone give me the list of who I can date? At this point i think its gotten shorter, I had to scratch off Snow and Weatherboi, Jack and Medusa, June and Kat.

I'm ok if you and boy of weather date, he on the other hand may be like



It may have to do with you may not look good in héels and a pencil skirt!

[Mike]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I'm ok if you and boy of weather date, he on the other hand may be like



It may have to do with you may not look good in héels and a pencil skirt!

i know its close to Halloween, but that will never ever happen, but it was the funniest thing I heard all day.
I think we can just go for a drink as buds, all of us.

[Breathless]

In reference to the original thread topic.. for me it comes down to self respect.. I could not bring myself to ever hit on a good friends ex, no matter the time passed. If it was someone that they went on a date with once back in the 80's, that is different, but i would still be respectful of my friend. If it was someone that they were serious about, cried on my shoulder about, not happening. They are off limits. Further to that, I have a personal rule for myself, that I stick to, and it is that i will never sit at a party with my mate and have been with any of their friends. To me, it just lacks class. Yes it happens for some, small circles of friends, our population only being 11% ish.. but id rather be single if that was the only other option. It is not so much femme code for me, as I find it rarely exists in its intended purpose but rather when it suits one party or another. I have found even a few times here that I would be talking to someone, to find out that they are also talking to a friend of mine, and I back off, I just cant do that to my friend.

As to the other topic, I have always jokingly said... after a respectable amount of time has passed.. please by all means, date, find happy, that would make me very happy to know that you are not sitting there alone thinking i would not approve. But .. you now know what happy feels like, dont settle for anything less... and if you start dating while my grave is still warm.. ill curse you to life of shitty sex and haunt your sorry disrespecting ass....

[Greyson]

If I go before Julie, I would hope she take some time to heal and be of sound mind and heart before she opens herself to the next one. She deserves a person that will love her and be a decent partner.

If Julie goes before me, I think I am done. Dating would be okay but no more "partner" love relationships. I will get a dog and live the bachelor life.

[julieisafemme]

I applaud you for this Lady Snow. It is very hard for for people to plan for what might happen if they were to die or become incapacitated. I would hope that Greyson would move on and find love if something were to happen to me (G-d forbid). Taking care of those we love to me means thinking of all enventualities, be it financial, spiritual, emotional or anything else.

I think that I have experienced the hurt of watching someone I loved move on without me. As I age it hurts less and those breakups have brought me to where I am now and that is a very happy place!

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I'm a micromanager so when I had surgery recently I stopped to think about my property, I'd not had that thought regarding boy of weather and I was like . So we sat down and I made the arrangements I know who I leave him with will love and protect him pretty close to what I do, plus he'd have reinforcements at anytime because I'd ask my family be it chosen or not to please always make sure everything ok. I'm not clutching to my property out of a selfish need, where ever whenever I'll know that if mine need something anything from a hug to a safe place to sleep mine will have it. If mine find another I'll rest better knowing that a good sniffer will guide mine safe. The happiness and safety led me to this decision, I went into surgery knowing everyone in my pack was safe and that I loved them.

As a Sadist I secretly wish I could come back and scare the fuck out of my slaves while in some form of service so they'd fuck it up and either restart or have a lot of explaining to do.

That though may belong in the BDSM zone!

[Soft*Silver]

good luck to chrissy if I should die. He may date or fuck or sub to anyone he would chose, but to do so in honor of my love for him. I dont want him out there doing destructive stuff. I want him to be happy and saited and safe.

I am changing my deed to my house. It is going to have him on it as part owner and I am taking my daughter off as the person it goes to if I should die. If you follow my posts you will know why. She would never care for him and would sell the house out from under him and render him homeless if I pass before him. This will not happen if I can help it. I suggest everyone look into property matters NOW for your loved ones...

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Miss_Tia

good luck to chrissy if I should die. He may date or fuck or sub to anyone he would chose, but to do so in honor of my love for him. I dont want him out there doing destructive stuff. I want him to be happy and saited and safe.

I am changing my deed to my house. It is going to have him on it as part owner and I am taking my daughter off as the person it goes to if I should die. If you follow my posts you will know why. She would never care for him and would sell the house out from under him and render him homeless if I pass before him. This will not happen if I can help it. I suggest everyone look into property matters NOW for your loved ones...

I just had to come in here and mention something. When you do break up with someone, don't forget to reassess any beneficiary status they may have regarding your life insurance, retirement accounts, etc. Also when you have any shifts in your relationships that could impact beneficiares, you shold do the same. Don't trust, it is sad, but don't trust that your relative or partner will follow through on your requests. Loss does weird shit to people.

This is what I think about when I think about dying....I think about TF being covered financially. I made sure my sister and TF knew about all accounts and all monies, plus all posessions regarding beneficiaries, prior to my surgery two years ago...even down to who my dog should go to.

To answer the love question, of course I would want her to find a great love.