What TO DO in a relationship.....

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

CIJS here ... bull crap, bull crap, bull crap.

In 56 years I have yet to meet or know a person who is "honest". So don't even start the "be honest" parade. Instead of focusing on others focus on your own actions attitudes expectations beliefs etc. I have learned that people will only expose themselves when they have reached THEIR OWN level of trust and safety with another person. Not when YOU DECIDE they should open themselves up to your scrutiny.

YOU (the collective you) are not judge and jury of the other parties level of comfort safety integrity nor in charge of how they experience their lives or deal with their personal issues.

The only person you have a right to examine for flaws is yourself.

The battle cry for "honesty" is moot in the face of lies we tell and believe about ourselves.

Our only option is to decide whether to believe what we are told.

Ask yourself - Is that a story that could be true?