What do YOU need to feel loved?

Tuff Stuff · 07-24-2015, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by adorable

I have been thinking about this for the last few days. Sometimes I think, we think we know - but do we really? Can we actually say or explain our needs to another person?

What makes YOU feel secure and loved? Is it being able to say nothing and just "be" with that person?

What do you need to feel loved the way that you need to be loved?

Nothing material will make me feel loved.It won't be nothing she said.It won't be nothing she does for me physically.I feel loved when she's right there by me.She can be a thousand and one miles away from me,but I can still feel her right next to me.I can pick up my phone and give her a call and hear her voice.I feel loved when she looks at me and without speaking any words tells me to "fix it" (take action,take the reigns)and I can.

Shystonefem · 07-25-2015, 05:09 AM

Kindness

Surprises (doesn't have to be expensive gifts)

Let me be who I am - don't love me for what you think you can change me into

Emotional and intellectual intimacy

Should have a couple things in common

Treat my family kindly. You don't have to like them but be kind because I love them.

Be secure enough to not get upset when I go out with my friends and I will do the same.

Support my dreams as I would support yours.

Gemme · 07-25-2015, 05:16 AM

petroleum jelly and a snorkel
a stuffed Pooh bear
sushi
singing "I feel pretty....oh so pretty!" in the middle of the street

JDeere · 08-16-2015, 07:16 PM

ATTENTION! I am an attention whore galore. If I give you my time and attention I expect it back in return!

Vivacious1 · 08-19-2015, 06:52 PM

Choccie, lots of it!

JDeere · 08-20-2015, 01:05 AM

I second what Viva said, choccie! And Lots of it too!

Chad · 11-27-2015, 09:44 PM

Being single is hard at times and easy at times. Sometimes I feel all alone in the world but then I remember that I have friends and family.

I have raised kids with different partners but the boys that I raised with my best friend are all mine. Kids by love not blood. When my boys hug me I know that I am loved in a way that I never thought was possible. I am the unlikely parent of two loving and kind grown men.

07-25-2015, 05:16 AM	#3
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,907 Times in 25,665 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	petroleum jelly and a snorkel a stuffed Pooh bear sushi singing "I feel pretty....oh so pretty!" in the middle of the street __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

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JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	ATTENTION! I am an attention whore galore. If I give you my time and attention I expect it back in return! __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

08-19-2015, 06:52 PM	#5
Vivacious1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme Relationship Status: taken Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Louisiana Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 195 Thanked 795 Times in 178 Posts Rep Power: 6042526	I need Choccie, lots of it! __________________ Well behaved women rarely make history ...

08-20-2015, 01:05 AM	#6
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	I second what Viva said, choccie! And Lots of it too! __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

11-27-2015, 09:44 PM	#7
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,311 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Loved Being single is hard at times and easy at times. Sometimes I feel all alone in the world but then I remember that I have friends and family. I have raised kids with different partners but the boys that I raised with my best friend are all mine. Kids by love not blood. When my boys hug me I know that I am loved in a way that I never thought was possible. I am the unlikely parent of two loving and kind grown men.

07-25-2015, 05:09 AM	#2
Shystonefem Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Shy for President Join Date: May 2014 Location: NH Posts: 1,105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,475 Thanked 3,671 Times in 897 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Kindness Surprises (doesn't have to be expensive gifts) Let me be who I am - don't love me for what you think you can change me into Emotional and intellectual intimacy Should have a couple things in common Treat my family kindly. You don't have to like them but be kind because I love them. Be secure enough to not get upset when I go out with my friends and I will do the same. Support my dreams as I would support yours.