What was it about your lover...

Tuff Stuff · 08-13-2015, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Dude

good kisser
confidence
humor
pretty brown eyes
and a sweet neck

my basics for the big love

I'll second that,oh,and she likes to be on top...snaps my spine back into place every time..love ya,baby

Shystonefem · 08-14-2015, 12:23 AM

My initial attraction, most often, was undeniable chemistry. I was always attracted to the person that I either had a crazy spiritual connection or someone that I could totally see just "doing" in the parking lot before even an introduction... (that crazy fantasy thing)..... but that doesn't mean love

Someone who hold my hand just to make sure I don't trip and fall, someone that can hold a conversation, someone who is genuinely interested in how my day was, the person that would be first on my list to call when something really great or even really bad happens. A sense of humor, someone who will dance with me in the middle of the kitchen. An unspoken connection that allows you to just know.

A gooday kisser in mandatory. Lol

Daisy Chain · 08-14-2015, 06:07 AM

Don`t know how I had missed this thread up til now.....? So in answer to..

``` what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart?```

Initially it was the quick and fun banter that we shared and how we laughed at the same things and fell so quickly into step with each other as if we had always been the best of friends....that was a few years ago now.

After that it was time and different situations where time and time again Hys love was unconditional, unassuming and ongoing. Hy never had any expectations of me, never pressurized me in any way, just patiently allowed me space to work through many things always being there for me.

Due to the distance, commitments we both had I, in my infinite wisdom, decided our relationship was bringing more heartache than happiness...given the endless longing and other issues LDR`s present. And so I set Hym free, go and have a life in real time I said, find a Femme who can be in your bed every night, go out and actually do stuff with you etc etc...I was told gently and lovingly that `it would always be me for Hym`. So we had hardly any contact for a long time......

And now, after all that time and my cancer diagnosis...I found Hy was still there for me, waiting patiently as ever, loving me and making me laugh.
Hy is content to enjoy what we have, Hy has taught me so much and taken the restless analyzing from my outlook. And so I can answer the question...that Hys unconditional love, strength and patience ultimately won my heart. I am blessed to have Hys love.....I finally understand that was all I ever needed.

Karysma · 08-14-2015, 06:35 AM

We know what love is but tell us... what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart?

Hmm.. well. I have been thinking a lot lately about the nature of attraction because the saying is that the qualities that attracted you to your partner initially are the ones that you will come to resent the most in them. Probably because if they attracted you then they could attract someone else?

With my spouse-ish I think it was that conversation came so easily to her. She was larger than life and funny. She was focused on me - and interested in me - and enjoyed talking to me. We had deep conversations... and I think that bonded us in a way. We spent hours talking about nothing too...

It was an intense time!

Shortly following that it was her insistence that I was the one for her. She proposed within 6 months even though we were long distance for 2yrs. She fostered a feeling in me that I was the most beautiful and desirable person on the planet. I had a faith in her love that I didn't think could ever be shaken. I loved that she made me feel safe in her love and that there wasn't anything I could do to change it.

Of course that was a long time ago... lol!

puddin' · 08-15-2015, 02:23 AM

We know what love is but tell us... what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart?

her humour, smile, eyes, gift for gab, wantin' to play games, her mind, her 2 children who became mine.

and then not so much when she was wit' someone else same time she was wit' me.

bitter much, damn straight... 6 years together gone jus' like that.

JDeere · 08-16-2015, 07:14 PM

Her smile
The way she kisses
Her don't take any shit attitude
She is a hustler, works her ass off just to pay the bills!

08-14-2015, 06:35 AM	#4
Karysma Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she,her Relationship Status: Post Apocolyptic Join Date: Jul 2015 Location: Atlanta Posts: 172 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 850 Thanked 769 Times in 148 Posts Rep Power: 13174978	We know what love is but tell us... what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart? Hmm.. well. I have been thinking a lot lately about the nature of attraction because the saying is that the qualities that attracted you to your partner initially are the ones that you will come to resent the most in them. Probably because if they attracted you then they could attract someone else? With my spouse-ish I think it was that conversation came so easily to her. She was larger than life and funny. She was focused on me - and interested in me - and enjoyed talking to me. We had deep conversations... and I think that bonded us in a way. We spent hours talking about nothing too... It was an intense time! Shortly following that it was her insistence that I was the one for her. She proposed within 6 months even though we were long distance for 2yrs. She fostered a feeling in me that I was the most beautiful and desirable person on the planet. I had a faith in her love that I didn't think could ever be shaken. I loved that she made me feel safe in her love and that there wasn't anything I could do to change it. Of course that was a long time ago... lol! __________________ Karysma

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08-14-2015, 12:23 AM	#2
Shystonefem Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Shy for President Join Date: May 2014 Location: NH Posts: 1,105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,475 Thanked 3,671 Times in 897 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	My initial attraction, most often, was undeniable chemistry. I was always attracted to the person that I either had a crazy spiritual connection or someone that I could totally see just "doing" in the parking lot before even an introduction... (that crazy fantasy thing)..... but that doesn't mean love Someone who hold my hand just to make sure I don't trip and fall, someone that can hold a conversation, someone who is genuinely interested in how my day was, the person that would be first on my list to call when something really great or even really bad happens. A sense of humor, someone who will dance with me in the middle of the kitchen. An unspoken connection that allows you to just know. A gooday kisser in mandatory. Lol

08-14-2015, 06:07 AM	#3
Daisy Chain Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Hy calls me Hys Kitten Join Date: May 2015 Location: 2nd star to the right and straight on til morning Posts: 729 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,814 Thanked 1,809 Times in 447 Posts Rep Power: 0	Don`t know how I had missed this thread up til now.....? So in answer to.. ``` what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart?``` Initially it was the quick and fun banter that we shared and how we laughed at the same things and fell so quickly into step with each other as if we had always been the best of friends....that was a few years ago now. After that it was time and different situations where time and time again Hys love was unconditional, unassuming and ongoing. Hy never had any expectations of me, never pressurized me in any way, just patiently allowed me space to work through many things always being there for me. Due to the distance, commitments we both had I, in my infinite wisdom, decided our relationship was bringing more heartache than happiness...given the endless longing and other issues LDR`s present. And so I set Hym free, go and have a life in real time I said, find a Femme who can be in your bed every night, go out and actually do stuff with you etc etc...I was told gently and lovingly that `it would always be me for Hym`. So we had hardly any contact for a long time...... And now, after all that time and my cancer diagnosis...I found Hy was still there for me, waiting patiently as ever, loving me and making me laugh. Hy is content to enjoy what we have, Hy has taught me so much and taken the restless analyzing from my outlook. And so I can answer the question...that Hys unconditional love, strength and patience ultimately won my heart. I am blessed to have Hys love.....I finally understand that was all I ever needed.