What do YOU need to feel loved?

JDeere · 08-16-2015, 07:16 PM

ATTENTION! I am an attention whore galore. If I give you my time and attention I expect it back in return!

Vivacious1 · 08-19-2015, 06:52 PM

Choccie, lots of it!

JDeere · 08-20-2015, 01:05 AM

I second what Viva said, choccie! And Lots of it too!

Chad · 11-27-2015, 09:44 PM

Being single is hard at times and easy at times. Sometimes I feel all alone in the world but then I remember that I have friends and family.

I have raised kids with different partners but the boys that I raised with my best friend are all mine. Kids by love not blood. When my boys hug me I know that I am loved in a way that I never thought was possible. I am the unlikely parent of two loving and kind grown men.

JDeere · 12-06-2015, 11:46 PM

Sometimes I just need a bit of reassurance.

imperfect_cupcake · 12-07-2015, 12:49 AM

My friends, my family, a kitty, a career that I love has made the biggest difference in my life ever. I get people I can help with pain, I touch people I helpful, non-hurtful, non-sexual ways all day - for many it's the first time they have experienced that. I love introducing people to new touch, especially if they have difficulty with touch. I know how much it can change brain chemistry, and I think it's important. As someone who was trained as a primatologist, I know how important touch is to our functioning as primates. Our brain chemistry changes for the better even when we think we don't need it, so getting a very good, well trained massage (non-invasive) eases stresses when we don't have regular touch in our lives.

The care I can bring my patients and the respect I get back I can't tell you much that matters in my life. I used to suffer from depression, stress, feeling like I wasn't any use or that I wasn't good enough... Became codependent in relationship by tiring myself out trying to be useful to others and killing myself in the process, trying to get praise and a sense of value. Work certainly didn't give it to me - bosses and line mangers were awful, when I worked in service industry customers were rude and sometimes down right cruel.

Now I work with people who are genuinely interested in what I can do to help. And actually doing something that stops pain by adjusting their bodies is better than an orgasm.

So it affects how I feel in myself and how I feel with others. I still need cuddles from my friends, from my cat. I still need intimacy from my friends. But I'm way, way more happy single now and feel loved and appreciated and I'm not killing myself for someone anymore. My patience for bullshit is zero as well, because I know how easy it is to be single. Frankly, it's easier lol.

I've got a good family and good friends and an amazing career. Broke as fuck, mind. But I have my rent and bills paid and I can eat. So, I'm ok.

I do feel loved. I also feel I can take care of myself and it's not hard. Not a struggle.

Bubala · 12-07-2015, 10:26 PM

Just a little bit of time...

I'm independent. I'm a career woman. I'm intelligent and decently well educated. I'm a realist, I stand with my heels firmly on the ground. I can hold my own in the big boys business world out there. I take no BS and I do not back down.

Then again at the end of the day, when corporate lights go down, and our daily masks start to peal off, I make my way home. At the end of the day I am just a girl... I am a full blooded woman... I need you...

Pay attention, miss me....tell me that you've missed me... show me that you've noticed... Make me laugh, make me giggle like a little girl. Only you can make me giggle like that. Only you know the silly, crazy, stupid, childish side of me.

Talk to me, arouse my mind... calm my thoughts... Hold me like a child, hold me life a woman. Wrap your gorgeous hands around my waist and pull me in, closer, closer.... I want to hear your loud foreceful heartbeat. I want to inhale your scent. Disarm me with you gentle strength. Make me feel like a woman... I want to be loved, I want to be safe and protected, I want to be yours...your and no one else's. I want to be your girl, I want to be your lover, I want to be all woman for you...

That all... all I need to feel loved is just a little time...miss me, let me know you've noticed...Let me know you still care...

08-16-2015, 07:16 PM	#1
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	ATTENTION! I am an attention whore galore. If I give you my time and attention I expect it back in return! __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

08-19-2015, 06:52 PM	#2
Vivacious1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme Relationship Status: taken Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Louisiana Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 195 Thanked 795 Times in 178 Posts Rep Power: 6042526	I need Choccie, lots of it! __________________ Well behaved women rarely make history ...

08-20-2015, 01:05 AM	#3
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	I second what Viva said, choccie! And Lots of it too! __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

11-27-2015, 09:44 PM	#4
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,311 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Loved Being single is hard at times and easy at times. Sometimes I feel all alone in the world but then I remember that I have friends and family. I have raised kids with different partners but the boys that I raised with my best friend are all mine. Kids by love not blood. When my boys hug me I know that I am loved in a way that I never thought was possible. I am the unlikely parent of two loving and kind grown men.

12-06-2015, 11:46 PM	#5
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Sometimes I just need a bit of reassurance.

12-07-2015, 12:49 AM	#6
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	My friends, my family, a kitty, a career that I love has made the biggest difference in my life ever. I get people I can help with pain, I touch people I helpful, non-hurtful, non-sexual ways all day - for many it's the first time they have experienced that. I love introducing people to new touch, especially if they have difficulty with touch. I know how much it can change brain chemistry, and I think it's important. As someone who was trained as a primatologist, I know how important touch is to our functioning as primates. Our brain chemistry changes for the better even when we think we don't need it, so getting a very good, well trained massage (non-invasive) eases stresses when we don't have regular touch in our lives. The care I can bring my patients and the respect I get back I can't tell you much that matters in my life. I used to suffer from depression, stress, feeling like I wasn't any use or that I wasn't good enough... Became codependent in relationship by tiring myself out trying to be useful to others and killing myself in the process, trying to get praise and a sense of value. Work certainly didn't give it to me - bosses and line mangers were awful, when I worked in service industry customers were rude and sometimes down right cruel. Now I work with people who are genuinely interested in what I can do to help. And actually doing something that stops pain by adjusting their bodies is better than an orgasm. So it affects how I feel in myself and how I feel with others. I still need cuddles from my friends, from my cat. I still need intimacy from my friends. But I'm way, way more happy single now and feel loved and appreciated and I'm not killing myself for someone anymore. My patience for bullshit is zero as well, because I know how easy it is to be single. Frankly, it's easier lol. I've got a good family and good friends and an amazing career. Broke as fuck, mind. But I have my rent and bills paid and I can eat. So, I'm ok. I do feel loved. I also feel I can take care of myself and it's not hard. Not a struggle.

12-07-2015, 10:26 PM	#7
Bubala Member How Do You Identify?: Lady Sunflower Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: San Fran Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 463 Thanked 1,671 Times in 615 Posts Rep Power: 9338277	Just a little bit of time... I'm independent. I'm a career woman. I'm intelligent and decently well educated. I'm a realist, I stand with my heels firmly on the ground. I can hold my own in the big boys business world out there. I take no BS and I do not back down. Then again at the end of the day, when corporate lights go down, and our daily masks start to peal off, I make my way home. At the end of the day I am just a girl... I am a full blooded woman... I need you... Pay attention, miss me....tell me that you've missed me... show me that you've noticed... Make me laugh, make me giggle like a little girl. Only you can make me giggle like that. Only you know the silly, crazy, stupid, childish side of me. Talk to me, arouse my mind... calm my thoughts... Hold me like a child, hold me life a woman. Wrap your gorgeous hands around my waist and pull me in, closer, closer.... I want to hear your loud foreceful heartbeat. I want to inhale your scent. Disarm me with you gentle strength. Make me feel like a woman... I want to be loved, I want to be safe and protected, I want to be yours...your and no one else's. I want to be your girl, I want to be your lover, I want to be all woman for you... That all... all I need to feel loved is just a little time...miss me, let me know you've noticed...Let me know you still care...