Where do I meet potential dates??

Rockinonahigh · 08-22-2015, 10:48 PM

If anyone figures this out please post, I gave it up years ago.

imperfect_cupcake · 08-23-2015, 11:08 AM

I have put up a rather helpful post

Also, face book offers a bajillion groups to join. I've personally joined about 12 different local social meet up and event groups, 6 of which are dyke-queer focus, so I can have conversation with locals, know of local events within reach and when they happen. Most of these things are not advertised in papers or postered or fliers handed out. People don't do that much anymore - the way they advertise groups and events is through social media.

So joining facebook groups has been really helpful.

I type in search words and find a group to join that local and dyke. Then I look on the members list for someone who looks butch- then go to their page and look up all of their social groups because they might have some great groups I don't know about. I read about those groups, join the ones I like the sound of and repeat the process.

That way I find out a) where the butches and queers are actually going b) seeing where the femmes and girlies are going too. I found a couple femme friendship nights because of this.

It does take some research and a steep learning curve, and time, but if one is willing to try, it's great to learn the new ways social groups are coming together.

Hominid · 08-23-2015, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

I have put up a rather helpful post

Also, face book offers a bajillion groups to join. I've personally joined about 12 different local social meet up and event groups, 6 of which are dyke-queer focus, so I can have conversation with locals, know of local events within reach and when they happen. Most of these things are not advertised in papers or postered or fliers handed out. People don't do that much anymore - the way they advertise groups and events is through social media.

So joining facebook groups has been really helpful.

I type in search words and find a group to join that local and dyke. Then I look on the members list for someone who looks butch- then go to their page and look up all of their social groups because they might have some great groups I don't know about. I read about those groups, join the ones I like the sound of and repeat the process.

That way I find out a) where the butches and queers are actually going b) seeing where the femmes and girlies are going too. I found a couple femme friendship nights because of this.

It does take some research and a steep learning curve, and time, but if one is willing to try, it's great to learn the new ways social groups are coming together.

That's a great idea also! But ... my FB page is mostly work connections (okay, and I have no social life) - and most don't know I'm trans, so I don't want to join things that are queer (no shame, I don't go out of my way to hide it, but it's kind of private as well). I'll bet there is a privacy setting that will disallow others from seeing my groups - have to check that out.

imperfect_cupcake · 08-23-2015, 03:16 PM

There is also having a FB page that is your own. I do that. There is my career facebook page which has my real name, and my private life facebook page which is not my real name and shows *nothing* publicly. Solves everything.

Kelt · 08-24-2015, 07:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

I have put up a rather helpful post

Also, face book offers a bajillion groups to join. I've personally joined about 12 different local social meet up and event groups, 6 of which are dyke-queer focus, so I can have conversation with locals, know of local events within reach and when they happen. Most of these things are not advertised in papers or postered or fliers handed out. People don't do that much anymore - the way they advertise groups and events is through social media.

So joining facebook groups has been really helpful.

I type in search words and find a group to join that local and dyke. Then I look on the members list for someone who looks butch- then go to their page and look up all of their social groups because they might have some great groups I don't know about. I read about those groups, join the ones I like the sound of and repeat the process.

That way I find out a) where the butches and queers are actually going b) seeing where the femmes and girlies are going too. I found a couple femme friendship nights because of this.

It does take some research and a steep learning curve, and time, but if one is willing to try, it's great to learn the new ways social groups are coming together.

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

There is also having a FB page that is your own. I do that. There is my career facebook page which has my real name, and my private life facebook page which is not my real name and shows *nothing* publicly. Solves everything.

This raises a question with me. I'm well aware of how social media and particularly facebook are now pretty much the default way that events, especially for sub-cultures, are promoted. I'm not on facebook nor am I comfortable with putting my real name out there to be snagged by random searches from distant relatives or old school acquaintances. Never mind the glaring security issues (as I see it).

I *think* I would enjoy participating in some of the groups I've seen mentioned on other sites and also to have better access to the local scene. My question then, since I've never been on it, is how do you go about setting up an alias? I was under the impression that an alias is somehow routed out or proof was required.

Yes, I live under a rock.

cinnamongrrl · 08-24-2015, 07:50 PM

my gram said I should meet someone at church or in a library....neither has ever happened....

Tuff Stuff · 08-24-2015, 09:08 PM

I met someone at a campmeeting last month,we hit it off and we had a one-time fling...so yes,for me,just simply going to church I can find a date.
I tried on-line dating once and I got so many damn hits it was scary.Lesbian hangouts are great for a quickie,but sometimes I like the thrill of the chase before a fast fuck...playing hard to get housewives are kind of a turn-on these days.

A date to me equals sex...no matter how many dates it takes to get there.

Since where on the subject of dating and getting lucky,I respect Femmes on a whole different level than your average horny,neglected housewife.

I would rather a Femme use my body up and then throw me to the curb afterwards.

Chad · 12-05-2015, 06:01 PM

Bump Bump Bump!

08-24-2015, 07:50 PM	#6
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08-22-2015, 10:48 PM	#1
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08-23-2015, 11:08 AM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have put up a rather helpful post Also, face book offers a bajillion groups to join. I've personally joined about 12 different local social meet up and event groups, 6 of which are dyke-queer focus, so I can have conversation with locals, know of local events within reach and when they happen. Most of these things are not advertised in papers or postered or fliers handed out. People don't do that much anymore - the way they advertise groups and events is through social media. So joining facebook groups has been really helpful. I type in search words and find a group to join that local and dyke. Then I look on the members list for someone who looks butch- then go to their page and look up all of their social groups because they might have some great groups I don't know about. I read about those groups, join the ones I like the sound of and repeat the process. That way I find out a) where the butches and queers are actually going b) seeing where the femmes and girlies are going too. I found a couple femme friendship nights because of this. It does take some research and a steep learning curve, and time, but if one is willing to try, it's great to learn the new ways social groups are coming together.

08-23-2015, 03:16 PM	#4
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	There is also having a FB page that is your own. I do that. There is my career facebook page which has my real name, and my private life facebook page which is not my real name and shows nothing publicly. Solves everything.

08-24-2015, 09:08 PM	#7
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	I met someone at a campmeeting last month,we hit it off and we had a one-time fling...so yes,for me,just simply going to church I can find a date. I tried on-line dating once and I got so many damn hits it was scary.Lesbian hangouts are great for a quickie,but sometimes I like the thrill of the chase before a fast fuck...playing hard to get housewives are kind of a turn-on these days. A date to me equals sex...no matter how many dates it takes to get there. Since where on the subject of dating and getting lucky,I respect Femmes on a whole different level than your average horny,neglected housewife. I would rather a Femme use my body up and then throw me to the curb afterwards.