whats your style

imperfect_cupcake · 09-24-2015, 01:17 AM

Hmn. Hard. Dominant personality mixed with submissive sexuality. I like being pursued but will make it real clear if someone is pushing too hard. I prefer relaxed, easy going, genuine interest, rather than being chased. I like mild initiation and patience.
I react very poorly to being pushed.
But I'm pretty independent. I'm not a single tackle kind of gal. I won't initiate contact. I've learned not to. I've had so many bad experiences with initiating contact that it will take me months of interaction for me to initiate for a change. I've learned that if *I* initiate, people lose interest. They've succeeded. They have won. And they lose interest. So I have to trust the person isn't like that before I try.
I may be open and frank about who I am, what I think, but I'm emotionally reserved. So it does take patience. And it will take months, not weeks, to get me to emotionally respond in a deeper way.
I saw someone recently bitching that someone she was dating hadn't committed after three months and should she drop her and go for someone else who had expressed interest. The butch is my age. These are the reasons I don't commit quickly. People like that.

So it's not hunting me... It's hand feeding something feral till it trusts enough to stay longer and longer in your presence and I decide to stay. They loyalty payback is massive, but heaps of patience needed.

Daisy Chain · 09-24-2015, 02:09 AM

I could never be the hunter, ever. I dont have that type of confidence. And to be honest if someone was to choose to pursue me, not that I`m available but if I was, they would have to be prepared to play a very long and patient game. I woudnt want to be wooed and romanced, Hy would just have to be there, be around, let me observe, who Hy was, how Hy was and how Hy conducted hymself, then maybe I would allow myself to be pursued.

I myself, love people, I like to chat, interact, share and learn. Have a little fun. I think sometimes my friendliness can be misinterpreted as the wrong type of interest in a person. HHmm..thats something I need to be more aware of.

Daisy

Tuff Stuff · 09-25-2015, 01:56 AM

It would be a great honor if I were persued by either one of you..just saying.

akiza · 05-30-2017, 03:34 AM

definitively a prey ^^ but not an easy one

homoe · 05-30-2017, 07:16 AM

The Hunter albeit a shy one!

Stone-Butch · 05-30-2017, 11:35 AM

I flirt a lot but I rarely pursue at first. If the woman lets me know she is interested then I do pursue (gently). Always a gentlewoman with the ladies and most appreciate that.

introverted1 · 05-30-2017, 04:51 PM

I have been the initiator in nearly every relationship I have had. I'm an introvert with a shy streak, but I always have to be the initiator.

05-30-2017, 11:35 AM	#6
Stone-Butch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 3,640 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,261 Thanked 9,314 Times in 3,013 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	style I flirt a lot but I rarely pursue at first. If the woman lets me know she is interested then I do pursue (gently). Always a gentlewoman with the ladies and most appreciate that.

09-24-2015, 01:17 AM	#1
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hmn. Hard. Dominant personality mixed with submissive sexuality. I like being pursued but will make it real clear if someone is pushing too hard. I prefer relaxed, easy going, genuine interest, rather than being chased. I like mild initiation and patience. I react very poorly to being pushed. But I'm pretty independent. I'm not a single tackle kind of gal. I won't initiate contact. I've learned not to. I've had so many bad experiences with initiating contact that it will take me months of interaction for me to initiate for a change. I've learned that if I initiate, people lose interest. They've succeeded. They have won. And they lose interest. So I have to trust the person isn't like that before I try. I may be open and frank about who I am, what I think, but I'm emotionally reserved. So it does take patience. And it will take months, not weeks, to get me to emotionally respond in a deeper way. I saw someone recently bitching that someone she was dating hadn't committed after three months and should she drop her and go for someone else who had expressed interest. The butch is my age. These are the reasons I don't commit quickly. People like that. So it's not hunting me... It's hand feeding something feral till it trusts enough to stay longer and longer in your presence and I decide to stay. They loyalty payback is massive, but heaps of patience needed.

09-24-2015, 02:09 AM	#2
Daisy Chain Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Hy calls me Hys Kitten Join Date: May 2015 Location: 2nd star to the right and straight on til morning Posts: 729 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,814 Thanked 1,809 Times in 447 Posts Rep Power: 0	I could never be the hunter, ever. I dont have that type of confidence. And to be honest if someone was to choose to pursue me, not that I`m available but if I was, they would have to be prepared to play a very long and patient game. I woudnt want to be wooed and romanced, Hy would just have to be there, be around, let me observe, who Hy was, how Hy was and how Hy conducted hymself, then maybe I would allow myself to be pursued. I myself, love people, I like to chat, interact, share and learn. Have a little fun. I think sometimes my friendliness can be misinterpreted as the wrong type of interest in a person. HHmm..thats something I need to be more aware of. Daisy

09-25-2015, 01:56 AM	#3
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	It would be a great honor if I were persued by either one of you..just saying.

05-30-2017, 03:34 AM	#4
akiza Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: khaleessi lol ^-^ just go with aki,ana,kit or princess Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2017 Location: Congo-brazzaville Posts: 774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 318 Thanked 623 Times in 285 Posts Rep Power: 0	definitively a prey ^^ but not an easy one

05-30-2017, 07:16 AM	#5
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,549 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	The Hunter albeit a shy one!

05-30-2017, 04:51 PM	#7
introverted1 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: introville Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 422 Thanked 740 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 7058202	I have been the initiator in nearly every relationship I have had. I'm an introvert with a shy streak, but I always have to be the initiator.