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I was totally like that too,I was in a band in the 80's and flatly refused to do love songs,only political songs,the last relationship I used to joke that she had put a spell on me,coz I used to find that stuff BS.In my 30's I never celebrated valentines day,I used to say it was a capitalist plot,to get ppl,to spend $,they cant afford,on stuff that is double the price,on that day. Guess who sent 2 doz red roses on a recent VD ???????? sheepishly putting my hand up. 
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Depends on what you think romance is....
If dancing is romantic, guilty If sitting on the beach and talking is romantic.... guilty If if is the fact that I love romantic proposals.... guilty again I think that is as far as it goes with me and typical romance. I don't like receiving flowers (unless from my kids for a mother's day, etc) or if they are hand picked - why waste money on something that is going to die? What is romance? I think that something I would find romantic just might be something another would not find romantic. For the most part, I like the simple things..... oh, plus gold and diamonds, I like gold and diamonds too.
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To me romance is about discovering those thing, both big and small that make your lover feel cherished and loved, and then doing them. What feels romantic to one person could feel like a complete bore to the next person, so taking the time and making the effort to truly get to know what romance means to your lover/partner is romantic in itself.
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I am not fussy about romantic gestures. If they come genuinely from the heart then I will love and appreciate them, whether they are more traditional or unconventional or unique things. My girl is an over the top romantic, so I get all kinds, all the time. I am very lucky. I also consider myself to be romantic and like expressing it in various ways, some of which are traditional and some of which come from my quirky self, but most of all what I think will resonate with her heart.
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I don't really know what romantic means but if you call bringing flowers, doing little things, etc, then yeah I am guilty. But I am a 2x4 trans guy so I gotta be told LOL.
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Romance works both ways.I like it when she helps me put on my tie and gives me a long kiss.Telling me she loves me and to be safe.Standing behind me in the bathroom,both of us looking into the mirror as she combs my hair back and kisses my neck..sometimes she'll pull my hair back and bite my neck.I love long hugs and surprise dinners.Making out in the backseat of a car.Getting flowers is nice..mushy,blah..moving on.
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Romance, to me, is the small things. Coming home to discover my spouse did all the dishes. Or a phone call halfway through my day when I've casually mentioned that I'm having a hard day. Surprising me with my favorite foods. Snuggling with me at night. It really is the little things.
Romance goes both ways. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. 
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VERY!!! :)
Romance and thoughtfulness go hand in hand for me. They both symbolize that you're thinking about your partner's wants and needs, so wish to put those thoughts into actions whatever they may be. I agree it's a two way exchange but once you find the right partner it should be a natural expression of your love and not a false forced gesture that's cliché.
Running a hot bath, making a meal, going for a walk somewhere scenic or cuddling on the sofa watching a movie are all very romantic to me and not material things. Time is such a very precious gift so giving that to me and vice versa is also very romantic. 
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Romantic? What is that?
No I am not. My idea of romance is on the practical side the things you can only do if you know someone. Thing that needs to done but they have no time to do it. So I do so Little insignificant things, the laundry done, a favorite meal or a movie I don't love but that's okay, or washing the car. Those are the same things that mean something to me. Flowers are nice in my yard so make sure they can be planted, chocolates no unless you know my brand, Valentines day? Well just no, just don't. I am good with that. I think it has to be individual for each person, My uncle made sure my Aunt never touched a gas pump from the day they married till the day she died. That was romantic and she damn well knew it. He never had to make a meal, or a snack, she made sure he was as well taken care of as she was. It wasn't expensive or elaborate but always considerate and thoughtful. The whole of the family made fun of the connection they had but none of them ever had anything that could compare in the lives they lead.
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Romance is indeed very different for everyone. I like to believe I am romantic in many different ways, both traditional and non-traditional.
When we are walking into a building, I open the door for her. If we are stepping off the train I let her go first. I show up at her work on my lunch break just to deliver surprise flowers to her for no reason other than to show her I appreciate her. I do other things too, I buy her dinner. I buy her surprise random gifts like skirts, video games, and anything else I think she might like. I encourage her, support her and appreciate her. I think everyone is romantic in some way, it's just a matter of how.
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i've been told i am the least romantic person in the world.
however when i am with the right person, i love gestures that show each other you are appreciated. |
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I would like to say I am romantic, but realistically I am not stereotypical romantic - I am more practical.
Instead of flowers I'll offer to buy you dinner from your favorite place beause it's Friday night and we don't want to cook. If I'm at the store on lunch to grab food, I might pick up your favorite drink or candy. If you've had a particularly bad day I will ask if you want to do something after dinner, even if it's just binge watching your favorite show on Netflix. If we are out and you mention something you want, I'm texting it to myself as a reminder to add to your Christmas list as soon as I can. When I used to pack his lunch, I'd write down how many carbs he had to inject for. I pick all the pepperoni off my pizza and give it to him. Sometimes I order for him when we go out. It's the small things 🙂 |
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i of course think i am very romantic, but maybe I'm more thoughtful.
I don't have to be in love with someone to be kind and thoughtful. But when I do love ya..... Like others have stated, I do little things that show I love you. I do "acts of service" and "quality time".... I would love to do a grand epic scene of 20th Century Cinema... like a Cleopatra type extravaganza.... lol But I think a pan of epic double chocolate brownies is better, I won't make you share them... Or making your favorite dinner on Sunday ..... massaging your worn out feet after a long hard day.... or any number of kind acts. or make you stop the truck so I can dance in the middle of the street to our song.... or scrub your back in the shower.... I'm that Girl. |
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I am ridiculously, pathetically so. But I'm that way about life in general, as a very passionate person. So guess my relationships are not excluded from that. But, like everyone else, what I find romantic varies. For me, it's things with meaning. A handwritten note, or any kind of note, or taking a walk ... or reading a book together. It's not about the generic mainstream idea of what is romantic to everyone else and girls in general. Knowing specific things, big or small, that I would find touching is being romantic to me. And that is what I enjoy doing for my partner as well. In lots of little ways, regularly. Not just once a year or on their birthday.
~ Journaling together ~ Letters & notes ~ Doing puzzles together ~ Sharing music & other forms of art ~ Admiring nature & other places together ~ Having home-cooked meals together ~ Movie binging ~ Nerding out over stuff together ~ Genuine affection, at random times too ~ Hands on things they need help with Obviously my love languages are quality time & touch.
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