Is Marriage for you?

Jesse · 11-09-2015, 06:37 PM

Part of me would like to get married, but the other part of me would like to have a solid relationship with us each having our own home near one another. Seeing as I am single, I don't have to listen to either part! Lol!

imperfect_cupcake · 11-09-2015, 07:08 PM

Why couldn't you get married *and* live in different places?

CherryWine · 11-09-2015, 08:37 PM

I honestly don't know if marriage is for me or not. It's never really been a long-term goal. Not that it's out of the question, but I feel like I will know when I meet the right woman. That hasn't happened yet, but I'm still elated by the fact that we can get married in Mississippi or anywhere else in the country should we so choose.

Jesse · 11-09-2015, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

Why couldn't you get married *and* live in different places?

If you are asking me, I could do both. Of course, mine would not be the only vote and I have not met many women who feel this same way. I would not have wanted to do this 10 years ago, but now it seems like the most sane way of being in a relationship, for me at least.

ProfPacker · 11-09-2015, 09:42 PM

I am beginning to think that having separate places might be the way to go for me. I was in a ltr (civil union) for 34 years. It doesn't hold the same allure for me anymore. I like having my own space and people and interests and then have a companion (with sex) to have special times with.

Angeltoes · 11-09-2015, 10:21 PM

I don't have any interest in a legal marriage. I don't care if the state approves or not. It's just a bunch of paperwork to me. Commitment ceremonies are nice. If I ever got that serious with someone, then I'd probably want to live together. I need space and alone time too, but it' nice to have your partner in the same house, I guess.

imperfect_cupcake · 11-10-2015, 01:45 AM

Oh I dunno, I think there are lots of us out there that don't m see sharing household drudgery as something romantic or condusive to having a meaningful connection to others.
Frankly, I find it *hinders* intimacy. And the more I feel like someone's house maid or mother, the less sexual attraction I have for them. I find domesticity *kills* my high sex drive. Dead.
I find that when I actually talk to someone about this, they tend to provisionally agree. And if someone whines that they want a woman to look after them, I am NOT the girl for them anyway. I love spoiling someone. As a divine and wonderful guest. Not as a responsibility and job. And I want the same back. I would be very happy with a marriage that respected my independence. I would fall even more madly and deeply with a person who did.
So I think there with people out there that it could work with. If they are looking to raise a family of kids or dogs or farm animals with, I'm just never going to be that girl anyway. So... Let's go traveling to Sarawak on Borneo instead. You know?

C0LLETTE · 11-10-2015, 10:22 AM

I've seen a lot of this world but somehow missed Sarawak. You're on.

Tuff Stuff · 11-12-2015, 01:24 PM

I believe we were ready..so we did it.Nothing changes,we both know our boundaries...it's just that we fucking did it!.The thing is "I" "Me" "Mine" is now "We" "Us" "Ours"...yep,nothing changed.*snort*

MsTinkerbelly · 11-12-2015, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Tuff Stuff

I believe we were ready..so we did it.Nothing changes,we both know our boundaries...it's just that we fucking did it!.The thing is "I" "Me" "Mine" is now "We" "Us" "Ours"...yep,nothing changed.*snort*

Congratulations on your marriage! May you always have enough of everything to make living and loving together worthwhile.

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I am unmarried in my State or Country	103	58.52%
I am married in my State or Country	27	15.34%
I have had an alternate joining which is not legally marriage	18	10.23%
I wouldn't get married if they paid me!	28	15.91%
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11-09-2015, 06:37 PM	#1
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11-10-2015, 01:45 AM	#7
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11-09-2015, 07:08 PM	#2
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CherryWine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: The Deep South Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,060 Thanked 10,006 Times in 2,182 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	I honestly don't know if marriage is for me or not. It's never really been a long-term goal. Not that it's out of the question, but I feel like I will know when I meet the right woman. That hasn't happened yet, but I'm still elated by the fact that we can get married in Mississippi or anywhere else in the country should we so choose.

11-09-2015, 09:42 PM	#5
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11-09-2015, 10:21 PM	#6
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,525 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I don't have any interest in a legal marriage. I don't care if the state approves or not. It's just a bunch of paperwork to me. Commitment ceremonies are nice. If I ever got that serious with someone, then I'd probably want to live together. I need space and alone time too, but it' nice to have your partner in the same house, I guess.

11-10-2015, 10:22 AM	#8
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11-12-2015, 01:24 PM	#9
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	I believe we were ready..so we did it.Nothing changes,we both know our boundaries...it's just that we fucking did it!.The thing is "I" "Me" "Mine" is now "We" "Us" "Ours"...yep,nothing changed.snort