What are you doing right now?

C0LLETTE · 11-11-2015, 01:39 PM

I'm getting ready to go out, buy some flowers and visit my parents in the cemetery. We'll have a little chat. I will likely shed some tears, put my hand on their headstones, maybe place some small stones. And then I will go home.

not2shygrrl · 11-11-2015, 11:33 PM

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Originally Posted by C0LLETTE

I'm getting ready to go out, buy some flowers and visit my parents in the cemetery. We'll have a little chat. I will likely shed some tears, put my hand on their headstones, maybe place some small stones. And then I will go home.

If you don't mind me asking Collette, what is the significance of the small stones placed near a headstone in the cemetery? I wish I had read that post prior to your visit, I would have sent some strength out to the universe for after the visit. I understand some how you feel.

I so hope your chat was a good one!

homoe · 11-11-2015, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by not2shygrrl

If you don't mind me asking Collette, what is the significance of the small stones placed near a headstone in the cemetery? I wish I had read that post prior to your visit, I would have sent some strength out to the universe for after the visit. I understand some how you feel.

I so hope your chat was a good one!

I'm NOT answering for COLLETTE but I have always wonder too so I googled and found out that............The earliest graves may have been covered by a mound of stones. Though we erect tombstones today, a stone or pebble placed on a head or footstone reminds us of those first humble gravesites. This simple act has come to be a great sign of respect of our deceased loved ones. It is come to signify that the grave has recently been visited and that the deceased have not been forgotten. To make this simple ritual even more meaningful, some bring a pebble or stone from their own garden to place on the tombstone, or select a brightly colored stone to place at the grave. Placing a stone on the grave of a loved one is a tradition that may be personalized to create meaning and bring comfort.

Kenna · 11-11-2015, 11:47 PM

Smiling with confidence and pride.
Contemplating tomorrow.
Thinking about how lucky I am.
Watching TV
and cuddled up with Karma

Bèsame* · 11-11-2015, 11:52 PM

Painting my nails

Kätzchen · 11-12-2015, 12:10 AM

JDeere · 11-12-2015, 02:23 AM

Watching the DVRed episode of american horror story.

bright_arrow · 11-12-2015, 02:26 AM

Listening to Spotify's deep sleep playlist and reading an article about how to stay healthy with an office/sitting job

C0LLETTE · 11-12-2015, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by not2shygrrl

If you don't mind me asking Collette, what is the significance of the small stones placed near a headstone in the cemetery? I wish I had read that post prior to your visit, I would have sent some strength out to the universe for after the visit. I understand some how you feel.

I so hope your chat was a good one!

Thank you for your kind response not2shygrrl and to you too, homoe,for your research.

For me, it is a simple ancient gesture to show that the gravesite was visited and the deceased is not forgotten. For some it is also a form of invitation to ask the deceased to come and spend some time with you.

A more traditional visit would have prevented the leaving of flowers but this is a more complex issue. Its reasoning is very interesting but I'll leave that research to you lol. Essentially it is based on the belief that we all leave this earth as we came to it and as equals .

So, "What am I doing today?" ...I'm thanking not2shygrrl and homoe for their kindness.

not2shygrrl · 11-12-2015, 11:50 PM

Tonight I am responding to a post that I had a question about....after being outside readying a trailer for travels to an estate sale! I saw a few (ahem) items that I want so off I go tomorrow morning, trailer in tow! It is freezing here with this blustery wind....and although it is usually dark here due to no street lights in the woods....its a really dark sky tonight....eerily so. I am happy to be back inside and fussing on my computer here at BFP.

listening to the thuds and bumps of the outside noises. ~ wishing I had a fire place because it would be roaring right now! ~

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Originally Posted by C0LLETTE

Thank you for your kind response not2shygrrl and to you too, homoe,for your research.

For me, it is a simple ancient gesture to show that the gravesite was visited and the deceased is not forgotten. For some it is also a form of invitation to ask the deceased to come and spend some time with you.

A more traditional visit would have prevented the leaving of flowers but this is a more complex issue. Its reasoning is very interesting but I'll leave that research to you lol. Essentially it is based on the belief that we all leave this earth as we came to it and as equals .

So, "What am I doing today?" ...I'm thanking not2shygrrl and homoe for their kindness.

Well you are as sweet as sweet tea Collette!!! (wink) Thank you for graciously addressing my question. Seems you left me with a bit o' work to do in that last paragraph.....hmmmmmm I must now have a look see!

Jesse · 11-13-2015, 12:26 AM

Watching Rosewood, and then I will most likely head to bed.

Karysma · 11-13-2015, 12:40 AM

Catching up on all the shows I record.... And napping off and on. It's a lazy night. 😏

JDeere · 11-13-2015, 01:01 AM

Watching my recorded shows.
Catching up on posts on bfp.

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