Is Marriage for you?

Nattih · 11-11-2015, 02:20 PM

I think its just personality differences, which is great. Variety is the spice of life.

I am a major introvert, but I enjoy being in the company of those that I like and love. I can just sit quietly and enjoy their company. I'm happy to participate in the give and take that will accompany integrating my partner into my living space for good. Its something I feel I need for a complete relationship. I admire those who do not need that, though.

BullDog · 11-11-2015, 03:26 PM

Yes, variety is good. It would drive me crazy going back and forth between two different places as a long-term proposition. When first getting to know someone while dating, then yes it would be fine. But no I wouldn't want to do that with someone I was married to or had a long term commitment with. I would never know whether I was coming or going. Yes, I could have a toothbrush at two places and things like that, but I like being grounded to one spot.

I don't need to feel like a living space is all mine. I get a lot more satisfaction in sharing it with a partner, and those that I have lived with in the past there hasn't been a lot of arguing- about household things or anything else for that matter. Well 1 out of 3 there was some fighting, but I should have never lived with her to begin with (not anyone from this site). My partner would have to be someone I was compatible living with, which yeah would rule out a lot of women I could potentially be attracted to in other ways, but fortunately that is not something I have to worry about.

I also feel I can still have plenty of independence, enjoy my own interests, have friends, and still live with my partner and spend lots of time with her. That works for me.

View Poll Results: What is your ststus?
I am unmarried in my State or Country	103	58.52%
I am married in my State or Country	27	15.34%
I have had an alternate joining which is not legally marriage	18	10.23%
I wouldn't get married if they paid me!	28	15.91%
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11-11-2015, 03:26 PM	#2
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,640 Times in 4,463 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Yes, variety is good. It would drive me crazy going back and forth between two different places as a long-term proposition. When first getting to know someone while dating, then yes it would be fine. But no I wouldn't want to do that with someone I was married to or had a long term commitment with. I would never know whether I was coming or going. Yes, I could have a toothbrush at two places and things like that, but I like being grounded to one spot. I don't need to feel like a living space is all mine. I get a lot more satisfaction in sharing it with a partner, and those that I have lived with in the past there hasn't been a lot of arguing- about household things or anything else for that matter. Well 1 out of 3 there was some fighting, but I should have never lived with her to begin with (not anyone from this site). My partner would have to be someone I was compatible living with, which yeah would rule out a lot of women I could potentially be attracted to in other ways, but fortunately that is not something I have to worry about. I also feel I can still have plenty of independence, enjoy my own interests, have friends, and still live with my partner and spend lots of time with her. That works for me. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

11-11-2015, 02:20 PM	#1
Nattih Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: always on a plane Posts: 174 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 633 Times in 164 Posts Rep Power: 13046651	I think its just personality differences, which is great. Variety is the spice of life. I am a major introvert, but I enjoy being in the company of those that I like and love. I can just sit quietly and enjoy their company. I'm happy to participate in the give and take that will accompany integrating my partner into my living space for good. Its something I feel I need for a complete relationship. I admire those who do not need that, though.