That first meet

Nattih · 11-16-2015, 04:26 PM

I always greet with a hug, not sure why, but I just do. I will remember to ask from now on, because I never thought about it being too intimate or forced touching (but thank you for bringing up that point).

I date long and short distance, but for the first date I expect the same things no matter what.

On the first date I expect an actual, sit down, formal dinner date and drinks. I do not agree to short meet ups like coffee. If you are at all iffy about spending a dinner with me, I would rather us not go out.

I try to give off really friendly vibes, in order to cool down any nervousness and to get the person to open up to me. I'm a flirty and silly person in general, so that's my method of operation.

"Elongating" the date is always on the table both platonic or otherwise.

I have had all good experiences with my methods so far, except the time I was told 10 minutes ahead of time, by text message that she actually had a girlfriend already. Yeah.

*Anya* · 11-16-2015, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by CherryWine

I am curious to know what everyone's thoughts are on the appropriate way to greet someone upon first meeting him/her. Let's say you've only exchanged a few messages, you seem to dig each other, and you've decided to meet up for dinner in order to get to know one another better.

I don't particularly care to hug someone whom I have never met in person before and haven't gotten to know well enough, yet. Not right off the bat, anyway. Hugging is intimate, especially if it is a full frontal hug...ha. A handshake almost seems too business-like for meeting a possible romantic interest, though.

Thoughts?

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Originally Posted by A. Spectre

A light kiss on a cheek (face) seems very polite, not too intimate and not too aloof.

It has been a long time since I had a first meet but I am pretty reserved.

I never hug someone I don't know well and even a kiss on the cheek might be too much for me until I know someone more than superficially.

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Nattih Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: always on a plane Posts: 174 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 633 Times in 164 Posts Rep Power: 13046651	I always greet with a hug, not sure why, but I just do. I will remember to ask from now on, because I never thought about it being too intimate or forced touching (but thank you for bringing up that point). I date long and short distance, but for the first date I expect the same things no matter what. On the first date I expect an actual, sit down, formal dinner date and drinks. I do not agree to short meet ups like coffee. If you are at all iffy about spending a dinner with me, I would rather us not go out. I try to give off really friendly vibes, in order to cool down any nervousness and to get the person to open up to me. I'm a flirty and silly person in general, so that's my method of operation. "Elongating" the date is always on the table both platonic or otherwise. I have had all good experiences with my methods so far, except the time I was told 10 minutes ahead of time, by text message that she actually had a girlfriend already. Yeah.