Pillow Princess

AishasWrath · 11-19-2015, 05:33 AM

I like pillow princesses a lot. I think it's hot when they're lying around not being all active. It's calming, it feels so nonthreatening, I don't have anything to be vigilant against or have performance anxiety about. I know this is 180 to the common complaint of "not active enough," but I love pillow princess behavior, the lazier and passive-er the better!

Gemme · 11-19-2015, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by AishasWrath

I like pillow princesses a lot. I think it's hot when they're lying around not being all active. It's calming, it feels so nonthreatening, I don't have anything to be vigilant against or have performance anxiety about. I know this is 180 to the common complaint of "not active enough," but I love pillow princess behavior, the lazier and passive-er the better!

Wow. What a backhanded compliment.

Awesome.

AishasWrath · 11-19-2015, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

Wow. What a backhanded compliment.

Awesome.

That was not meant as a backhanded compliment at all. I would not do that. I'm sorry it sounded that way.

Edited to add: I meant everything I said, I do think these are attractive qualities! Maybe it's weird to people but I don't see the traits of the negative stereotype as a bad thing. The best experiences I've ever had were with people who layed there and relaxed and didn't get very handsy.

Angeltoes · 11-19-2015, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by AishasWrath

That was not meant as a backhanded compliment at all. I would not do that. I'm sorry it sounded that way.

Why do you want a femme to be so passive? What are you afraid of?

AishasWrath · 11-19-2015, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Angeltoes

Why do you want a femme to be so passive? What are you afraid of?

*sigh* My turn to be offended now. I'm not afraid of people, I just don't like nonpassive partners. Do I need to through all the justifications and disclaimers again about how I don't like being touched, how it's overwhelming and uncomfortable when others are too active, and give five notarized affidavits of the times I tried to "stop being afraid" and found out it wasn't about fear it was about physical discomfort when I placed myself in such situations?

Going back on topic, there are people out there who are very passive in bed, and there's nothing wrong with them. I'm not the only person who thinks it's beautiful and desirable and ideal to be very languid.

Angeltoes · 11-19-2015, 03:36 PM

You're the one who said it feels 'nonthreatening' when a femme is passive and still. That indicates to me that you're scared. And, maybe you should work out what it is you're afraid of but that would be disturbing to me. Not sexy at all.

Anyway, you're new and your name is 'Aisha's revenge' which makes me wonder about your intentions here.

Angeltoes · 11-19-2015, 03:42 PM

I would never violate anyone. I would leave.

*Anya* · 11-19-2015, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by AishasWrath

I like pillow princesses a lot. I think it's hot when they're lying around not being all active. It's calming, it feels so nonthreatening, I don't have anything to be vigilant against or have performance anxiety about. I know this is 180 to the common complaint of "not active enough," but I love pillow princess behavior, the lazier and passive-er the better!

Almost sounds like necrophilla...

I am sure you don't want a lover to be "lying around, not being at all active" for real?

The "lazier and passive-er" the better!?

Edited to add: this is not my understanding of a stone femme or a pillow princess at all. I have been schooled and educated in these forums and have so appreciated the knowledge I have gained.

I don't recall anyone saying before that they did zero activity and just laid down, not to actively participate in whatever way was right for them.

Angeltoes · 11-19-2015, 03:09 PM

I look very nonthreatening in person. If a butch wanted to be scared of me for no logical reason, then I would probably laugh and scare them on purpose. I would not lay still and sexy time would definitely be over.

AishasWrath · 11-19-2015, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by *Anya*

Almost sounds like necrophilla...

I am sure you don't want a lover to be "lying around, not being at all active" for real?

The "lazier and passive-er" the better!?

Edited to add: this is not my understanding of a stone femme or a pillow princess at all. I have been schooled and educated in these forums and have so appreciated the knowledge I have gained.

I don't recall anyone saying before that they did zero activity and just laid down, not to actively participate in whatever way was right for them.

Yes I mean it, I'm sure, I've heard all the comparisons to necrophilia and the insinuations that being how I am makes me a Bad Person before, so I'm leaving this thread alone after this.

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I look very nonthreatening in person. If a butch wanted to be scared of me for no logical reason, then I would probably laugh and scare them on purpose. I would not lay still and sexy time would definitely be over.

So you'd be totally ok with violating another person's boundaries in a way that intentionally provokes anxiey, because of how you look. That sounds like bullying behavior.

11-19-2015, 05:33 AM	#1
AishasWrath Junior Member How Do You Identify?: It's complicated/stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: they/them Relationship Status: godspouse Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: USA Posts: 18 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5 Thanked 31 Times in 12 Posts Rep Power: 10	I like pillow princesses a lot. I think it's hot when they're lying around not being all active. It's calming, it feels so nonthreatening, I don't have anything to be vigilant against or have performance anxiety about. I know this is 180 to the common complaint of "not active enough," but I love pillow princess behavior, the lazier and passive-er the better!

11-19-2015, 03:36 PM	#6
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,526 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	You're the one who said it feels 'nonthreatening' when a femme is passive and still. That indicates to me that you're scared. And, maybe you should work out what it is you're afraid of but that would be disturbing to me. Not sexy at all. Anyway, you're new and your name is 'Aisha's revenge' which makes me wonder about your intentions here.

11-19-2015, 03:42 PM	#7
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,526 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I would never violate anyone. I would leave.

11-19-2015, 03:09 PM	#9
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,526 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I look very nonthreatening in person. If a butch wanted to be scared of me for no logical reason, then I would probably laugh and scare them on purpose. I would not lay still and sexy time would definitely be over.