Instant Turn-Offs

homoe · 11-24-2015, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by kittygrrl

A person insists they never lie, but then you catch them in several
A person who insists they are always right

YES, nothing more of a turn off than a "know it all"!

C0LLETTE · 11-24-2015, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by homoe

YES, nothing more of a turn off than a "know it all"!

I'm not big on "know nothings" (deliberating if I should add an "lol" here)

Chad · 11-24-2015, 12:39 PM

I would not pursue any type of reationship with someone that is rude, cruel, arrogant, pompous, and or disrespectful.

Although....... I do agree with my buddy Homoe, loud and obnoxious is really up there on my list.

JDeere · 11-24-2015, 12:59 PM

A smoker. Anyone who smokes cigarettes or e cigs or vape.

Really bad hygiene. That poonanny better be clean and smell good.

Someone who is insistent on trying to change any aspect of me before I can try to change myself.

giggleluver · 11-24-2015, 02:55 PM

Nasty teeth, not brushing and flossing, Halitosis

homoe · 11-28-2015, 07:26 PM

Someone who can NEVER NEVER EVER admit if they're wrong!

homoe · 04-30-2017, 06:47 PM

A "know it all" personalty type!

homoe · 04-30-2017, 07:08 PM

Someone who is rude and condescending to waitstaff or anyone in the service industry!

Chad · 04-30-2017, 07:17 PM

Inexperienced lovers.

homoe · 04-30-2017, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Chad

Inexperienced lovers.

BUT BUT BUT Chad, that way you get all the "fun" of teaching them

WheatToast · 02-01-2019, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

Someone who is rude and condescending to waitstaff or anyone in the service industry!

That is a major turnoff! Also, people who work waitstaff to death.
Ex: I once had lunch with a potential new g/f and she asked about salad dressings.
The waitress named off the usual- ranch, bleu cheese, thousand island, vinegrette and the house dressing. I can see asking to sample the house dressing, but this woman asked the waitress to bring her samples of ALL of them--during the lunch rush.
Then she chose ranch. On a small side salad.
She also asked questions about the rolls, the ingredients of several entrees and the entire dessert list.

Being overly late. After 15 minutes is bad. At 30 minutes, I cancel.

Another turn off is bad grammar. Supposibly and irregardless are the worst.

Borrowing without returning, returning things in wrecked condition--basically everything my pushy new next door neighbor says or does.

One quirky turn off I have is people making "air quotes" with the fingers.

Sharing details of our sex life in a group of people, in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, nose-picking, intentional belching and farting, or doing the usual bathroom things with the door open. I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

Finally, the silent treatment or ghosting without any explanations.

Martina · 02-02-2019, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by WheatToast

I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

I don't want to see flossing or other gross things either, but if a Butch wanted me to create some mystery around my allure, I'd immediately resort to wearing sweats, face cream, and do rags.

homoe · 02-02-2019, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by WheatToast

That is a major turnoff! Also, people who work waitstaff to death.
Ex: I once had lunch with a potential new g/f and she asked about salad dressings.
The waitress named off the usual- ranch, bleu cheese, thousand island, vinegrette and the house dressing. I can see asking to sample the house dressing, but this woman asked the waitress to bring her samples of ALL of them--during the lunch rush.
Then she chose ranch. On a small side salad.
She also asked questions about the rolls, the ingredients of several entrees and the entire dessert list.

Being overly late. After 15 minutes is bad. At 30 minutes, I cancel.

Another turn off is bad grammar. Supposibly and irregardless are the worst.

Borrowing without returning, returning things in wrecked condition--basically everything my pushy new next door neighbor says or does.

One quirky turn off I have is people making "air quotes" with the fingers.

Sharing details of our sex life in a group of people, in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, nose-picking, intentional belching and farting, or doing the usual bathroom things with the door open. I don't need to see anyone on the toilet, flossing, or otherwise spoiling the mystery of her beauty.

Finally, the silent treatment or ghosting without any explanations.

If I had a neighbor like that, I'd learn real fast to say to whatever she wanted to borrow "Oh I just ran out of that myself"
"I could care less" vs "I couldn't care less" are my grammar irritations!

homoe · 04-30-2017, 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by C0LLETTE

I'm not big on "know nothings" (deliberating if I should add an "lol" here)

True I get what you mean, nobody wants to date an air head or dummy..LOL

Chad · 04-30-2017, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

True I get what you mean, nobody wants to date an air head or dummy..LOL

Oops pardon me.

Soft*Silver · 04-30-2017, 08:14 PM

people who set standards higher for others than they set for themselves. People who judge others but cant and dont live up to their own judgemental ideals.

overindulgers of any kind, from drink to eats to shopping to gambling

naysayers. People who are NEVER happy, and are always seeing them in a pessimistic light/darkness

poor hygiene. GOD I hate that!

people who make fun of others, and especially when they justify it

I dont care how much education people have..but its a huge turn off when they make fun of me for having college degrees. I am NOT an egg head without common sense just because I spent years in college. Dont tear me down if you are insecure, in other words.

religious yankers. I am so offended with people who shove religion down my throat.

I also agree I dont like inexperienced lovers. Taught enough. Now I bask in my husband's experience.

Insensitive people. Thick headed daft emotionally immature folks. Man, getting hit by them is like a 2 x 4 hitting you in your core.

Gemme · 05-01-2017, 06:01 AM

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Originally Posted by homoe

True I get what you mean, nobody wants to date an air head or dummy..LOL

Sexual inexperience does not equate stupidity.

easygoingfemme · 05-01-2017, 06:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

Sexual inexperience does not equate stupidity.

I *think* Homoe's comment was in response to a different turnoff...

Turnoffs:

Rude folks.
Lack of independence.
Lack of confidence.
Passive aggressive personalities.

11-24-2015, 12:39 PM	#3
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Turn-offs I would not pursue any type of reationship with someone that is rude, cruel, arrogant, pompous, and or disrespectful. Although....... I do agree with my buddy Homoe, loud and obnoxious is really up there on my list.

11-24-2015, 02:55 PM	#5
giggleluver Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme, Mostly bottom, little Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, girl Relationship Status: Happy, single, polyamorous Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 62 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 93 Thanked 174 Times in 39 Posts Rep Power: 1718001	Nasty teeth, not brushing and flossing, Halitosis __________________ Giggle *You can't buy happiness, but you can buy ice cream and that is pretty much the same thing.* Love is life. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. ~Leo Tolstoy

04-30-2017, 07:17 PM	#9
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Turn-offs Inexperienced lovers.

04-30-2017, 08:14 PM	#16
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,894 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	people who set standards higher for others than they set for themselves. People who judge others but cant and dont live up to their own judgemental ideals. overindulgers of any kind, from drink to eats to shopping to gambling naysayers. People who are NEVER happy, and are always seeing them in a pessimistic light/darkness poor hygiene. GOD I hate that! people who make fun of others, and especially when they justify it I dont care how much education people have..but its a huge turn off when they make fun of me for having college degrees. I am NOT an egg head without common sense just because I spent years in college. Dont tear me down if you are insecure, in other words. religious yankers. I am so offended with people who shove religion down my throat. I also agree I dont like inexperienced lovers. Taught enough. Now I bask in my husband's experience. Insensitive people. Thick headed daft emotionally immature folks. Man, getting hit by them is like a 2 x 4 hitting you in your core. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

11-24-2015, 12:59 PM	#4
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	A smoker. Anyone who smokes cigarettes or e cigs or vape. Really bad hygiene. That poonanny better be clean and smell good. Someone who is insistent on trying to change any aspect of me before I can try to change myself.

11-28-2015, 07:26 PM	#6
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	Someone who can NEVER NEVER EVER admit if they're wrong!

04-30-2017, 06:47 PM	#7
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	A "know it all" personalty type!

04-30-2017, 07:08 PM	#8
homoe Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: ..... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: 30 minute ferry ride from Seattle Posts: 38,565 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,811 Thanked 33,548 Times in 14,914 Posts Rep Power: 21474889	Someone who is rude and condescending to waitstaff or anyone in the service industry!