Asking the Femme's for help!?! - Page 2

Mister Bent · 11-22-2009, 07:02 PM

I'm totally inspired now to get e some night wears for her upcoming birthday!

evolveme · 11-22-2009, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mister Bent

I'm totally inspired now to get e some night wears for her upcoming birthday!

Oh, yes! Please!

Andrew, Jr. · 11-22-2009, 07:10 PM

A certain gal

just thinking outloud

Vlasta · 11-22-2009, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Legendryder

No, I am not thread stalking you V. roflmao

no not you

.... I stalk you too when I worry if you are feeling good and as far I remember you used to like my nighties , but then again you were snoring too much

sorry for derail y"all , ya know these ex's .... but at least we are good friends

and not spiting fire here .

Legendryder · 11-22-2009, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Vlasta

no not you

.... I stalk you too when I worry if you are feeling good and as far I remember you used to like my nighties , but then again you were snoring too much

sorry for derail y"all , ya know these ex's .... but at least we are good friends

and not spiting fire here .

I did, very much so. And sorry about the snoring thing. rofl I wake myself up sometimes.

Vlasta · 11-22-2009, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Legendryder

I did, very much so. And sorry about the snoring thing. rofl I wake myself up sometimes.

lmao ... I know , but I used to that so I was fine with it ... and stop stalking me before moderator comes in this thread and tell us off ...... you are derailer

not me I am a good girl ...lol

Mister Bent · 11-22-2009, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by evolveme

Oh, yes! Please!

Really?

Cuz I was kind of thinking...

Legendryder · 11-22-2009, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Vlasta

lmao ... I know , but I used to that so I was fine with it ... and stop stalking me before moderator comes in this thread and tell us off ...... you are derailer

not me I am a good girl ...lol

Suuuurrrrreeeee you are.

Blaze · 11-22-2009, 07:31 PM

Hmmm, I think I like it in Blue, would go good with my tent, and perhaps some serenity prayers... Yes definately the Blue, wonder if it comes in Camo?

NotAnAverageGuy · 11-22-2009, 09:24 PM

For the ladies, I could use some ideas, advice, etc....

When a certain femme comes to visit me from out of town, what is the best way for my house to be cleaned, I do it myself or hire someone to clean it from top to bottom?

Should I buy certain candles she likes? Certain foods?

Diva · 11-22-2009, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by NotAnAverageGuy

For the ladies, I could use some ideas, advice, etc....

When a certain femme comes to visit me from out of town, what is the best way for my house to be cleaned, I do it myself or hire someone to clean it from top to bottom?

Should I buy certain candles she likes? Certain foods?

If You're a clean freak, do it Yourself. If not, hire out. Make sure the bathroom is clean ~ no hair in the sink, plenty of TP, a clean handtowel, maybe even a little basket (if there's room on the counter) with special soap, lotion, travel sized shampoo, etc. It's a nice touch.

Clean linens on the bed, of course.

It would be a very nice gesture to find out her likes and dislikes as far as her preferences ~ drink (alcholic and non- ) of choice, snack preferences, food likes and dislikes, allergy issues. Does she like Peppermint Patties? Favorite candy? Favorite cheese and crackers? Does she like apples as opposed to pears?

It might seem like some work at first, but to her, You will be thoughtful.

NotAnAverageGuy · 11-22-2009, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Diva

If You're a clean freak, do it Yourself. If not, hire out. Make sure the bathroom is clean ~ no hair in the sink, plenty of TP, a clean handtowel, maybe even a little basket (if there's room on the counter) with special soap, lotion, travel sized shampoo, etc. It's a nice touch.

Clean linens on the bed, of course.

It would be a very nice gesture to find out her likes and dislikes as far as her preferences ~ drink (alcholic and non- ) of choice, snack preferences, food likes and dislikes, allergy issues. Does she like Peppermint Patties? Favorite candy? Favorite cheese and crackers? Does she like apples as opposed to pears?

It might seem like some work at first, but to her, You will be thoughtful.

Ohhhhh awesome Miss Diva thank you for answering with honesty

LOL@ clean bed linens, that is a must for sure

Hudson · 11-23-2009, 03:51 PM

I like the 'night wears' (and day wears) from
Agent Provocateur, LaPerla and La Senza

Laidbackgrly · 03-08-2010, 05:06 PM

make her buy it!

Jedi · 03-13-2020, 03:26 PM

OK....I'm not sure how to even explain this whole thing but here goes.......Femmes I need answers as to why other femmes act the way they do. And I just wasn't happy being disrespected. OK here goes the story......there was this femme that I have known for many years but just online and there was never anything between us except friendship as far as I knew. Well when we met I was single. But that isn't the case anymore. She insisted on calling me Hun and Babe even when I requested she stop. I was told that was how she talked. This femme is very high maintenance and expects to be catered to. Now I agreed to do some work for her which she kinda took as a free line to me whenever she wanted. Now I'm not much for talking on the phone. and this femme would insist it was business and we just HAD to talk etc. It really just ended up being over an hour of my time wasted on nothing. And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on.

Now all this behavior was sending me the signals that she was trying to stake some claim to me that she has no right to. Am I wrong in that?
I mean she was very into talking all the time and taking up my time and I spent a good amount of time doing work for her. I have seen NO payment for any of it.

Now this fall we met in person and spent a day. She met my gf and everything. She was high maintenance all day which really wears me thin. Then she stopped at Walmart and I opted to wait in the car. When she finished shopping like 45 min to an hour later she threw a fit that she was disabled and legally blind (meanwhile she's driving all over in a rental car)etc. But I needed the break and wasn't going to apologize for it. Another red flag to me. I ain't your butch! Since I haven't been paid at all, I started setting boundaries with her as to how I would communicate with her. This ended our working relationship. Now I'm still owed total payment which I'm not holding my breath for.

Tell me.....did I miss read this whole situation? I think I was just too nice for to long.

~ocean · 03-13-2020, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Jedi

OK....I'm not sure how to even explain this whole thing but here goes.......Femmes I need answers as to why other femmes act the way they do. And I just wasn't happy being disrespected. OK here goes the story......there was this femme that I have known for many years but just online and there was never anything between us except friendship as far as I knew. Well when we met I was single. But that isn't the case anymore. She insisted on calling me Hun and Babe even when I requested she stop. I was told that was how she talked. This femme is very high maintenance and expects to be catered to. Now I agreed to do some work for her which she kinda took as a free line to me whenever she wanted. Now I'm not much for talking on the phone. and this femme would insist it was business and we just HAD to talk etc. It really just ended up being over an hour of my time wasted on nothing. And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on.

Now all this behavior was sending me the signals that she was trying to stake some claim to me that she has no right to. Am I wrong in that?
I mean she was very into talking all the time and taking up my time and I spent a good amount of time doing work for her. I have seen NO payment for any of it.

Now this fall we met in person and spent a day. She met my gf and everything. She was high maintenance all day which really wears me thin. Then she stopped at Walmart and I opted to wait in the car. When she finished shopping like 45 min to an hour later she threw a fit that she was disabled and legally blind (meanwhile she's driving all over in a rental car)etc. But I needed the break and wasn't going to apologize for it. Another red flag to me. I ain't your butch! Since I haven't been paid at all, I started setting boundaries with her as to how I would communicate with her. This ended our working relationship. Now I'm still owed total payment which I'm not holding my breath for.

Tell me.....did I miss read this whole situation? I think I was just too nice for to long.

she's crushing on you ~ that's why she got nasty ~ "run forest runnnn " don't look back !! lol gl jedi

CherylNYC · 03-14-2020, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Jedi

OK....

Tell me.....did I miss read this whole situation? I think I was just too nice for to long.

You were far too nice for far too long. And she's a jerk, and possibly a narcissist. This isn't femme-specific behavior, either. Of course it's entirely possible that she had romantic expectations of you, but even if that was the case, she expressed it like a really big jerk!

PlatinumPearl · 03-14-2020, 09:04 AM

What kind of work did you do for her? Are you able to retract the work or revoke her rights to access the content until she provides payment?

C0LLETTE · 03-14-2020, 09:44 AM

Jedi: "And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on."
What happened to "click...hang up" once the hairs on the back of your neck stood up?
And what was it you wanted, given you already "were not single anymore". To me it seems you hung in there far too long for all of this to be blamed on her.
Maybe you should take this as a learning moment about your own behaviour and then move on.

Jedi · 03-14-2020, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by C0LLETTE

Jedi: "And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on."
What happened to "click...hang up" once the hairs on the back of your neck stood up?
And what was it you wanted, given you already "were not single anymore". To me it seems you hung in there far too long for all of this to be blamed on her.
Maybe you should take this as a learning moment about your own behaviour and then move on.

I did say I was too nice for too long. But I did finally set the boundaries I needed to and she got mad.

11-22-2009, 07:02 PM	#21
Mister Bent Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: . Posts: 2,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,151 Thanked 5,825 Times in 1,722 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	awesome! I'm totally inspired now to get e some night wears for her upcoming birthday! __________________ Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin to slit throats. - H. L. Mencken

11-22-2009, 07:10 PM	#23
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Boom Boom Pow A certain gal just thinking outloud

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Laidbackgrly Junior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: . Posts: 80 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 69 Times in 25 Posts Rep Power: 431749	to buy or not to buy make her buy it!

03-13-2020, 03:26 PM	#35
Jedi Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: they are my world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In a galaxy far, far away Posts: 959 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,002 Thanked 1,732 Times in 544 Posts Rep Power: 12678953	OK....I'm not sure how to even explain this whole thing but here goes.......Femmes I need answers as to why other femmes act the way they do. And I just wasn't happy being disrespected. OK here goes the story......there was this femme that I have known for many years but just online and there was never anything between us except friendship as far as I knew. Well when we met I was single. But that isn't the case anymore. She insisted on calling me Hun and Babe even when I requested she stop. I was told that was how she talked. This femme is very high maintenance and expects to be catered to. Now I agreed to do some work for her which she kinda took as a free line to me whenever she wanted. Now I'm not much for talking on the phone. and this femme would insist it was business and we just HAD to talk etc. It really just ended up being over an hour of my time wasted on nothing. And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on. Now all this behavior was sending me the signals that she was trying to stake some claim to me that she has no right to. Am I wrong in that? I mean she was very into talking all the time and taking up my time and I spent a good amount of time doing work for her. I have seen NO payment for any of it. Now this fall we met in person and spent a day. She met my gf and everything. She was high maintenance all day which really wears me thin. Then she stopped at Walmart and I opted to wait in the car. When she finished shopping like 45 min to an hour later she threw a fit that she was disabled and legally blind (meanwhile she's driving all over in a rental car)etc. But I needed the break and wasn't going to apologize for it. Another red flag to me. I ain't your butch! Since I haven't been paid at all, I started setting boundaries with her as to how I would communicate with her. This ended our working relationship. Now I'm still owed total payment which I'm not holding my breath for. Tell me.....did I miss read this whole situation? I think I was just too nice for to long. __________________ May the Force be with you!

03-14-2020, 09:44 AM	#39
C0LLETTE Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Depends on the day. Preferred Pronoun?: "I" and "we" Relationship Status: Very good. Thank you for asking. Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 11,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,676 Thanked 15,177 Times in 4,341 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Jedi: "And she was impossible to get off the phone once she was on." What happened to "click...hang up" once the hairs on the back of your neck stood up? And what was it you wanted, given you already "were not single anymore". To me it seems you hung in there far too long for all of this to be blamed on her. Maybe you should take this as a learning moment about your own behaviour and then move on. __________________ ______________________________ ______________________________

11-22-2009, 07:31 PM	#29
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11-22-2009, 09:24 PM	#30
NotAnAverageGuy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Trans Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 1,723 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 109 Thanked 282 Times in 178 Posts Rep Power: 0	For the ladies, I could use some ideas, advice, etc.... When a certain femme comes to visit me from out of town, what is the best way for my house to be cleaned, I do it myself or hire someone to clean it from top to bottom? Should I buy certain candles she likes? Certain foods?

11-23-2009, 03:51 PM	#33
Hudson Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Truth is stranger than fiction. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Posts: 434 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 160 Thanked 574 Times in 210 Posts Rep Power: 365377	I like the 'night wears' (and day wears) from Agent Provocateur, LaPerla and La Senza

03-14-2020, 09:04 AM	#38
PlatinumPearl Member How Do You Identify?: Femme, Human Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her Join Date: Jul 2017 Location: Canada Posts: 1,148 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 966 Thanked 2,410 Times in 888 Posts Rep Power: 21474846	What kind of work did you do for her? Are you able to retract the work or revoke her rights to access the content until she provides payment?