Your relationship with your mom.

[Rockinonahigh]

In my family I never knew what wasn't disfuntional (?) cause all my cousins has the same issues with there parents as I did, all the siblings from my mothers family had some kind of mental thing going. One minute all was just fine then the next it was hells bells ducking then running for cover, my uncles were the somewhere back in the feudal days 300 years ago, the women were not meek nor mild but had some bad issue with sex that none of us cousins could figure out. It went from "don't touch me ever" or its cause "I have to"
sex was never talked about.My gram had 12 kids and raised 8.
Mom hated men I have no idea how I ever came to be. We had times we got along pretty well but mostly I did all I could to just to stay gone. No matter where I went or who I was with I knew I was going to have to give her a total list of what and where we all went and what went on no matter who did what ever, even what the adults did. It was like there were multiple personalities involved hear, at work or away from home she was a total diferent person it depended who she was with and what was going on. When times were good it was like walking through a mine field wondering what was going to set the next boom off. Thank goodness I didn't get what ever she got.. a beautiful mind was a big waist.

[Angeltoes]

Nope, she was not a good mom. I can only take her in small doses.

[storyspinner70]

My mother is a good enough mother. She chooses to pretend things are always good and has no idea who I actually am. She thinks I'm a terribly selfish person because I chose not to include her in why I do things and let her think what she wants because of it. I needed her when I was in my early 30s - abusive relationship, lost job, 30 year old best friend dying of cancer, money problems, etc. etc. etc. - all she could say to me was she couldn't afford to help me. Thing was, I never asked her for help. Not once. I just needed someone I loved to tell me everything was going to be okay - even if it wasn't. I pretty much realized I had no one to talk to or rely on that day. I've never forgotten or forgiven that, and I doubt I will.

She's more interested in being right than she is in not cutting someone to the bone. She knows I dated men and women equally and my current partner is a woman, but she merely gets this pained look and pretends it doesn't exist and no one will ever find out, so it's all good. What people think matters more to her than most things do. Her mother taught her that.

She was a wonderful mother when we were young. My brother isn't complicated and hasn't had a complicated life. She's a good mother to him still. She loves me. I love her. She's a good enough mother to me now. But that's all she'll ever be - good enough.

[Stone-Butch]

I think I had the best mother anyone could ever wish for. I never saw her take more than a sip of wine at special occasions, she never smoked, she never swore , she never hit us and she never yelled at us. My mother and father were married 64 years until he passed. My mother passed 5 yrs after him and I miss them both very much. We had good parents and we are thankful for that every day. When I lost my mother I lost part of my heart and I am blessed to have had her.