Caregivers and Stress

socialjustice_fsu · 05-26-2016, 01:34 AM

my precious mom is coming home from being in a physical rehab facility for 2 months following a major stroke. I will be her care giver. Although the CNA's, PT and OT have taught me so much related to caring for her I continue to feel inept. The thought of this dependency on me is overwhelming. We do have home health coming in starting next week. Mom is a one person assist with almost everything. She lost most of her vision, her speech has been affected and her left side is basically useless. I try not to think about the future too much but right now I seem to be doing a lot of 'what if's.' My health is not too good. Open heart 4 years ago, 1 MI and the constant fear of another one. My 35 year old daughter lives with mom and I. She is not a kind person and is a hindrance in most ways. Always wanting to argue....Not sure if I can tolerate that part too well. My mom has always been my daughter's enabler and subsequently it has created something similar to a tyrant. Mom has refused to make her move - only to rescue her one more time. She is a full time college student so at least she is earning a degree with good grades.
All I can do is take it one day at a time.
I am grateful for this place to simply talk it out and know I am not alone.

TIMBERWOLF · 05-26-2016, 12:46 PM

I would like to say great job to those of us that have had to take care of parents, spouses or ex spouses. It's not a easy job cause if it was everyone would do it. I know just watching my best friend of 14 yrs and now wife that she put up with a lot of abuse and shit taking care of her ex partner with cancer cause she promised hym she would and to me that is commendable . I came down to help her with hym and he asked me to take care of her and my wife's daughter and also to shave hym. Dignity is something I gave my Mom and Dad when they were passing. im in End Stage Kidney Disease and have many Dr Appointments that my wife sets up with the right Dr's, takes care of the house and her daughter plus going to college on line. Sometimes I don't know how she does it, but I appreciate her and love her so we do what we can. I wish she had better insurance so we can get her taken care of also. Just ranting today but GOD,Great Spirit blessing on all that have to do this.

TIMBERWOLF

05-26-2016, 01:34 AM	#1
socialjustice_fsu Member How Do You Identify?: Feminine Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: It’s all good. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The gulf waters are sapphire blue and the beach sand is white as snow. Posts: 607 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,866 Thanked 2,155 Times in 439 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	This Friday my precious mom is coming home from being in a physical rehab facility for 2 months following a major stroke. I will be her care giver. Although the CNA's, PT and OT have taught me so much related to caring for her I continue to feel inept. The thought of this dependency on me is overwhelming. We do have home health coming in starting next week. Mom is a one person assist with almost everything. She lost most of her vision, her speech has been affected and her left side is basically useless. I try not to think about the future too much but right now I seem to be doing a lot of 'what if's.' My health is not too good. Open heart 4 years ago, 1 MI and the constant fear of another one. My 35 year old daughter lives with mom and I. She is not a kind person and is a hindrance in most ways. Always wanting to argue....Not sure if I can tolerate that part too well. My mom has always been my daughter's enabler and subsequently it has created something similar to a tyrant. Mom has refused to make her move - only to rescue her one more time. She is a full time college student so at least she is earning a degree with good grades. All I can do is take it one day at a time. I am grateful for this place to simply talk it out and know I am not alone. __________________ If you are going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill

05-26-2016, 12:46 PM	#2
TIMBERWOLF Member How Do You Identify?: Old Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Lesbian Butch so that would be she, but I come to just about anything S Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: FL Posts: 384 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 218 Thanked 591 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 4807545	I would like to say great job to those of us that have had to take care of parents, spouses or ex spouses. It's not a easy job cause if it was everyone would do it. I know just watching my best friend of 14 yrs and now wife that she put up with a lot of abuse and shit taking care of her ex partner with cancer cause she promised hym she would and to me that is commendable . I came down to help her with hym and he asked me to take care of her and my wife's daughter and also to shave hym. Dignity is something I gave my Mom and Dad when they were passing. im in End Stage Kidney Disease and have many Dr Appointments that my wife sets up with the right Dr's, takes care of the house and her daughter plus going to college on line. Sometimes I don't know how she does it, but I appreciate her and love her so we do what we can. I wish she had better insurance so we can get her taken care of also. Just ranting today but GOD,Great Spirit blessing on all that have to do this. TIMBERWOLF