Showing scars: what are your relationship fears?

Teaandroses3 · 07-03-2016, 09:55 PM

Even at my age I tend to be optimistic and romantic. I still have trouble identifying the players until I get hurt. Then I look back and say to myself, duh, should have known!
So then on top of being hurt I feel really stupid.

Chad · 07-04-2016, 06:22 AM

After reading the posts here I have to agree that trust can be an issue. However, any issues that I had in past relationships I leave in the past. The issue belonged to that person in my mind.

Players, I have not thought about players in a long time and I doubt that I could spot one easily. I may have already met players and did not know it.

dark_crystal · 07-04-2016, 08:37 AM

Because financial exploitation was a feature of all my major relationships preceding this one, i get really freaked out when there is any kind of job-related problems.

When Mr. Jenny and I first got together I would freak out any time she hit her snooze button in the morning because I just knew she was going to be late and get fired

She found this very offensive as she has now been at the same job for 31 years and I should have been able to see that as proof that she knows how to not get fired

She's right. It was all my issue

07-03-2016, 09:55 PM	#1
Teaandroses3 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Ms Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Apr 2016 Location: Alabama Posts: 5 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 27 Times in 5 Posts Rep Power: 0	Naive Even at my age I tend to be optimistic and romantic. I still have trouble identifying the players until I get hurt. Then I look back and say to myself, duh, should have known! So then on top of being hurt I feel really stupid.

07-04-2016, 06:22 AM	#2
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Relationships After reading the posts here I have to agree that trust can be an issue. However, any issues that I had in past relationships I leave in the past. The issue belonged to that person in my mind. Players, I have not thought about players in a long time and I doubt that I could spot one easily. I may have already met players and did not know it.

07-04-2016, 08:37 AM	#3
dark_crystal Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: jenny Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl Relationship Status: First Lady of the United SMH Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Houston, Texas Posts: 5,445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,532 Thanked 26,551 Times in 4,688 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Because financial exploitation was a feature of all my major relationships preceding this one, i get really freaked out when there is any kind of job-related problems. When Mr. Jenny and I first got together I would freak out any time she hit her snooze button in the morning because I just knew she was going to be late and get fired She found this very offensive as she has now been at the same job for 31 years and I should have been able to see that as proof that she knows how to not get fired She's right. It was all my issue __________________