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			I will keep you and your baby in my thoughts.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
		
		
		
		
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			![]() ![]() ![]() My sweet little dachshund had a stroke today & is gone. I am so heartbroken & filled with sadness & my eyes are so swollen... Run free & happy lil Heidi...mommy loves you sweet baby. I will see you at that Rainbow Bridge one day...wait for me.... 
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   I know how much you loved your sweet Heidi. Love and hugs to you and yours.
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			(((((((((((( clay & Heidi )))))))))))))  soo sry.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
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 I know it hurts, my friend. You stood by me when I had to walk that walk myself and I now stand by you. Much love.  
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			Clay, I am so sorry for your loss.  
		
		
		
		
		
		
			Thoughts and prayers to you... 
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			Clay I am so, so sorry about your little dog!!!!!! I know how bad it hurts, my friend. My prayers are with you and your family.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
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			Clay, I am so very sorry about sweet lil Heidi. I know you know she is without pain now, but I also know about the abundance of pain in your heart. Just know her love is still with you and that you did all you could. Big hugs...
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
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			Sorry to hear about Heidi, clay.  Seems they take a piece of us with them when they go.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
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			Thank you all so much for your compassion & kind words of comfort! 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			I am still numb, thinking that just a few hours ago, she was still here, then I realize, she is not here physically BUT her huge spirit is very much in my heart. I can't eat, or think, or do much of anything. I know I have to get up & go on with life, but damn it sucks losing her...she was everything to me, my Heidi Grilla. Her transition was very peaceful & I got to be with her, feeding her her fave snack of mini beggin strips...bacon..bacon... Sorry for derail of thread....  
		
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 My condolences to you and your partner clay. As you said, Heidi is free -- dancing across that rainbow bridge like a young pup-- she will be be waiting for her mommy I am sure.  
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 NEVER apologize for sharing your sorrow clay --it is holding it in that harms us. I know I am new, but if you need to talk you can PM me.  
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 Oh buddy, I am so sorry. You are in my heart and in my thoughts. Call me if you need to talk. Love you, Chad  | 
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			I'm so sorry about your lost clay... 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			awww, I can see her chasing that elusive squirrel....running like the dickens with her ears flopping and ever so thankful for her Mom and the love she was given here with you.  Her k-9 journey she is now on will be a great one, for her mom taught and loved her so!  No doubt she will continue to protect her mommy.  You my friend have the love of one small but huge hottiedog in your heart!!
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			I'm asking all who can to please light a candle and send out prayers/energy healings for my spouse's daughter, who has been battling heroine addiction and other issues for a long time now. Unfortunately my dear stepdaughter does not fully understand or care or whatever, that her Mother worries constantly about her and the stress is contributing to my spouse's already decking health. But I (we) are praying for a fresh start this time and hopefully we can repair our family before it is too late. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			![]() ![]() My sweet cousin & the youngest of my 1st cousins, was found dead yesterday morning. May your soul be at peace & you will be in a better plane.....I love you cuz!!! 
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