What have you learned?

MsTinkerbelly · 07-18-2016, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by clay

This past weekend, I put my items in my personal grocery bags, & at checkout I set them on belt....I have a nice freezer bag I use & a heavy duty square one...I just always do this when I am shopping alone...makes it so much easier.

Well, a very rude & obnoxious woman behind me started running off at the mouth...."you need to get up & unload your bags, it is not her job to do so for you. I have worked as a cashier for 32 years & have never in my life seen any such a thing happen. And besides if you didn't "lay on the couch & eat bags of chips & cartons of ice cream all day, you wouldn't need to use a cart"...OH NO, she did NOT go there. Oh yes she did. It startled me so much & I got up, politely unloaded my bags then sat back down, & I turned to her with a LOT OF RESERVE and said..."you need to mind your own business & wherever you work, I sure hope to never patronize that store..." & left the store.

Well...the difference between your experience and my experience boils down to one thing; I am not a nice person, and i have a heck of a bitchy resting face. I would have got in her face and told her to shove it up her ***, and I would have felt zero remorse.

Not to rag on you, but by doing what she wanted you to do (unloading your bags) you reinforced her bad behavior.

kittygrrl · 07-18-2016, 10:36 PM

even after all these years, people continue to surprise me

clay · 07-19-2016, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

Well...the difference between your experience and my experience boils down to one thing; I am not a nice person, and i have a heck of a bitchy resting face. I would have got in her face and told her to shove it up her ***, and I would have felt zero remorse.

Not to rag on you, but by doing what she wanted you to do (unloading your bags) you reinforced her bad behavior.

I don't think I did. I choose what "battles" to have. Obviously, for me, to engage someone with that kind of behavior would only escalate hers.

I can hold my own if it is necessary, so I would rather act like someone with some control and not feed into her behavior. That is just my own preference....

Bèsame* · 07-19-2016, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by clay

I don't think I did. I choose what "battles" to have. Obviously, for me, to engage someone with that kind of behavior would only escalate hers.

I can hold my own if it is necessary, so I would rather act like someone with some control and not feed into her behavior. That is just my own preference....

I work in customer service, ALL. DAY. LONG.

Your best bet is to pick your battles. Why stoop to someone else's level? Be the better person, kill them with kindness. Sure, it won't make them see things different, it's in their mindset to stir the pot. Let it not be yours.

....oh, and when someone is mad, you might be the first level to feel their anger, try not to take it personal.

The public is a interesting group! The things this group has taught me!

MsTinkerbelly · 07-19-2016, 10:32 AM

I have learned.....

That when I don't sleep properly, I nap all day long.

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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