Butch Pronouns - A Questionaire

Linus · 05-17-2010, 04:56 AM

I'll make it relatively simple (sorry.. the questionnaire made my head spin this morning). I look at their profile or see how they reference themselves (go back through posts). Whatever their choices is, I'm happy with. Few people get my pronoun wrong unless it's deliberately done. Neutral or masculine wouldn't bother me but feminine still rubs me not so right.

Apocalipstic · 05-17-2010, 03:58 PM

Thank you Nat!

I try to use the pronoun people prefer. if I don't know, I try to ask.

I HATE it when people automatically use "He" or "Hy" for every Butch without asking. I try to be understamding and remind them "she" if indeed the person uses "she" as their prefered pronoun, but often, it makes no difference.

I used to avoid people who did this even after being reminded several times, I am trying to soften on it and continue to remind them....but it sure gets old.

Softly · 05-17-2010, 04:17 PM

I dislike it as well. I have really only run into this issue on the interwebz. I once chatted with someone who kept calling my partner hy and when I corrected this person they said "well, hy is your Daddy, right"?

yeah, AND that makes my partner a HY???

I'm too impatient to deal with people like that.

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I HATE it when people automatically use "He" or "Hy" for every Butch without asking. I try to be understamding and remind them "she" if indeed the person uses "she" as their prefered pronoun, but often, it makes no difference.

I used to avoid people who did this even after being reminded several times, I am trying to soften on it and continue to remind them....but it sure gets old.

View Poll Results: Please choose the option that fits you best.
I am a femme and I try to never use default pronouns for butches.	33	20.50%
I am a femme, and I sometimes use "he" as a default pronoun for butches.	18	11.18%
I am a femme, and I sometimes use "she" as a default pronoun for butches.	19	11.80%
I am a femme, I sometimes use "hy" as a default pronoun for butches.	7	4.35%
I am a butch and I try to never use default pronouns for butches.	27	16.77%
I am a butch, and I sometimes use "he" as a default pronoun for butches.	17	10.56%
I am a butch, and I sometimes use "she" as a default pronoun for butches.	11	6.83%
I am a butch, I sometimes use "hy" as a default pronoun for butches.	8	4.97%
I am trans and I try to never use default pronouns for butches.	14	8.70%
I am trans, and I sometimes use "he" as a default pronoun for butches.	8	4.97%
I am trans, and I sometimes use "she" as a default pronoun for butches.	1	0.62%
I am trans, I sometimes use "hy" as a default pronoun for butches.	5	3.11%
See my answer below	11	6.83%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 161. You may not vote on this poll

05-17-2010, 04:56 AM	#1
Linus The Planet's Technical Bubba How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him/Geek Relationship Status: Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Redondo Beach, CA Posts: 5,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,929 Thanked 10,727 Times in 3,172 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I'll make it relatively simple (sorry.. the questionnaire made my head spin this morning). I look at their profile or see how they reference themselves (go back through posts). Whatever their choices is, I'm happy with. Few people get my pronoun wrong unless it's deliberately done. Neutral or masculine wouldn't bother me but feminine still rubs me not so right. __________________ Personal Blog \|\| [] \|\| Cigar Blog "We become Human Doings instead of Human Beings." -- Ram Dass

05-17-2010, 03:58 PM	#2
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Thank you Nat! I try to use the pronoun people prefer. if I don't know, I try to ask. I HATE it when people automatically use "He" or "Hy" for every Butch without asking. I try to be understamding and remind them "she" if indeed the person uses "she" as their prefered pronoun, but often, it makes no difference. I used to avoid people who did this even after being reminded several times, I am trying to soften on it and continue to remind them....but it sure gets old. __________________