Trans Invisibility

[Linus]

Originally Posted by PapaC

Are there other guys like me that have these moments? Do you miss your 'obvious' queer/butch look? Does it bring up moments of loneliness for you? Do you talk to other trans-friends about it? (for the record, I have problems bringing up this topic with my local pals, as many of them have not lived in any sort of b/f bubble let alone queer id'd)

I do have a sense of loneliness but I am lucky enough, at this point, to be in an area where an hour long subway ride brings me to a trans community that does understand. I know that if I was in the Toronto/Burlington area that I wouldn't be lucky enough to have this. I've talked about it with some of the guys from the trans group but it comes and goes (particularly since I haven't been there in a while).

In some ways, I do miss it because I think the assumption is that I'm like every other white guy out there when, in fact, I'm not. I do find that the "invisibleness" or ease to fade is something that is strongly associated (felt?) by the FTM community, a stark contrast to the MTFs who often stand out.

There are times I want to get a pink trans triangle to wear on a lapel when visiting LGBT areas just to identify myself.