The Femme Continuum: The "Highs" and "Lows" of Visibility

[SassyLeo]

Originally Posted by blush

Do you think that the labeling is more pronounced in the online community? I say this because usually if you put a gaggle of femmes together, our femme-ness becomes blinding. You can see it from space. Dress, makeup etc...doesn't seem to matter.

Hmmm... that is interesting to think about...

So tell me if I am understanding: Do you mean specifically that labeling online, like here, without the added piece of physical community is more pronounced?

As in if none of us every physically met, we are more apt to label because we haven't seen each other in person to see that all Femmes are not all dresses and heels?

Did any of that make sense? I am having a hard time articulating....

[blush]

Originally Posted by SassyLeo

Hmmm... that is interesting to think about...

So tell me if I am understanding: Do you mean specifically that labeling online, like here, without the added piece of physical community is more pronounced?

As in if none of us every physically met, we are more apt to label because we haven't seen each other in person to see that all Femmes are not all dresses and heels?

Did any of that make sense? I am having a hard time articulating....

Yeah! That's exactly it.

[SassyLeo]

Originally Posted by blush

Yeah! That's exactly it.

I think if someone had no physical examples of Femme and just read online, looked at photos online and did not participate in THIS kind of dicussion, yes. I think feminine & Femme have been synonymously perpetuated for years.

The thing is, when you get a bunch of Femmes in a room, I think that stereotype rings true. I mean, if you lined up 20 Femmes, I would venture to guess that at least 50 to 60% are more feminine than not. So... there is still the condundrum.