What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

Martina · 12-07-2016, 11:13 AM

Do not be boring to me. My friends and I can sit around and talk about laundry, and I won't be bored. And there are some people who everyone seems to think fascinating, and are by objective measures, but who I can't wait to get away from. So who knows why some people are interesting to me and others aren't? But be one of those I find interesting.

Do not be one of those fabulous, performative, look-at-me kinda queers. That shit wears me out. Butches, femmes, and other genders can be like this. It can catch the eye and occasionally warm more southerly regions, but for day-to-day living, no thanks.

These are different, but I will lump them into one point. Be capable of empathy, be considerate, and have good manners. Basically, be someone I don't have to train like a stray dog. If you are old, which is likely, and haven't acquired these qualities by now, you are probably an asshole. So, I'll give that a miss.

legally_b10nde · 12-24-2016, 04:07 PM

1. Abusive - physically or verbally

2. Cheating - lying is part of cheating

3. Arrogance - cockiness or showing swagger is fine.

4. Have a great sense of humor

5. Must be good in the sack

Ooops, I've added two more..... oh well

6. Emotionally & financially stable, responsible

7. Minimum 5'8" or taller

8. Being deceptive with full of B.S and drama

Ooops, now I've added three more! So spank me!! LOL

JDeere · 12-25-2016, 10:51 PM

I just basically want honesty, respect and no drama!

kittygrrl · 12-26-2016, 09:59 PM

-a dedication to your sweetheart, that makes you evaluate every issue's importance in the bigger picture of your life together....I think the realization makes you behave more reasonably and be more open to expansive resolutions to the glitches every deep relationship will have-if this doesn't occur to you early, you probably need to rethink whether you're ready for anything deeper

-to think of your sweetheart's needs as equal in value and importance to your own

-realizing goodness, faithfulness, kindness have to be part of what's important to you both

candy_coated_bitch · 12-26-2016, 10:05 PM

Three non-negotiable:

1) honesty

2) kindness

3) a good sense of humor

JDeere · 12-26-2016, 10:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by candy_coated_bitch

Three non-negotiable:

1) honesty

2) kindness

3) a good sense of humor

A good sense of humor never hurt anyone

Martina · 12-26-2016, 11:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JDeere

A good sense of humor never hurt anyone

JDeere, girls will think you have a good sense of humor if you wear Hello Kitty gear.

12-07-2016, 11:13 AM	#1
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Do not be boring to me. My friends and I can sit around and talk about laundry, and I won't be bored. And there are some people who everyone seems to think fascinating, and are by objective measures, but who I can't wait to get away from. So who knows why some people are interesting to me and others aren't? But be one of those I find interesting. Do not be one of those fabulous, performative, look-at-me kinda queers. That shit wears me out. Butches, femmes, and other genders can be like this. It can catch the eye and occasionally warm more southerly regions, but for day-to-day living, no thanks. These are different, but I will lump them into one point. Be capable of empathy, be considerate, and have good manners. Basically, be someone I don't have to train like a stray dog. If you are old, which is likely, and haven't acquired these qualities by now, you are probably an asshole. So, I'll give that a miss. __________________ "No matter how cynical I get, I just can't keep up" - Lily Tomlin

12-24-2016, 04:07 PM	#2
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12-26-2016, 09:59 PM	#4
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