What have you learned?

JDeere · 12-18-2016, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by legally_b10nde

I have learned that a banana and Nutella is YUM!

Great minds think alike! I love nutella and bananas.

JDeere · 12-18-2016, 11:22 PM

I have learned to trust my gut instincts in certain cases.

I over think way too much as well.

Gayandgray · 01-05-2017, 08:41 PM

I have learned that I deserve to be happy.

Chad · 01-06-2017, 12:30 PM

Drinking wine in the evening gives me weird dreams and I wake up a lot. Yucky.

BullDog · 01-14-2017, 12:54 AM

I ran across an article today that really got me thinking. I have learned that romantic love and passion are beautiful and necessary for a good relationship but that liking and respecting the person you are with is just as important as being madly in love and passionate. Passion and romance are important but not sufficient. I did already know that but have learned along the way some important lessons regarding this. I used to think communication was the key, but actually respect is even more important. And of course true commitment.

I've had what I thought was great communication with past partners only to realize later that they totally don't get me at all. I am always exactly myself, so if someone doesn't get me and what my intentions and love for them is after a lot of communication and spending time with me where that person and our relationship is my top priority at all times and I am doing everything I can for them, then I don't get that. I've also had relationships where the communication wasn't good, and that definitely doesn't work either. All I know is it is better to find someone who really likes as well as loves me for the person I really am and not some idealized version. The person respects that I have to work and do many other practical things as part of my every day routine and I am still thinking of her every single second that I am doing that and it is out of love as well as necessity. Life is not all hearts and roses and sometimes I express my love for someone in "practical" ways as well as "romantic" ways. It really helps to have a partner who understands this.

This article is awesome:

https://qz.com/884448/every-successf...exact-reasons/

Like the article says, you really want to be with someone where you both genuinely enjoy being with one another and respect one another. It's something I think that is easy to agree with and feel you do know, but sometimes you have to go through some things to really see and understand this on a practical as well as romantic level.

"True love—that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy—is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances."

Clyde · 01-14-2017, 02:07 AM

Not to mix plaid and stripes.

Kätzchen · 01-15-2017, 12:09 AM

That my youngest son is willing to divorce himself from one of his really bad habits (Alcohol Addiction). I think that half his battle in addressing his addictions was his inability to see how his choices were harming his life. He's ready to divorce himself from alcohol. I couldn't be happier for him.

01-05-2017, 08:41 PM	#3
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,862 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,584 Thanked 12,885 Times in 3,081 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I have learned that I deserve to be happy. __________________

01-06-2017, 12:30 PM	#4
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,312 Times in 5,677 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Learned Drinking wine in the evening gives me weird dreams and I wake up a lot. Yucky.

01-14-2017, 12:54 AM	#5
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,640 Times in 4,463 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I ran across an article today that really got me thinking. I have learned that romantic love and passion are beautiful and necessary for a good relationship but that liking and respecting the person you are with is just as important as being madly in love and passionate. Passion and romance are important but not sufficient. I did already know that but have learned along the way some important lessons regarding this. I used to think communication was the key, but actually respect is even more important. And of course true commitment. I've had what I thought was great communication with past partners only to realize later that they totally don't get me at all. I am always exactly myself, so if someone doesn't get me and what my intentions and love for them is after a lot of communication and spending time with me where that person and our relationship is my top priority at all times and I am doing everything I can for them, then I don't get that. I've also had relationships where the communication wasn't good, and that definitely doesn't work either. All I know is it is better to find someone who really likes as well as loves me for the person I really am and not some idealized version. The person respects that I have to work and do many other practical things as part of my every day routine and I am still thinking of her every single second that I am doing that and it is out of love as well as necessity. Life is not all hearts and roses and sometimes I express my love for someone in "practical" ways as well as "romantic" ways. It really helps to have a partner who understands this. This article is awesome: https://qz.com/884448/every-successf...exact-reasons/ Like the article says, you really want to be with someone where you both genuinely enjoy being with one another and respect one another. It's something I think that is easy to agree with and feel you do know, but sometimes you have to go through some things to really see and understand this on a practical as well as romantic level. "True love—that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy—is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances." __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

01-14-2017, 02:07 AM	#6
Clyde Member How Do You Identify?: Mr. Queer Butch. Preferred Pronoun?: He/They. Relationship Status: Butchelor. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland. Posts: 256 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 320 Thanked 700 Times in 195 Posts Rep Power: 11912190	Not to mix plaid and stripes. __________________ Find a reason to be happy right now.

12-18-2016, 11:22 PM	#2
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	I have learned to trust my gut instincts in certain cases. I over think way too much as well.

01-15-2017, 12:09 AM	#7
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: As a very feminine woman. Relationship Status: No thanks, I am not available. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Near smoke signals in the sky. Posts: 16,202 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,455 Thanked 33,609 Times in 10,706 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	That my youngest son is willing to divorce himself from one of his really bad habits (Alcohol Addiction). I think that half his battle in addressing his addictions was his inability to see how his choices were harming his life. He's ready to divorce himself from alcohol. I couldn't be happier for him.