Alone for the Holidays

Chad · 12-23-2016, 01:34 PM

I am not completely alone but I do feel lonely. I will see my mom on Christmas Day but that is it. I saw the kids last weekend and dropped off gifts.

I did not decorate my home for the holidays because it seemed like too much work for just me and the baby kitty.

It all just seems a little sad to me.

Venus007 · 12-23-2016, 02:03 PM

I wish I were alone for the holiday so that I could do exactly what I want which is nothing except have some sort of marvelous movie marathon and cook something lovely for myself and perhaps read or paint.

Instead I have to juggle people and responsibilities and appear "Holiday Appropriate" instead of the very anti "Christmas Spirit" way I actually feel.

Putting on a fake veneer of cheer is so much work but it is still better than acting how I feel and having to defend it.

Only 3 more days

Genesis · 12-23-2016, 04:10 PM

This year I feel like the holidays just came out of nowhere...
it does not feel like Christmas to me...
This time of the year is a bit of a conundrum for me. Having lost my partner over a year and a half ago and having a family that loves me in their own way.

I am grateful for my close friends who love me like family.
Yet, part of me feels alone.... I will be surrounded with loving people
who truly love and care for me....

Sending love and warm holiday wishes to each of you...

WickedFemme · 12-23-2016, 07:49 PM

Yeah, I'm alone. Bobbi is in Canada - we couldn't afford to travel this year because we just laid out money for immigration lawyer and fees to the feds.
My family of origin is on the East Coast and I just started a new job not even a year ago.
I made some life changes that have required me to change where I go and who I hang with and that is all good.
So, I splurged and bought prime rib. I cooked have of it tonight and am home alone with my little dog, my bestest friend, watching Sons of Anarchy. I made some cookies for a co-workers husband who dropped off some free wood at my place up north. I started getting back into my artwork and that helps too.
Well, that's about it. I don't feel self-pity, but some things hurt sometimes. People who I thought were friends have their own set of priorities. I am not one to invite myself or go somewhere that I feel unwanted.
I will drive back up north for work on Sunday morning, drop off cookies, and make another quick stop on the way. Monday, I am joining co-workers for ice skating - I made cookies for the kids. So, even though things are way different and weird, I am doing okay.
I am grateful to be employed, have a wife who adores me, a roof over my head, new friends,and enough money to eat yummy food. Sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming, but it passes eventually.
Happy holidays everyone! If you are alone, that awful feeling in the pit of your stomach will pass.

JDeere · 01-01-2017, 02:11 AM

Just know that if any of yall ever need an ear to talk, I am a message away. I can understand the lonely feeling and the anti Christmas sentiments as well.

Mel C. · 01-01-2017, 03:03 AM

Cheers to New Years!

Slow breath · 01-05-2017, 11:12 PM

To fight the alone feelings over the holidays I try to travel every year. I don't have family and in the past had partners who didn't either. Always an emotional time of year. I am grateful for the privilege to be able to travel. You can easily forget it is a holiday when on a holiday. I usually host a big holiday party for friends then get out of town. The past few years was Vegas, wish it were a bit warmer there. But easy to do solo. Cruising is great, just don't know how I'd fair Solo on a cruise. Caribbean is also a fave to escape early winters. Maybe a B-F holiday event is in order!

12-23-2016, 01:34 PM	#1
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12-23-2016, 02:03 PM	#2
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12-23-2016, 04:10 PM	#3
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12-23-2016, 07:49 PM	#4
WickedFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Very Happily Married to Bobbi46 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: where I want to be Posts: 313 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 355 Thanked 994 Times in 221 Posts Rep Power: 7014692	Yeah, I'm alone. Bobbi is in Canada - we couldn't afford to travel this year because we just laid out money for immigration lawyer and fees to the feds. My family of origin is on the East Coast and I just started a new job not even a year ago. I made some life changes that have required me to change where I go and who I hang with and that is all good. So, I splurged and bought prime rib. I cooked have of it tonight and am home alone with my little dog, my bestest friend, watching Sons of Anarchy. I made some cookies for a co-workers husband who dropped off some free wood at my place up north. I started getting back into my artwork and that helps too. Well, that's about it. I don't feel self-pity, but some things hurt sometimes. People who I thought were friends have their own set of priorities. I am not one to invite myself or go somewhere that I feel unwanted. I will drive back up north for work on Sunday morning, drop off cookies, and make another quick stop on the way. Monday, I am joining co-workers for ice skating - I made cookies for the kids. So, even though things are way different and weird, I am doing okay. I am grateful to be employed, have a wife who adores me, a roof over my head, new friends,and enough money to eat yummy food. Sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming, but it passes eventually. Happy holidays everyone! If you are alone, that awful feeling in the pit of your stomach will pass.

01-01-2017, 02:11 AM	#5
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01-01-2017, 03:03 AM	#6
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01-05-2017, 11:12 PM	#7
Slow breath Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 154 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 54 Thanked 192 Times in 69 Posts Rep Power: 2612431	To fight the alone feelings over the holidays I try to travel every year. I don't have family and in the past had partners who didn't either. Always an emotional time of year. I am grateful for the privilege to be able to travel. You can easily forget it is a holiday when on a holiday. I usually host a big holiday party for friends then get out of town. The past few years was Vegas, wish it were a bit warmer there. But easy to do solo. Cruising is great, just don't know how I'd fair Solo on a cruise. Caribbean is also a fave to escape early winters. Maybe a B-F holiday event is in order!