What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

clay · 12-28-2016, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Greco

Honesty...Honesty...Honesty...did I say Honesty?!

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In 2017, may you be embraced by peace of mind, prosperity, and an honest, and

loyal, lovingly caring Beloved.

Happy New Year!

Greco

Hi Greco.....thank you for the wonderful wishes.

I have indeed found all of these attributes & so many more in my best friend, on our journey to love & LTR. I found her in 2016, so my New Year s already triply blessed! Wish same for you my friend!!

JDeere · 12-28-2016, 11:24 PM

Ohh loyalty is another good one to have.

That is very hard to find these days.

Greco · 01-02-2017, 05:04 PM

Indeed, high level of discernment required for sure...actions speak louder than words.

Greco

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Originally Posted by JDeere

Ohh loyalty is another good one to have.

That is very hard to find these days.

Lyte · 01-02-2017, 05:06 PM

Communication / Honesty / Fidelity

JDeere · 01-02-2017, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Greco

Indeed, high level of discernment required for sure...actions speak louder than words.

Greco

Very true, I prefer actions over words!

imperfect_cupcake · 01-03-2017, 05:31 AM

1) Independence, for both of us. If I do accept someone into my life, they have to compliment it. So they would have to love their own independence of life as much as I love my own. That's the only way it would work.

2) Similar sense of humour. Still on my bare essentials. If they don't have dark humour and love playful sarcasm/irreverent humour, wit, its probably not going anywhere physical.

3) Good Kinky Sex Life.

that they dont smell bad and don't lie is kind of a given. I take that as an unsaid baseline that is so understood by pretty much everyone, it doesn't need saying.

however, I don't care about fidelity, nor do I care if they have money or not. I am happy to pay for dates and holidays. I don't care if they like to fool around at parties, or have dates with long term fwbs they reall care about. As long as their feelings for me are sincere, without dramatics, they put some time aside for me especially, and they are honest/loyal.

You'd think this was a low bar. Apparently not low enough.

deeds · 01-03-2017, 05:56 AM

I'm flexible on the likes, as everyone is individual and that is interesting to me..
But the women I can't stand to be around are the ones with loud mouths, The ones who carry a chip on their shoulder from their past lovers.And the ones who think their own shit don't stink..

Women like Caroline...

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deeds Senior Member How Do You Identify?: G-d made Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,588 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 711 Thanked 402 Times in 254 Posts Rep Power: 7194440	I'm flexible on the likes, as everyone is individual and that is interesting to me.. But the women I can't stand to be around are the ones with loud mouths, The ones who carry a chip on their shoulder from their past lovers.And the ones who think their own shit don't stink.. Women like Caroline... __________________

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Lyte Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Meh... I'm not very particular about this. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: The south... bleh! Posts: 1,744 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 5,113 Times in 1,504 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	Communication / Honesty / Fidelity

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imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	1) Independence, for both of us. If I do accept someone into my life, they have to compliment it. So they would have to love their own independence of life as much as I love my own. That's the only way it would work. 2) Similar sense of humour. Still on my bare essentials. If they don't have dark humour and love playful sarcasm/irreverent humour, wit, its probably not going anywhere physical. 3) Good Kinky Sex Life. that they dont smell bad and don't lie is kind of a given. I take that as an unsaid baseline that is so understood by pretty much everyone, it doesn't need saying. however, I don't care about fidelity, nor do I care if they have money or not. I am happy to pay for dates and holidays. I don't care if they like to fool around at parties, or have dates with long term fwbs they reall care about. As long as their feelings for me are sincere, without dramatics, they put some time aside for me especially, and they are honest/loyal. You'd think this was a low bar. Apparently not low enough.