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07-14-2014, 08:59 AM
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For me personally, the biggest personal and most positive change I've ever made in my life is to finally get and understand that loving oneself [Not in a narcissistic way!] is the most important thing that anyone can do. It's one thing to say that you get it. It's another thing to really, really love yourself and treat yourself with love, kindness, acceptance and authenticity. It's freedom. It's power. It's magic.
It is my opinion, based solely on my own personal experience, that when you know, trust, appreciate and believe in yourself; own your value, you will not be drawn to anything or anyone negative or damaging to yourself or anyone else. |
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07-14-2014, 10:37 AM
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Queer... that is all you get Preferred Pronoun?:
um... she.. I think... *shrug* call me anything that pleases ya Relationship Status:
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I have learned many things over the years, not that I am old or anything, but some years were worse then others. Lets see if I can remember it all for (generic) you.
Breathe Let go Smile it will release endorphins to help you feel happy go for a walk or a run Pet an animal that will not bite or scratch you ascertain the problem and if it can be solved If it can be solved, solve it If it cannot be solved, accept it and move on Get out of bed, staying there only feeds your depression take a shower Take a nap, sometimes sleeping on it can solve it talk to a friend that doesnt give advice, it might help you come up with a solution the past is gone, tomorrow is an iffy, so live for today Meditate If you cannot meditate chant, Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo to shut your brain up When you lay down at night to sleep, your thoughts are plagued with doubts about your day, so fantasize about happy things. A beach, A mountain, being in the arms of your one true love. Be your own personal super hero/oine. Be your favorite character in your favorite book Make something Get dressed up just because you can Ok I think I have rambled enough.. Tata have a good day
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07-14-2014, 11:17 AM
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Timed Out - Identity Issues
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Married to the gym..it's true love <3 
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07-15-2014, 08:05 AM
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um... she.. I think... *shrug* call me anything that pleases ya Relationship Status:
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Forgive yourself for not know what you want. Sometimes you have to figure out what you don't want to know what you do want.
We don't come with a handbook... if we do someone has been lying to me and I want a copy!
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07-15-2014, 02:36 PM
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she, her, little one Relationship Status:
dating myself. 
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08-10-2016, 06:46 PM
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It's been a huge help to me to attend Al-anon meetings. When I go, I never attend the same group meeting. I go to a variety of new meetings because no day is the same, much like life -- in and of itself.
But, devoting an hour of each day to any meeting I choose to attend, helps me in practicing several skills. Like: letting go, keeping life simple, devoting care and attention to me, making life somewhat more pleasurable, in most all cases as it concerns me. Sometimes it's not easy to let go. After all, constantly caring for my son's kind of over took my own ability to care about me. So the biggest gift I give myself daily is doing things that ultimately show how much I care about myself. That, and riding my bicycle daily. I'm in great shape, I don't feel so stressed out, and I get a lot of joy from taking life and living life in simpler terms of lifestyle choices. |
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08-11-2016, 04:07 AM
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I am alright and still smiling - keeping my eyes on what lasts and matters 
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Staying in the moment...
something I have learned and continue to learn... the moment is quite a rare place near a tranquil, winding river.... even a beaver might surprise me there on a rare occasion... to feel the sunshine on my face... to have THIS moment... to live a grateful life... NOW is all I am promised...and in my NOW I will be present... So today... I am given a precious HERE and NOW... and to have another hand in mine who happens to live that way... I am touched beyond words... a smile is rising in my heart... A grateful day is in front of me... carpe diem. |
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09-10-2016, 08:42 AM
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So today I'm going to remember all the good I have in my life, and how I kinda live pretty positive on my days off. I'm going to stay positive today if it kills me! It's hard for me to be around so many negative, toxic people at work and not get down, but today I'm going to give it a go. I woke up with really good vibes about this.........
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09-10-2016, 09:22 AM
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Practically Lives Here
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As I am always looking at the positive side of any given situation, I do stay positive.
I heard something said....be part of the solution, not part of the problem. So I don't view anything as a "problem" rather a solution! When one gives energy to anything negative, it will continue to have power to bring negative. So I choose to NOT give any power to anything negative & see it as a positive....confused yet...? lol
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09-10-2016, 11:03 AM
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Mentally Delicious
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Practicing some positivity today by listening to one of my favorite playlists on Spotify, dancing around the house, and working down my "to do" list!
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02-22-2017, 02:29 PM
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Mentally Delicious
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One of the things I have been doing over the past year when I'm feeling grumpy or having a "feeling sorry for myself" day is thinking back to where I was this time x amount of time ago.
Sometimes just looking at the present and saying, "But look how far you've come" or "think about how you felt this time last year" has been a super amazing lens for being grateful for the present. And lately? there's a LOT to be grateful for. <3
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02-23-2017, 07:24 PM
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Practically Lives Here
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Hitched up 
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I have been on (yet another ) spiritual journey and one of the things that has REALLY worked for me...
When you start to feel worry or anxiety, to IMMEDIATELY go into a place of gratitude. This shit works! |
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04-05-2017, 09:08 AM
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I'm learning not to take things for granted! I'm learning to appreciate what I have! I'm trying hard to be positive and look on the bright side of things. And you know something, it's not that hard. I really don't have to try hard.....
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04-05-2017, 05:22 PM
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Infamous Member
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femme *blows a kiss off my finger tips ** Preferred Pronoun?:
~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status:
~ single & content ~ 
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We tend to base our happiness on others. (relationships , family etc.) look in the mirror and fall in love with the person you see, feel, respect . Smile
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06-22-2017, 08:31 AM
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I woke up hearing the Bob Marley song "Every little thing is gonna be alright" playing in my head. I feel like a really big weight has been lifted off my chest and I can breathe! I'm positive and excited to begin my new journey now that I'm 48 and the new moon is starting. New moon, new beginnings. I've decided to go 100% vegetarian and eventually transition to vegan, I'm signed up for my yoga classes, Im going to start walking on the beach several times a week (already started, actually), and just slow down and live a more relaxed, slower paced life. Kinda like being on vacation at the beach? You move at a slower pace cuz you are living on island time, ya know? I can make this work in real life now that I will be working less.
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06-22-2017, 12:41 PM
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06-22-2017, 04:25 PM
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Practically Lives Here
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[QUOTE=cathexis;1150644]Works for me, but assuredly different than most people's idea of how to do it. Go to my Partner, drop my eyes, and get curled up in Her arms. Works wonders./QUOTE]
Hell, that would TOTALLY work for me too. i am very grateful for those arms, too. |
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07-01-2017, 10:16 AM
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Senior Member
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The universe has my back.....
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Superlative Soul Sister
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Moving in a single file and sometimes a sinner. 
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Talking to my ancestors. I have issues with God but I find comfort and peace when I “pray” or ask for guidance from members of my family who have passed on. I’ve done this for most of my adult life and it takes me from a bad place to a good one. Most conversations are with my mother, aunt, sister, grandmother. Occasionally, I’ll reach out to my father or uncles, but usually it’s the women I rely on.
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