Living Apart, Together (LAT) A Support Thread

Kätzchen · 04-09-2017, 11:01 AM

I definitely like having my own home, my own place. I don't ever foresee giving up my own residence. It's my quiet place where I can retreat from life and take care of me, in ways that add toward feeling good. Especially so, for me, because even though my children are young adults, I want to keep my family life separate from my romantic life. I just feel better when I've got my own place. I'm definitely the type of person who likes living alone, yet apart when dating or in an relationship (together) .

girl_dee · 08-16-2017, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Kätzchen

I definitely like having my own home, my own place. I don't ever foresee giving up my own residence. It's my quiet place where I can retreat from life and take care of me, in ways that add toward feeling good. Especially so, for me, because even though my children are young adults, I want to keep my family life separate from my romantic life. I just feel better when I've got my own place. I'm definitely the type of person who likes living alone, yet apart when dating or in an relationship (together) .

i totally relate and do this too! i LOVE my family but i don't want them in my personal relationships. And they can get their own friends!

Teddybear · 08-16-2017, 05:28 PM

In my last relationship we had talked about this and agreed that it could work for us. We laid the ground rules that we both AGREE upon.

It worked for awhile then of course life happened and things changed. I was willing to keep my end of the agreement however she was unable to handle the changes and I totally understand that.

When life throws us a curve sometimes it can be too overwhelming to ask someone to accept that the time you were giving them is now going to be limited. Not that it is what either of you want however you cant stop giving someone undivided attention. It isnt fair.

No matter how i feel about her she deserves more then i can give her now or in the near future. I pray that someone comes along and gives her everything she deserves and then some.

I think this will work best for me in the future if and when I am able to give any time to someone. First my circumstances must change

04-09-2017, 11:01 AM	#1
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, please. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow ツ Posts: 16,055 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,111 Thanked 33,514 Times in 10,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	I definitely like having my own home, my own place. I don't ever foresee giving up my own residence. It's my quiet place where I can retreat from life and take care of me, in ways that add toward feeling good. Especially so, for me, because even though my children are young adults, I want to keep my family life separate from my romantic life. I just feel better when I've got my own place. I'm definitely the type of person who likes living alone, yet apart when dating or in an relationship (together) . __________________ “In the end, it’s not about how much stuff you have, it’s about how many hearts you touched,” — Iva Ursano.

08-16-2017, 05:28 PM	#3
Teddybear Senior Member How Do You Identify?: by my name Preferred Pronoun?: He, him Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Here there everywhere. Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,620 Thanked 6,233 Times in 1,687 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	In my last relationship we had talked about this and agreed that it could work for us. We laid the ground rules that we both AGREE upon. It worked for awhile then of course life happened and things changed. I was willing to keep my end of the agreement however she was unable to handle the changes and I totally understand that. When life throws us a curve sometimes it can be too overwhelming to ask someone to accept that the time you were giving them is now going to be limited. Not that it is what either of you want however you cant stop giving someone undivided attention. It isnt fair. No matter how i feel about her she deserves more then i can give her now or in the near future. I pray that someone comes along and gives her everything she deserves and then some. I think this will work best for me in the future if and when I am able to give any time to someone. First my circumstances must change __________________ I am ME take me as I am or leave me be..