If the stone "melts," is it stone?

ClintB · 05-01-2017, 10:16 PM

I live breathless and Anya's posts... because both come from a place of respect. Wouldn't life be better if we could always love and respect our partner no matter if they change or stay the same?

That being said... I don't think there is anything wrong with knowing what you need, or even simply what you prefer. I hear some people in here express their interest in only stone lovers... and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. But with all things, the more rigid your requirements, the harder it is to meet someone that meets them. Some sexualities and preferences are rigid, some are not. I would just caution, if your partner changes in a way that you cannot accept, don't let your hurt and anger drive you to insult them for who they are.

cathexis · 05-02-2017, 12:47 AM

Live with a stone butch who on rare occasion melts, but like volcanic lava becomes solid again. In no way do I have any concerns about Her status as stone. She identifies as stone, I accept it without question. Her own self identification is all I need. I have no right to question anyone else's identification as I expect no one to question mine. She is who She says She is, and I am who I say I am.

Haven't we had enough of others saying who we should be? As a community, we have had "who we should be" forced on us way too long from outsiders. Do we really need to do it to ourselves?

Being truly genderqueer, I feel very strong about this issue.

StoicStone · 06-04-2017, 03:39 PM

I identify as stone butch, and I have always lived by my own rules, and set/upheld my own boundaries. I think that other's people's boundaries and whether or not they cross some boundary I might have is none of my business as long as they are not crossing it with me. I don't judge it.

Steele · 07-15-2017, 01:03 PM

Tbh I don't know if I'm stone or not. I dont like giving or receiving, and although I generally don't like being touched, I don't know if it's something I would like in a relationship or not.

I tend to just pin myself down as being asexual as I have no desire for sex in general.

Back on topic, nothing is ever set in stone (heh), it's up to the person who identifies as stone. Respect people's boundaries though, trying to get stones to melt is a shitty thing to do.

Tuff Stuff · 07-30-2017, 07:26 PM

My wife really gets turned on when I let her have her way with me...because she is the only one who can.

05-02-2017, 12:47 AM	#2
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,705 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Live with a stone butch who on rare occasion melts, but like volcanic lava becomes solid again. In no way do I have any concerns about Her status as stone. She identifies as stone, I accept it without question. Her own self identification is all I need. I have no right to question anyone else's identification as I expect no one to question mine. She is who She says She is, and I am who I say I am. Haven't we had enough of others saying who we should be? As a community, we have had "who we should be" forced on us way too long from outsiders. Do we really need to do it to ourselves? Being truly genderqueer, I feel very strong about this issue. __________________ Insurrection is an art, and like all arts has its own laws. -----Leon Trotsky

07-15-2017, 01:03 PM	#4
Steele Junior Member How Do You Identify?: confused butch Preferred Pronoun?: no preference Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2017 Location: canada Posts: 18 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7 Thanked 36 Times in 12 Posts Rep Power: 214757	Tbh I don't know if I'm stone or not. I dont like giving or receiving, and although I generally don't like being touched, I don't know if it's something I would like in a relationship or not. I tend to just pin myself down as being asexual as I have no desire for sex in general. Back on topic, nothing is ever set in stone (heh), it's up to the person who identifies as stone. Respect people's boundaries though, trying to get stones to melt is a shitty thing to do. __________________ *The world's done shaking me down*

07-30-2017, 07:26 PM	#5
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,315 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408454	She makes me melt! My wife really gets turned on when I let her have her way with me...because she is the only one who can.

05-01-2017, 10:16 PM	#1
ClintB Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, questioning Preferred Pronoun?: Interested in your opinion Relationship Status: Downtrodden Join Date: Apr 2017 Location: Traveler Posts: 68 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6 Thanked 255 Times in 65 Posts Rep Power: 2362244	I live breathless and Anya's posts... because both come from a place of respect. Wouldn't life be better if we could always love and respect our partner no matter if they change or stay the same? That being said... I don't think there is anything wrong with knowing what you need, or even simply what you prefer. I hear some people in here express their interest in only stone lovers... and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. But with all things, the more rigid your requirements, the harder it is to meet someone that meets them. Some sexualities and preferences are rigid, some are not. I would just caution, if your partner changes in a way that you cannot accept, don't let your hurt and anger drive you to insult them for who they are.

06-04-2017, 03:39 PM	#3
StoicStone Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch.............. Preferred Pronoun?: No preference............... Relationship Status: single............... Join Date: May 2017 Location: Washington.................. Posts: 35 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 135 Times in 31 Posts Rep Power: 445522	I identify as stone butch, and I have always lived by my own rules, and set/upheld my own boundaries. I think that other's people's boundaries and whether or not they cross some boundary I might have is none of my business as long as they are not crossing it with me. I don't judge it.