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Nope unless you consider my dog, who i think is my soulmate.
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Yes.
And that feeling of recognition when you look into their eyes or kiss them or just feel their presence. The thing where your soul sighs and says to itself, "Oh, I know you...and maybe I've known you in other lifetimes but I definitely know you". The feeling of all the gears sliding smoothly in time before the soft *click* where the intricate and sometimes jagged edges of one another find their perfect position. The most delicate and specific puzzle piece that has only one match. Yes, *that*.
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It might depend on the concept of soulmate, what you think or expect such kind of mate to be or feel like. I don't have a specific person in mind that I'd consider my soulmate but there are situations in everyday life where I feel connected to people and we understand each other without words or we can perfectly relate to each others toughts and feelings.
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I think so....the creator made us in pairs and your pair is out there..
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Still feel the same, NOPE, it's all mumbo jumbo junk in my opinion and it's how I feel.
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I didn't think that a lot of others felt the same LOL
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Yes reality is good to live in, fantasy is just that fantasy!
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For me, a soulmate does indeed exist.
She is right next to me every morning. Wouldn't have believed it before I met Her. Usually, before believing something, it must meet scientific reason. I am so glad She's in my life. It's not that we always agree with one another, but our spark is still there after 23 years in August. Arguing about topics is just another part of our dynamic. I have not had anyone (including both parents) who has been with me this long. It's not that we merely love each other, we are still in love. Last edited by cathexis; 06-12-2017 at 12:17 PM. Reason: clarification |
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Myself, though??? I don't know that, generally speaking about, an soul mate, as some people have described above, exists. I mean, there are people in my life that have known me for years and we know each other soooo well, that we already know what the other is thinking. Does it mean they're a soul mate? I don't think so. I think it's a clear case of people knowing each other so well that it's highly unlikely that anything they say or do, will take us by surprise. It's just that we know each other really well. I loved reading the post by Smiling, which spoke to Confirmation Bias. Right on, I totally get that concept and how it works. But, I also loved Ginger's idea about the idea that another person can love you and accept your flaws without contempt. I totally get the idea Medusa talks about, when all those tangible and intangible elements experienced by both parties and how they *click* into place. I just loved reading Venus007's process of understanding -- that ultimately love on progress is more like an work of art in progress, rather than divine intervention. I don't know that I specifically buy into the idea of some person who turns out to be my "soul mate." Here's what I think is more realistic, because we all have our own reality, as we learn and grow: I think that a loving relationship involves commitment, the ability to accept another for who they are and to commit to nurturing their romantic relationship in terms that will allow each party to know they are the number 1 priority in the other person's life. Prioritizing for ourselves and giving the one we're in an romantic relationship with is not single handedly done on own own. Commitment toward preserving the relationship over time is probably the best investment in mutual happiness that any couple could do, and it takes lots of energy, lots of willingness to work cooperatively over the span of your romantic involvement/relationship. I'm sure I've not said everything I could say or expressed all that is on my mind. Here's to romance, love and dreams that come true.
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This is one of my favorite topics. One that I've spent years contemplating and listening to various perspectives about. I think the conclusion of my opinion is that a) no, there is not one for every person, but there are soulmates out there for people who yearn for one and believe they are meant to have one and b) there are different types of soulmates.
It's all varied. Some people are happy remaining alone and don't believe there is anyone they were meant to be with. Some have a soulmate, but can never be with them, so settle for a life partnership or just being alone. And some find who they believe is a soulmate, know it without doubt, and stay with them forever. I believe the two types of people out there that end up staying together are either life partners or soulmates. I believe there are friend & family soulmates, which obviously stay platonic, and then there are the twin flames, which are one of the deepest most unique romantic bond. I have 4 brothers, and there is one who is like my twin. We have scary things in common and are unique from society and others in ways that are ridiculously not common. We talk about it all the time. I spent hours with one of my sister-friend soulmates on the beach this weekend, talking, playing in the sand and tearing up as we shared things & related in ways that are unique to us. We know that we, as we identify and as our hearts & souls are designed so similarly, are a rare breed and were definitely brought together by the universe to be in each others lives. We aren't just two women who met and got to know each other well. We are each Woman Type ABCDEFG, while most other women are just type A or B or C, etc. I have another sister-friend who is my soulmate in the same exact way. I couldn't make it through life without these beautiful angels who fit at my side like a jigsaw puzzle piece. I have also dated people before who I knew could probably be a decent life partnership, but where I knew there were pieces missing that didn't match up the way they do with a twin flame soulmate. We get along fine, sure there are some pretty average things in common, and the relationship would probably be overall pretty good and healthy and steady. A good team. Secure. A safe bet. I think a lot of people either settle for or prefer this type of partnership instead of waiting for or believing in a soulmate. And then there are twin flames. I have felt this type of connection. Where there is a fire in the heart and an anchor in the core of the soul. There are major and even small eerie ways we are a mirror reflection of each other ... ways that never matched with others and that you know never will again either. Those details, that are so aligned or the same that it's scary. For me, this is the person where we know each other inside and out, not just because we told each other, but because we are from the same mold and understand the best and most difficult things about each other without words explaining. There are no parts of ourselves we can even hide from the other. We will expose things about each other that we didn't want to ever face. We read each other's minds, have way too many scary coincidences and a super glue bond that, even if we can't be together or can't make a relationship work, will never be broken at the heart & soul level where it exists. I don't think a soulmate is cultivated with time and getting to know each other and building up to it. I think it's those connections that are instant, inevitable, unspoken, unwavering, happen whether you like it or not or were ready/looking for it or not, and are unforgettable once the impact is made. It is my twin flame soulmate who would receive my last phone call before I take my last breath. I read a lot and hear so many different things. How the life partnerships are always the better way to go because they will last & are more like a security blanket. How the soulmate relationships can be too intense and have too many problems and aren't really meant to last forever. How some people stay with their life partner, all the while harboring a soulmate bond with someone else they can't be with, until they die. One of my favorite couples, Lucy & Desi, for example. So yes, I do believe they exist (sometimes more than once). But no, not for everyone.
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I think it could be when you meet someone and in less than 20 minutes they turn you upside down inside ... and you can't figure out why or make sense of it until later.
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I am still watching my DVR of VICE News from today.
I was also reading this thread at the same time. On comes a piece about the Loving Supreme Court decision. 50 years ago today, the Supreme Court ruled in the decision of Richard and Mildred Loving. They said that if two consenting adults chose to marry, race should not be a factor in the decision to marry. There were excerpts from The Loving Story. Their lawyer said: "Mr. Loving told me to tell the court that I love my wife and it is unfair that I can't live with her in Virginia". VICE asked several interracial couples today, to talk about what that decision meant to them. One couple said: "We are not naive. I am not color-blind. It is not that black folks are not black folks and white folks are not white folks but this particular white folk is my soulmate and my best friend." It really resonated with me. When I first posted in this thread, in 2014, I was with my recent ex. I left that relationship because it was not good for me. Most of us have had heartbreak related to loves that did not work out. It is a very painful part of life. I still believe in love. I still believe that one can meet the person that feels like recognition in the deepest part of your soul, that you are meant to be together. Of course, the other may not feel the same way! That is always a risk. Soulmates. Yes, I do believe it is possible (or pretty darn close to that ideal).
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