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Old 05-27-2010, 07:08 AM   #1
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Weeee!

I can voucher for Diva's culinary talents. And she can bake a mean cookie too.

Red or white wine? House guests should never come empty-handed.
Whichever you two prefer... Neither I nor the lady drink wine. We can put away some cookies though!!!
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I am going to just put it out there..

1. Clean Kitchen
2. Clean Bathroom
3. I always peekie in the fridge to check the cleanliness.
4. Hand soaps
5. Dustless
6. A pet cat
7. Remote control fan haha
8. Art and photography are a big thing for me
9. big tubs
10. good company
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10 things that I would love to encounter while at femme's house



1. a clean bathroom
2.a clean well stocked kitchen...i am a chef and they always want me to cook
3.clean bedroom...with the bed made
4.a good collection of books
5.good background music
6.a dog
7.flat screen tv in the bedroom
8.a good bottle of wine from chile or argentina
9.plants that are actually alive and full
10.a nice place to sit outside
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Old 05-28-2010, 06:14 AM   #4
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Post And now back to your regular programming....

Apologies for the minor derailment. The discussion about he/she has been moved to the red zone.

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I almost fell over when I heard that Tipper and Al Gore were separating after 40 years of marriage. Wow. And to think that most of us would bend over backwards to make each other feel welcome just by talking online, meeting at bashes, parties, talking on the phone, and so on.

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Old 06-02-2010, 09:49 AM   #6
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I have been especially pleased to find a nice deep tub and lots of bath goodies readily at hand. I rather like cluttered when it feels comfy and well-stocked, but I am sort of a brambly hedge mouse like that.
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In no particular order, I would like:

Food that I will eat
Beverages that I will drink
A place to sit free of stuff and tacks and junk
If I am staying overnight, a comfortable place to lay my head
Boardgames and dice somewhere in the house
Electronic connection (cell service, internet, etc)
Good smelling things (whether it's flowers or cologne or whatever)
Good feeling things (I like textures)
Pets are nice, but certainly not required
Photo albums or something along that line (I want to see where you come from)
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Whichever you two prefer... Neither I nor the lady drink wine. We can put away some cookies though!!!
Juice it is, then!

Her chocolate chip cookies are off the chain (and I don't like many choc chip cookies)!!!
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Old 05-27-2010, 04:37 PM   #9
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I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

(and S/He is also a great book by Minnie Bruce Pratt.........a kick ass femme who has written some great stuff)
I'll bite.

When I am not referring to a specific person, I do use he because that's the majority rule in my life. The majority of people I've partnered with, and tend to partner with, prefer he or hy over she.

As you mentioned, using he as a pronoun for a butch woman is not appropriate. If I were partnered with a butch woman or was making specific reference to someone I know who identifies as a butch woman, I would make sure to address them accordingly, whether it be she, shy, zi, ze, or whatever feels right to them.



Vixen, I certainly hope that your post wasn't made just to stir the pot. I chose not to quote it when answering you because, even though I've never had to fight within this community for my identity to be acknowledged, I found it offensive. I can be pretty dull about what's going on in others' heads, so if I'm up in arms about this, I can only imagine how hurtful your words are to other members of our community.

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