top or dom/me, sub or bottom

*Anya* · 10-03-2017, 07:31 PM

I am not a sub and I am not a dominant (or a domme).

Sometimes I bottom and sometimes I top.

I enjoy both immensely.

It is never a "my turn" thing and I would not be very interested in sex being a "take turns" kind of interaction.

I totally enjoy the give and take, in a sensual, pleasuring, hot sex kind of way.

I absolutely love making love to a woman.

I guess that is my way of being a lesbian.

Identity is not a "one size fits all" kind of thing to me.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Deborah*

Bottom. I remember dating this woman who made love to me, then she said 'my turn' and I wasn't very interested. I'm really not very interested.

Deborah

cathexis · 10-04-2017, 02:15 AM

When starting in SM, I was Top and Top only until I met someone with true Alpha energy. I am now a very spoiled submissive masochist to my long term Dominant. Somewhat of a "pillow princess" or "do me queen" most of the time.

Outside of that D/s power exchange relationship, I am quite Dominant. My Dom and I came up with a term for it...Dominant masochist.

I rarely Top scenes at home anymore unless requested by my Dom. In play parties or dungeons, I always Top.

What can I say? Enjoy control, but also endorphins. Got to lose control to get those wonderful endorphins or the rare coveted subspace.

10-04-2017, 02:15 AM	#2
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,705 Times in 1,604 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	When starting in SM, I was Top and Top only until I met someone with true Alpha energy. I am now a very spoiled submissive masochist to my long term Dominant. Somewhat of a "pillow princess" or "do me queen" most of the time. Outside of that D/s power exchange relationship, I am quite Dominant. My Dom and I came up with a term for it...Dominant masochist. I rarely Top scenes at home anymore unless requested by my Dom. In play parties or dungeons, I always Top. What can I say? Enjoy control, but also endorphins. Got to lose control to get those wonderful endorphins or the rare coveted subspace.