Breaking The Stereotype!

Andrew, Jr. · 05-30-2010, 11:35 AM

How I break the ftm stereotypes:

*I tried to learn to ride a motorcycle and nearly took out my life, but those around me. However, I love motorcycles.

*I eat salads and lots of fruit.

*I love to get snail mail, packages, and flowers. OMG, flowers.

*I cry during movies. I am very emotional, & sensative.

*I love and adore angels.

*I am not aggressive. I love

aggressive queer femmes, but not those who claim the title of Daddy in life. Oh hell no.

*I don't have a man-cave. I have a work bench and tools.

*I love to dance close.

*I am a clothes horse.

*I love to dress up Dino.

*I love lavender. I planted a ton of it in my backyard, but it died.

*I hate snakes, spiders, grasshoppers, and insects. I cover them up with glasses, and let my neighbor free them outdoors or kill them or do whatever with them.

*I cannot read a map or follow directions. It is not in my DNA.

*I get a manicure after I use my hands to plant and work in my garden and get dirt and manure up under my nailbed.

*I love to go to a spa.

Arwen · 05-30-2010, 11:56 AM

I can pitch a tent in the dark.
I probably know how to tie more knots than most people who aren't still in Scouting.
I can and will (and have) alpha roll a 190# dog and win.
I can and will (and have) catch a snake in the wild.
I used to be able to lift up to a 120# dog.
I can saddle my own horse.
I like my steak slightly mooing.
I can confront people on their bullshit, behind-your-back crap.
I can own up to being dead wrong and apologize.
I can rock a flannel shirt.
When I go to the mall, I go in and get what I want and leave.
I can gut and clean my own fish as well as fry it up.
I can state my opinion and not roll over because it upsets someone else.

Rockinonahigh · 05-30-2010, 02:51 PM

Afternoon everyone,hope ur day is good.I thought I would add a fur mor goodies to the list.

I cry at sad movies,red nose and all.
Love to be out camping but will bring a camp cot and blowup mattress to sleep on cause my back couldnt take sleeping on the ground anymore
love roses but have a black thumb so I cant grow a weed if I tryed.
Often I wonder how I got to this stage of my life as well as I have,just lucky I gess.
I have raised orphan fur kids on a bottle, when they r really tiny keep them in my shirt pocket to stay warm...I get some strange looks when they start moveing around.
I always have loved misic but cant play a note or cary a tune in a bucket.
Many times I have often wondered how I come across to other ppl,good bad or otherwise.Not long ago I accidently met someone at a local resturant that I sorta know from an online site and there reaction was ...Your so and so with a straneg look on there face.Really this isnt the first time this has happen
Im an old softie but not any kind of push over,Id rather be a peace maker if possable.

Gayla · 05-30-2010, 06:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

*I am not aggressive. I love

aggressive queer femmes, but not those who claim the title of Daddy in life. Oh hell no.

I've read this several different times. I had to really think about if I wanted to say anything. I didn't really want this to be a discussion kind of thread but, I choose not to let this just pass by.

Andrew - I appreciate your participation in this thread but I don't understand this. The words above, in bold, not only go against the spirit of the thread but they go so far beyond "qualifying and justifying" to a level that I just find offensive. Personal preference is one thing, and I probably would have just let it go, but adding the "Oh hell no" part at the end just crossed a line for me.

My point in creating this thread was to try to counteract some of the "x is ok but y isn't" crap that many of us face almost everyday. In one quick comment you've managed to do exactly that - liking X is ok... but only if they're not Y. And you did it in a way that feels really unnecessary and just plain icky to me.

scootebaby · 05-30-2010, 06:10 PM

sometimes i stomp my foot if really frustrated or angry!

SuperFemme · 05-30-2010, 06:16 PM

one time? i farted and burped.
without using terms like "fluff" and "frog".

scootebaby · 05-30-2010, 06:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

one time? i farted and burped.
without using terms like "fluff" and "frog".

she said fluff and frog

SuperFemme · 05-30-2010, 06:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by scootebaby

she said fluff and frog

what? stop laughing.

princessbelle · 05-30-2010, 06:32 PM

I can't cook
I like camping
I like fishing
I could never be a "stay at home" person. I will always work, health provided.
I smoke
I have been known to cuss and I certainly can get right back with ya if ya dish it out.
I don't drink often, but when I do, I can slam tequilla like no body's bees wax.

scootebaby · 05-30-2010, 06:34 PM

omg you all hear that frog??????

BoDy*ShOt · 05-30-2010, 06:25 PM

i am a jeans (or cutoff shorts) & barefoot, flipflops, or sandals and tanktop kinda girl; i am NOT a housekeeper; i like putting stuff together (i don't like putting stuff together with someone though) and working on a car; i like paying; i like opening the door for someone; i like doing yardwork (but don't like gardening); i don't like wearing heels most days (though i lust after them LOL); i'm not a fan of pink; i loathe shopping; and i rarely paint my nails

Queerasfck · 05-30-2010, 06:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

I've read this several different times. I had to really think about if I wanted to say anything. I didn't really want this to be a discussion kind of thread but, I choose not to let this just pass by.

Andrew - I appreciate your participation in this thread but I don't understand this. The words above, in bold, not only go against the spirit of the thread but they go so far beyond "qualifying and justifying" to a level that I just find offensive. Personal preference is one thing, and I probably would have just let it go, but adding the "Oh hell no" part at the end just crossed a line for me.

My point in creating this thread was to try to counteract some of the "x is ok but y isn't" crap that many of us face almost everyday. In one quick comment you've managed to do exactly that - liking X is ok... but only if they're not Y. And you did it in a way that feels really unnecessary and just plain icky to me.

I am glad you brought this up. I don't see the point of putting down people when explaining how 'you break stereotypes'.

The_Lady_Snow · 05-30-2010, 07:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

I've read this several different times. I had to really think about if I wanted to say anything. I didn't really want this to be a discussion kind of thread but, I choose not to let this just pass by.

Andrew - I appreciate your participation in this thread but I don't understand this. The words above, in bold, not only go against the spirit of the thread but they go so far beyond "qualifying and justifying" to a level that I just find offensive. Personal preference is one thing, and I probably would have just let it go, but adding the "Oh hell no" part at the end just crossed a line for me.

My point in creating this thread was to try to counteract some of the "x is ok but y isn't" crap that many of us face almost everyday. In one quick comment you've managed to do exactly that - liking X is ok... but only if they're not Y. And you did it in a way that feels really unnecessary and just plain icky to me.

Thank you gayla for addressing this... I am a Daddy, a Femme Daddy, and well we kinda know that is a breaking of the stereoptype.

I am speaking for all the Femme Daddy's I know who would be offended..

It sucks when someone comes in and tries to put us down for who we are..

Just sayin

Daryn · 05-30-2010, 06:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

*I tried to learn to ride a motorcycle and nearly took out my life, but those around me. However, I love motorcycles.

Ugh. I am reminded of crashing my father's brand new bike into a brick wall (flipping stiff clutch and mouthy father) the week I was learning to ride many decades ago... I like fast cars much better thanks... no bruises and less chance of dying.

Andrew, Jr. · 05-30-2010, 07:11 PM

Gayla,

My apologies to you and anyone I offended. I tried to come back and erase it, but it was too late to do so.

Namaste,
Andrew

Daryn,

I was in Florida on vacation. My stepfather bought a brand new Harley. Now, he was about 6' tall and I am short 5'4". With that said, the bike was too big for me to even reach the ground with my foot. I have no clue as to how I managed not to kill myself or anyone else that day. I have some polaroids from that famous day. And the beautiful bike before I rode it. At the funeral of his ex-wife, I had so many folks come up to me and talk about that Harley, and that famous ride I took - lol.

Gayla · 05-30-2010, 07:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

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My apologies to you and anyone I offended. I tried to come back and erase it, but it was too late to do so.

My question is, why post it in the first place?

The_Lady_Snow · 05-30-2010, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

My question is, why post it in the first place?

*raises hand*

I can answer I can answer!!!!

UofMfan · 05-30-2010, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

My question is, why post it in the first place?

MODERATION:

Are you moderating this thread?

Andrew has apologized, can we go back to the spirit of the thread?

Thank you.

Gayla · 05-30-2010, 07:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UofMfan

MODERATION:

Are you moderating this thread?

Andrew has apologized, can we go back to the spirit of the thread?

Thank you.

Nope. I'm not moderating.

The whole point of the thread was to break the stereotypes without justification and qualification. I'm trying to understand why it's so hard for people to just say X without adding Y. I know why it's hard for me. I would like to know why it's hard for other people.

UofMfan · 05-30-2010, 07:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

Nope. I'm not moderating.

The whole point of the thread was to break the stereotypes without justification and qualification. I'm trying to understand why it's so hard for people to just say X without adding Y. I know why it's hard for me. I would like to know why it's hard for other people.

MODERATION:

Yes I know, you pointed that to me when I posted earlier.

What you just did had nothing to do with how you want to MANAGE your thread. That is very evident, so please don't even go there.

If you want to discuss my moderation I will be more than willing to do so via PM.

Thank you.

05-30-2010, 11:56 AM	#2
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BoDyShOt Member How Do You Identify?: Queer. Femme. Preferred Pronoun?: girl ones Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Twin Cities Posts: 1,020 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,460 Thanked 2,096 Times in 532 Posts Rep Power*: 21474853	i am a jeans (or cutoff shorts) & barefoot, flipflops, or sandals and tanktop kinda girl; i am NOT a housekeeper; i like putting stuff together (i don't like putting stuff together with someone though) and working on a car; i like paying; i like opening the door for someone; i like doing yardwork (but don't like gardening); i don't like wearing heels most days (though i lust after them LOL); i'm not a fan of pink; i loathe shopping; and i rarely paint my nails __________________ ...not your average betty.

05-30-2010, 11:35 AM	#1
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	How I break the ftm stereotypes: I tried to learn to ride a motorcycle and nearly took out my life, but those around me. However, I love motorcycles. I eat salads and lots of fruit. I love to get snail mail, packages, and flowers. OMG, flowers. I cry during movies. I am very emotional, & sensative. I love and adore angels. I am not aggressive. I love aggressive queer femmes, but not those who claim the title of Daddy in life. Oh hell no. I don't have a man-cave. I have a work bench and tools. I love to dance close. I am a clothes horse. I love to dress up Dino. I love lavender. I planted a ton of it in my backyard, but it died. I hate snakes, spiders, grasshoppers, and insects. I cover them up with glasses, and let my neighbor free them outdoors or kill them or do whatever with them. I cannot read a map or follow directions. It is not in my DNA. I get a manicure after I use my hands to plant and work in my garden and get dirt and manure up under my nailbed. *I love to go to a spa.

05-30-2010, 02:51 PM	#3
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Afternoon everyone,hope ur day is good.I thought I would add a fur mor goodies to the list. I cry at sad movies,red nose and all. Love to be out camping but will bring a camp cot and blowup mattress to sleep on cause my back couldnt take sleeping on the ground anymore love roses but have a black thumb so I cant grow a weed if I tryed. Often I wonder how I got to this stage of my life as well as I have,just lucky I gess. I have raised orphan fur kids on a bottle, when they r really tiny keep them in my shirt pocket to stay warm...I get some strange looks when they start moveing around. I always have loved misic but cant play a note or cary a tune in a bucket. Many times I have often wondered how I come across to other ppl,good bad or otherwise.Not long ago I accidently met someone at a local resturant that I sorta know from an online site and there reaction was ...Your so and so with a straneg look on there face.Really this isnt the first time this has happen Im an old softie but not any kind of push over,Id rather be a peace maker if possable.

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Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Gayla, My apologies to you and anyone I offended. I tried to come back and erase it, but it was too late to do so. Namaste, Andrew Daryn, I was in Florida on vacation. My stepfather bought a brand new Harley. Now, he was about 6' tall and I am short 5'4". With that said, the bike was too big for me to even reach the ground with my foot. I have no clue as to how I managed not to kill myself or anyone else that day. I have some polaroids from that famous day. And the beautiful bike before I rode it. At the funeral of his ex-wife, I had so many folks come up to me and talk about that Harley, and that famous ride I took - lol.