Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[Tucker]

I am an Orchid. I may seem delicate but I am stronger than most think.

[Zora77]

I know how to use a skillet and a power drill.

I am sweet and soft, and with 5’4”/120 pounds I have yet to meet a butch who can take me in a wrestling match.

I scream like a girl when see a spider and find alligators, snakes and rats quite interesting.

In tango I am a devoted follower and can lead almost every other dance.

I recently discovered that I like the way I look in a dress and I would not get caught dead in heels.

I want a daddy to protect me and rule my world and I call the shots in other aspects of my life - and am good at it.

I am a goat and a dragon.

I’m independent, loyal, caring, inquisitive, feisty, passionate and strong.

I’m a wickedly wonderful femme … and modest

[The_Lady_Snow]

I

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Daddy.....

[JustJo]

I am the femme still discovering myself...learning that the person I have always been is truly just fine...even with my many contradictions.

I am quiet and frequently shy...but laugh loud enough to be heard down the block, and am happy to talk on stage in front of hundreds.

I am analytical and intelligent...but scattered and sometimes struggle with the simplest things.

I am a doting and indulgent mother who puts my son's well-being first in all things. I am the almost-stepmom who looks forward to putting my partner's son in the same place in my life and heart.

I am loving, accomodating, taking care of those I care about.

I have infinite patience with the young, the old, the sick, and those who are doing their best....no matter how little that may be. I have no patience at all with stupidity, cruelty, hypocrisy, arrogance and posers.

I have an incredibly long fuse and am very slow to anger...the bomb at the end, however, is large. You don't want to let it get there.

I endure. Growing up in a narcissistic household I was taught that I did not matter, that my needs didn't count, and that my purpose was only to provide for others. I have learned that these are lies. That took time...and some difficult experiences. I had to sit at the bottom looking up to see the truth.

With most people, I trust quickly but not deeply. I truly trust two people on this earth...and am not related by blood to either of them.

I take people at face value and give them the benefit of the doubt...until they prove otherwise. Once someone shows me that I cannot trust them...then I am done. I have a long memory...for both kindness and cruelty.

I love peace, compromise, quiet and order.

I have a silly side...which I indulge. I turn 8 years old the minute I walk through the gates at DisneyWorld. I like that.

I love the beach more than any other place on the planet. I enjoy simple things...going for a drive, flea markets, going to the movies, bbq in the backyard.

I love to travel...and look forward to exploring more of the world with my partner.

I cook, bake, love polka dots and kitten heels...I am Betty Crocker with an MBA.

I am affectionate...I love to hug, kiss, dance barefoot in the kitchen.

I work hard, but not fast...and I achieve my goals. I am persistent. I am stubborn, opinionated, pushy and...if you read this far you already know...I'm wordy.

[tantalizingfemme]

FemMe

I am:
Long painted finger nails, manicured toes
Make-up every day, hair always done
Dresses and heels
Jewelry and hair clips
Hair product whore
Skin product aficionado
Feminine

I am:
Independent
Loving single mother for 16 years
Fierce protector
Soccer mom
Taxi cab
ATM machine
Maker of school lunches
Homework checker
Unpaid maid
Example

I am:
Loyal, hard-working employee
Bill payer
Homeowner
Repair person
Gardner
Wanna-be coupon queen

I am:
Lover of beautiful home decorating
Lacking of any ability or desire to decorate
Fashion conscious
Not a shopper
Careful with money
Prone to blowing a lot on a good haircut

I am:
A loving partner
Submissive
Domestic
A cook
Care taker
Stone

I am:
Loyal to those I love
Caring
Outspoken
Love unconditionally
Trusting
Trustworthy
Confident

I am:
Proud to be me

[Strappie]

The power of a Femme is simply amazing!

Ladies... all I can say is this thread is AMAZING! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and your soul.

[oblivia]

I am...

A little girl femme: Carefree and truly adoring of rainbows... butterflies... rainbows... pink... unicorns... and eating lucky charms for breakfast at work much to the dismay of my special-k and kashi-crunching coworkers.

A professional femme: A would-be workaholic intent on maintaining work-life balance and mostly succeeding, an office mouse and not a corporate climber. I'm most content in the guts of the business, working the business not watching it and have no interest in stepping into middle (or upper) management.

A pagan femme: My spiritual path lies mostly on the shores of Avalon with my like-minded Sisters but it also is on my Yoga mat and in dharma and meditation and a good old fashioned full moon circle.

A believer femme: I believe. I believe in people, I believe in the people I love. I believe in things that people tell me I shouldn't believe in - like Unicorns and fairies and dragons and true love. I'm not afraid to believe. I've been hurt like crazy for believing, and I will never stop.

A kinky femme: I am a submissive and a masochist but my masochism is never really just physical, there is always an emotional link or need or connection with the experience. I have had transformative experiences on the cross or over a bench or up on a rack and I continue to have transformative experiences every time I dive deeper into my submission and commitment to my Owner (who is also my Wife).

A shy femme: I'm an online socializer and am shy or timid (or ridiculously babbly and unfocused) in person. It's hard for me to make friends in person because I feel awkward and I trust people too easily and am too invested in their opinion of me. I am raw and real and this makes me vulnerable. But I am authentic and so the friendships I do make are genuine ones.

A romantic femme: I know I am a walking stereotype in some ways. I like to be the nurturer and the cook and the homemaker and the child-rearer and the white-picket fence gazer. I love old fashioned chivalry. I love romantic gestures. I'm that girl that swoons over hand picked daisies and a surprise picnic and thinks romance isn't about money but about heartfelt gestures that make me feel appreciated. I thrive on finding ways to let my one and only know how appreciated and adored she is as well, and this is part of the romantic thrill for me.

A mothering femme: Parenting is a part of my identity now, because it has - in so many ways - changed my outlook on life, my priorities, and my ability to deal with life and to accept responsibility for myself, my actions, and their consequences. Being a parent to these boys (young men now) has been and is one of the most rewarding things about my life.

A questioning, seeking femme: I'm always learning, growing, evolving and becoming. I fit best with others who are also on this path. Being on a growth path/journey in this life can be challenging... and it can be hard to make friends and then lose them as your paths go different directions or one moves on while the other has to stay a while. Growing hurts, but it's worth it.

A silly femme: no explanation required.

[blue33]

I just wanted to thank all of you sweet, passionate,intelligent femmes for opening your hearts and sharing what makes you the unique individuals you are! My heart beats strongly for all of you and I wish you the nothing but the best life has to offer, you deserve it and then some......cheers to all of you that make our warm butch hearts beat endlessly.....Thank you!

[Lady Pamela]

This is such an incredible thread..I had to bounce it so others who haven't seen it, will know it is here.

I just re-read every single one and I do believe I am standing a bit straighter with pride..lol

I think it is wonderful to see so many write here without hesitation and in honesty..thank you all.

[Strappie]

Originally Posted by Tucker

I am an Orchid. I may seem delicate but I am stronger than most think.

So you need much water?? *smirk*

[ButterflyKisses]

I am the femme who will create a five star meal yet light the dish towel on fire because I wasn't paying attention.

I am a lover not a fighter, but mess with someone I care about and I will take you OUT. Game Over. End of Story. No Sequel.

I am an insomniac.

I will take apart the toaster and anything else that catches my interest to see how it works.

I am an adreniline junky.

I am the Energizer Bunny.

I am lazy.

I am beautiful and fierce whether rocking a mini dress and stilettos or torn t-shirt and sweats.

If you carry my bags, it's because I let you.

I am the angel you see on the street in a pink sundress and the devil tied the bed at night.

I wear my heart on my sleeve. No matter how hard I try to pry it loose and return it to the safety of my chest, it will not budge.

I am a safe harbor.

I am a hurricane.

I've been to hell, yet still managed to keep my rose-colored glasses.

I am stronger than I look. Though not as strong as I act.

Trouble happens when I get bored.

I am smart and self-educated.

I am a walking bundle of contradictions.

[BarbaraRyan]

I joined after the last post, so I hope it's okay that I add my self-description.

As far as labeling my sexuality, I use the terms Femme and Lipstick Lesbian. I like them both because they are complex and express two aspects of me - my femininity and my love of women.

I am very feminine in appearance - I wear make-up and love red lips. I currently have short hair, but wear it in a gamine style. (An ode to Audrey). I prefer wearing skirts and tops, but like dresses that flatter my hourglass figure. I wouldn't say I am modest, but I don't wear revealing clothes. But I wear loose t-shirts pants and boxers when cleaning or gardening.

I like Victorian Lesbian fiction and vintage erotic photos, along with reading Anne Rice and Jane Austen. I drink tea and collect tea pots/tea for one sets. I love vintage hats, clothing, and jewelry. I like lots of pillows on the bed and fluffy comforters where I snuggle with my cats while listening to Sarah Brightman, Sarah McLachlan, Dido, and Nora Jones. I watch British comedies, Bones, the L Word, and Arrested Development. I enjoy musical and try to see them when I can. My favorite is The Phantom of the Opera.

I am really spiritual. I pray to the Goddess and meditate - a lot. I study Her many different guises - such as Mother Mary, Medusa, Athena, and Tara. I don't worship a male deity. I'm a witchy woman with Native Guides and have an affinity to Shamanism and Native Culture. I'm a Reiki healer, tarot reader, and truth teller. I read the stories of the Goddess and watch Pushing Daisies, Moonlight, Buffy, Charmed, Bewitched, and Xena.

I collect crystals and study their uses and properties. I love plants and flowers and have several gardens. I hope to be a Certified Master Gardener one day. I like cooking vegetarian and vegan and have a number of cookbooks. I study herbalism and make herbal medicines. My favorite herbs and flowers are in the mint family and include roses, mints, and lavender. I am a ginger addict! I have several chronic illnesses and blog about living with them.

I love learning and constantly read. I have degrees in PR and Writing Arts. I have worked as a Freelance Writer and in Acquisitions for a Bookseller. I'm interested in Law and plan to go back to school to get my Paralegal Certificate. I enjoy classical studies and want to see the new Cleopatra exhibit at the Franklin Institute.

I also have a tomboy side. I enjoy watching Professional Wrestling and still attend live events. I've been to Wrestlemania. I love old NWA, Attitude Era WWE, and ECW. The ECW Arena in South Philly is one of my favorite places. I like Owen Hart, Shawn Michaels, Chyna, John Morrison, Awesome Kong, Tommy Dreamer, Chris Benoit, and RVD. I collect wrestling DVD's and have a nice little collection. I also love horror. I'm a huge Clive Barker fan and love his Books of Blood. I enjoy Friday the 13th the Series, Dexter, Saw, Hellraiser, Nightmare on Elm Street, Dead Silence, and the Evil Dead. I even have a blog dedicated to examining the horror genre.

Sorry if that's a bit long. Something I like about this thread - is that everyone her has defined herself and has taken the time to look within honestly. It's important, along with not letting others define who or what we are. When we do it, we give away a bit of our power.

[Lady_Wu]

I am femme. Strong in my weakest places. Strong enough take care of myself. Strong enough to relinquish control.
I am femme to your Butch. An old-fashioned, dress-wearing, 50s femme. I am proud to be seen on your arm in a world that does not know who or what we are. I am the one who hears you cry when your family/your job/your world rejects you for being who you are. I am the one who knows your fierce determination not to let them break you. I one who walks with you past the stares of the people who would like to knock you down. I am the one who walks into the lesbian bar, you in your Butch attire made more obvious by my feminine dress. I am your partner in the Dance.
I am femme who would kill for my femme friends. We have been there for each other in the gentle rain of the good times and the thunderstorms of the bad. We have cried on each others' shoulders, laughed at each others' stories, talked for hours on the phone. We have seen each other through the mind-bending of initial love and the heartbreak of its ending. We are the ones we turn to in our joy and our hurt. Who else but a femme really knows me!
I am femme. I amable to live happily alone yet run happily into your arms when you get home. I can open my own doors, carry my own groceries, and unclog my own sink. I can also let you do those things for me! I can ward off the creep next door who leers at me each time we pass. I can let you run him off for me. I can run my own life with ease. I can give over that control to you.
I am femme. I have looks to kill with an attitude to match. I have my own sense of style, with dresses past my calf, librarian glasses, and funky little flat shoes. I can walk past you in a bookstore (my natural habitat) and make you look once, twice, then you're following me around the store. I can be found in the GLBT section looking for that odd Butch/femme title or in the Philosophy section with my nose in the book of an obscure Chinese Author. I can accidentally drop my books at your feet and have you pick then up and shyly ask me to join you for coffee. I know that you know that was no accident.
I am femme. I can shop for hours with a femme friend for just the right purse. I can lecture a class on Early Greek Skepticism. I can simplify my life til I own very little. I can cook a vegetarian jambalaya and buttermilk pie dinner that has those cooked for coming back for thirds. I can make the perfect cup of coffee.
I am all of these things and infinitely more. I am a lady, after all. And a lady is so much more than than mere words can convey. And has so many more talents than words can tell. I am femme.
Lady_Wu

[imperfect_cupcake]

at this moment I am short-nailed (can't be arsed with the gloves and cotton wool any more), ripped men's ribbed undershirt, black jogging pants.

I wear make up spectacularly and artistically (usually deep end glam) when I feel like wearing it. 5 days a week I have a scrubbed and lotioned face and spikey, short, bleached hair with very long lashes.

I love cosmetics but in a pallet/paint way - it's joyful art.

I wither with no real backwoods camping. England makes me very spirit sad this way.
I love all animals and the spiders in my flat are honoured pets.

I love cooking, especially with my partner.

I love to create. boxes, collages, painting, make up, cooking... building things makes me feel purposeful and skilled and I want to get back into furniture making. I also love beading and stitch-work.

I am loud laughing, swearing, confrontational, vunerable, independant, co-operatively dependant with my partner and very happy about it.

I am quiet, inverted and overly stressed

I like dinner parties and when I can pull it off, the rare dance all night and go out for breckfast before going home.

I love living in big cities but need a regular escape route to the trees and the lakes and skinny dipping.

cats are my happiness and can't wait till we can finally get two. It's been very empty with them.

I am exploratory and science orientated. I am continually learning. I love certain frames of specific religions though and like picking and choosing of things I want to bring into my own special kind of... lack of word for what I am.

I am devoutly feminist. I owe them everything I can do/am. I will continue their work.

[Lady_Wu]

I am still the femme I described. Let me be more specific now.
I am short-haired, like a bikkhuni and studying to be a Roshi and Taoist priest. My nails are long and I wear dresses but little make-up. A little lipstick and nail-polish for special occasions. Perfume everyday, though. I have 3 scents I wear: Romance, Green Tea, and Inner Realm.
I live more like a Taoist monk than anything else. I take care of the sick, clean house and prepare meals like a good Chinese taitai. I study when I have time. But the above leaves me little time.
I am not as healthy as I used to be. MS and other illnesses have taken their toll. My spirit is still strong. I will have pain. Pain will NOT have me.
I would love to be pampered and have someone take care of me. That is not my lot in life right now, though I have hopes that one day that could change. Right now I just want a peaceful home. I would also like a few friends. I have accepted that that is just not possible here. Meeting people is impossible in a town that has no gay community: no bar, though that is not my scene; no bookstores, and no cafes or coffee houses.
I love these mountains but the people in WV are unlike any I've ever known. Unless you are from here, you basically do not have any way to be known. No-one speaks to each other in the grocery, unless it is to talk to others related to them. Sigh. I'm used to exchanging recipes with strangers in the vegetable section. And having no-one be a stranger. Then again, I come from the deep South. The cold is killing me as well. Again, it is gorgeous but hard to maneuver in.
So I live the life of a Taoist monk, trying to do good and study. I have my dreams still but have found that happiness comes in small doses. Contentment is the best I hope for.
Lady_Wu, Taoist monk femme