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12-29-2017, 07:32 PM
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I'm talking about instances where it's known that I'm a lesbian. People I ended up with, but always had to make the first move, or relay that I was attracted to them first, etc. It was clear in these instances that there was chemistry between us. I asked my last gf when she would have asked me out...and she said maybe after knowing me for a year, lol. She was intimidated by me. I think Clyde is absolutely correct about being socialized as females, and I get that. I guess my take is that somebody has to get things moving...I just wish for somebody else to be the initiator once. I think I will just embrace my identity as an intrepid femme. |
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12-29-2017, 07:39 PM
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Oh so you meant you were somewhere, like a lesbian function, and nobody approached you??????
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12-29-2017, 07:49 PM
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And finally, after a few meetings, I broach the topic of finding the other person attractive, and do they feel the same way about me? When it's pretty obvious that we had chemistry. |
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12-29-2017, 07:48 PM
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Oh...well... in this instance... lol
No one likes to get shot down ... aka rejected... so perhaps the butches you've encountered are of a more cautious nature and would like feel more assured of what they think is happening. Or... perhaps... they're just a lil more patient.  I say... whatever works!  Quote:
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12-29-2017, 07:50 PM
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12-29-2017, 08:17 PM
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I'm so glad!
 Two other thoughts come to mind... very likely unrelated but ... you know I still must share!  If I find that I'm then one who's initiating the interactions ... twice... even if she responds favourably... then I take that to mean that she's not interested in interacting even on a friendly level. I respect that message and take my leave. My point being... is that interaction should be initiated on both sides. Second thought...  In this day and age... with all the kooks out there ... particularly online... perhaps the most courteous thing a butch could do is let the femme dictate the level and manner of contact she's comfortable with... and ... to let her dictate it when she's good and ready to do so! Quote:
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12-29-2017, 10:15 PM
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I don't believe in game playing, I am always up front. I guess I am the direct one, and will continue in this manner. No matter how much I wish some butch would come along and say the same thing to me. Just once! It's cool, I guess I'm the driver. |
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12-29-2017, 10:20 PM
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Perhaps I'm a butchy femme? LOL!!!
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12-29-2017, 11:19 PM
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Nothing wrong with this either!
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12-30-2017, 12:21 AM
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If its obvious that you're a lesbian then I would make conversation. However in my past experiences my exs always initiated the romances. I honestly have no clue how to initiate much for fear of rejection.
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